Saturday, 11 January 2014

Stage three

Hitting the first rough patch

20. Develop binocular vision: the ability to see his perspective plus your own. Try to appreciate his point of view and he'll be more likely to appreciate yours.
21. Couch on a complaint between compliments: "you're a great schmooser, but I'd like a call if you'll miss dinner because of client drinks. I love our evening time together, and I want to know when it will start."
22. Get him to act by using humour. Point out a pile of wet towels by joking "nothing like coming home to the sweet smell of mildew."
23. Know this: over time, a guy's attitudes, opinions, beliefs, politics and views towards money could be fluid. What probably won't change: his values, stance on onogamy and religious befiefs.
24. Speak about your specifics - birthday presents you'd like, a restaurant you want to go to. Men don't pick up on subtle clues.
25. If you find out something bad about his past, like he cheated on an ex, ask why he did it and what he learned. If he is contrite and has vowed to chhange, chances are, he won't do it again.
26. When he seems overwhelmed during an arguement, take a 20- minute breal. Mens bodies easily flood with stress hormones, triggering an instinct to fell.
27. Watch your mouth in moments of anger. Cruel or contemptuous comments are oftenforgiven but not forgotten.
28. Don't criticise his attempts to say sorry. Men apologise through activity, so although you may not hear the word, you'll see it when he takes you to dinner or gives you a massage after a fight.


  1. I have a learnt some cool tips on relationships already. Nice post. Keep it up!