Sunday, 16 March 2014

Heart to Heart

The issue I want to write about is one that has been on my mind since I became a teenager. Africans generally see sex as something sinful, something responsible children should not talk about yet all of us are products of sex, except your mama na virgin Mary oh.
We all know the primal need of most men is the need to ejaculate, the little kids we think are innocent are trying skills not even listed in kama sutra yet we don’t like to talk about sex oh! Most of us have lots of porn magazines and CDs stashed away in our secret hideout yet we like to pretend.
Seriously sometimes I wonder and imagine how those pastors make out *covers face* I try to imagine the look on their faces when they are in the throes of orgasm *runs away*
Back to the matter, what is really bugging me is marrying as a virgin and relationship and sex. I’d rather this post is interactive so I will not bore you with long stories. One thing I know is the fact that my cherry has been popped doesn’t mean I am a whore and the fact that I am still a virgin doesn’t mean I am holy.
Why do guys like to harp on the “if you love me why not have sex with me line?” after all the ladies of the red light district have sex with different men without emotions attached so why use sex as a wager sort of?
Enough of me, any big deal marrying a virgin? Is sex essential to the growth of a relationship? Make we relate oh………………………………………..

23 comments:

  1. Facts about me/My opinions are:
    1) I can't marry/date a virgin
    2) Sex is not a priority in a relationship but its necessary.
    3) If she says she doesn't wanna have sex, I won't force or pressurise her.
    4) Tryna be celibate ATM
    5) I don't understand how and why peeps watch porn tho.
    6) If u sex her good, she will find it difficult to quit. So in essence, sex is important in d growth of a relationship.
























































    @iMannie_

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    1. Well, the porn lovers sure have a plausible explanation for their actioNs; if nobody wants to marry the virgins who will now marry them? SeX her good? Nsogbu adiro nwanne nwoke,

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    2. Maybe angels will marry the virgins :-8
      Errrr yea! Good sex.












      @iMannie_

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    3. Hmmmm. But there's more to a relationship than sex

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    4. @amaka most ladies go into relationships for money which in turn makes the guys demand for sex. Don't misunderstand me, I'm not in support of premarital sex or making sex a priority in a relationship but how many ladies want a relationship if not for the benefits?
      Its almost a year I had a relationship because the last I had was not clearly defined and it was based on benefits which was a setback in my career. So in essence, I think its a cycle that has eaten deep into this present generation.














      @iMannie_

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    5. The truth is you are right kind of but it applies to both parties, besides I've been in relationships where I didn't ask for a dime and all the dude wanted was sex too. In the end, I believe we should define what we are going into because relationship these days could mean several things from friends with bbenefits to sex mates to being in an open relationship and so on

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  2. Hahahahahahahahahaha! This topic tho.







    @iMannie_

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  3. To be honest with you, I really wish I had an answer

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  4. To me? no its not. I broke up with my ex cus of this same ish, and funny enough he used that same lame line at me. We all have our difference believes and to me i would never fornicate. Before i date you i will tell you from day one, am not doing ohh so if you cant handle that den break up now its not yet too late, cus heaven knows i will drop your ass faster than usian bolt can run if you try any rubbish with me later on. Its as simple as that to me, am not holy but i try mt best not to sin, and yes fornication is a sin no matter any angle you look at it.

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    1. Very lame lines nma! Infact its the same reason I've decided not to date oh, its like the thoughts on all these guys mind is sex, sex, sex. For me it starts with asking for my nude or seX chat, omo, na control D oh! No time

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    2. @amaka block/ban any guy who asks for nudes. Its silly and disrespectful. Moreover these days, same guys end up posting these nudes on the internet. #Bless










      @iMannie

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    3. Mannie, that's what I do. I don't respect any guy that askes for nudes oh

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  5. I grew up with this mentality that 'woman yansh, nothing dey inside' guys who use that lines, are confused guys. I can date anybody without even a kiss, all I need is a relationship where I can talk to Her, tell Her whats bothering Me, exchange ideas, solve problems n move on. A relationship where morality is high n sex is that last n short topic. Come on! Relationship is a platform to share ideas n solve issues not a platform for sex.
    For Me I think sex should come last or possibly not come @all


    Jay_Ricki

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    1. I think people should know there is more to a relationship than sex! Spot on Jay

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  6. I grew up with this mentality that 'woman yansh, nothing dey inside' guys who use that lines, are confused guys. I can date anybody without even a kiss, all I need is a relationship where I can talk to Her, tell Her whats bothering Me, exchange ideas, solve problems n move on. A relationship where morality is high n sex is that last n short topic. Come on! Relationship is a platform to share ideas n solve issues not a platform for sex.
    For Me I think sex should come last or possibly not come @all


    Jay_Ricki

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  7. I don't see sex as essential to growth of a relationship, as a matter of fact sex kinda clouds ones judgement of your partner, if the sex is good, you won't worry about other things which is not good for a long term relationship

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  8. This camp did not make me join this topic on time. Sex is a necessary evil but should never be a priority. I've almost never had a sexless relationship cos once you taste from the fountain of youth, the thirst never stops but i've desisted from a girl i wanted to ask out when any convo with her is always directed towards how good i am in bed. I knew she was just looking for an F mate. Truth be told, almost every guy wanna marry a Virgin. So if u r one, keep it plsssssssssssssssssss.

    Signs to know if u are a sex addict: www.maturemindstalk.blogspot.com

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    1. You are very right! Once you start its hard to stop; it keeps creeping into your imaginations and by hook or crook, you'll try to satisfy that urge. Guys want to arry virgins who will now marry the non virgins? How is camp btw?

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