Friday, 17 January 2014

Effective Communication

Part of being in a healthy relationship is engaging in good communication. By relationship here I do not mean sexual affair and all, friendship however distant is also a form of relationship. I didn't see this post coming but as I sat down this afternoon and took stock of my life, it dawned on me I hardly communicate the way I used to, well, communication is a two way traffic you know. One person cannot keep doing the whole checking up all the time so I just googled communication tips and I got useful tips.
Effective communication helps us better understand a person or situation and enables us to resolve differences, build trust and respect, and create environments where creative ideas, problem solving, affection and caring can flourish. Within 5 minutes of meeting a new person and chatting, I can give an idea of who you are and the ideals you represent. I remember lately I met a dude on twitter, good diction, good looks and all, since I had time to spare, we started chatting on bbm and given the kinda respect I had in my mind's image for him, I was keeping my cool when he was always talking about my endowments; but it got to a head when dude started going all sexual and started sending me nudes *sigh* from the lil moments of communication we had, I could understand his type of person. You get my drift?
Also, effective communication is about more than just exchanging information, it is about understanding the emotion behind the information since the goal of effective communication is to find a healthy balance between your intellect and your emotions, between thinking and feeling. It enables you to communicate even negative or difficult messages without creating conflict or destroying trust. Effective communication combines a set of skills including non verbal communication, attentive listening, the ability to manage stress in the moment and the capacity to recognize and understand your own emotions and those of the person you're communicating with.
While effective communication is a learned skill, it is more effective when its spontaneous rather than formulatic. If there's one thing I hate, its stereotyped kinda communication, esp on bbm. Eg: you: gm me: g (I hate it when people type gm, if you can't spell fully, expect same or no reply self) you: how was your night me: fine you: have you eaten me: no (you wan gimme food) you: what are you doing me: nothing (urrrgh! Stupid question) and you do this same every day! When such people ping me or try to communicate, its more like a zombie chat because the questions are already programmed. Try to spice up the conversation, that way either party doesn't get bored. I hope I've been able to impact a life out there, I shall continue tomorrow.


  1. I thought I was the only one that disliked those kinda 'zombie' chats; xup, hey, hi, gm..etc
    You don't have to be a talkative to have a good/well meaning conversation with someone

  2. Thank you my dear, i have over 50 bbm contacts and i only talk to highest 5 or 6. Now it has even narrowed to 2. Cus the ret decided to from for me and as a confrim igbo girl i will not beg you to be my friend. Men i hate those chats and its especially Nigerian girls dat does dat rubbish. I hate accepting their request because they all chat the same way. Unless you are a fine boy toasting them and lying to them they r fine then they chat well.

    1. Spot on babe! Infact I Don't bother replyiNg again! Who has such time?