Saturday, 28 June 2014

Apology

Good evening my dearest and sweetest readers. Hope your weekend is coming up as planned? Well, I wish I could say same but yesterday I woke up with a sore throat and sore joints too, I managed to go to work and put up a straight face; you see, I have low threshold for pain but I hardly complain except I can't bear it no more. I took some drugs and felt better, but today it took a new dimension oh!
Well, am sorry I might be MIA for a while but trust me I shall be back sooner than expected.
Y'all should remember me in your prayers! Am not a sickler so am wondering why I fall ill every now and then.
Remember I love you! Don't miss me too much. Mwah

Friday, 27 June 2014

Lyrics of the day

TITLE: COME ALONG
ARTISTE: TITIYO

Play with it while you have hands
Dust settles, cities turn to sand

Trespassing this is their lands
Time flies, make a statement, take a stand

CHORUS: come along now come along with me
Come along now come along and you'll see
What it's like to be free

Come along and I'll ease your pains
Come along, come along with me
And let's seize this day
Come along come along with me

Stay out, stay clear but stay close
Friends, foes God only knows
Let's be the thorn on the rose
Time flies, make a statement
Strike a pose,
come along and let's sieze this day

etc

Emotions

THE SEVEN MAJOR POSITIVE EMOTIONS
The emotion of desire
The emotion of faith
The emotion of love
The emotion of sex
The emotion of enthusiasm
The emotion of romance
The emotion of hope

THE SEVEN MAJOR NEGATIVE EMOTIONS
The emotion of fear
The emotion of jealousy
The emotion of hatred
The emotion of revenge
The emotion of greed
The emotion Of superstition
The emotion of anger

Thursday, 26 June 2014

Lyrics of the day

TITLE: COUNT ON ME
ARTISTE: BRUNO MARS.

If you ever find yourself stuck in the middle of the sea
I'll sell the world to find you
If you ever find yourself lost in the dark and you can't see
I'll be the light to guide you

CHORUS: we find out what we're made of
When we are called to help our friends in need
You can count on me like 1,2,3 I'll be there
And I know when I need you I can count on you like 4,3,2 you'll be there
Cos that's what friends are supposed to do oh yeah

If you're tossing and turning and just can't fall asleep
I'll sing a song beside you
And if you ever forget how much you mean to me
Everyday I will remind you

CHORUS
You'll always have my shoulder to cry on
I'll never let go never say goodbye
Chorus till fade

Magun (thunderbolt)

Magun is a yoruba term for "don't climb". It is an invisible sign that tells not to have sexual relations with a woman. In Nigeria, particularly yoruba land, a woman laced with magun that indulges in adultery will die alongside her cheating partner and the death is usually a shameful one.
You might be wondering why am writing on this topic today but the truth is I am as curious about it as you are! Yes, in Africa, we are superstitious, we have voodoo, blah blah blah but is magun a myth foisted on us by nollywood? Why is it that it is only women that are laced with magun and not men? Does it mean that men have the right to cheat while women should remain docile and respecting?
Oh well if magun is real, I like the fact that it deters women from cheating but can there be a magun for men too?
The part I dont like about magun is that it has an incubation period and whether the woman cheats or not, she'll die eventually. Well maybe someday science would be able to explain this magun claims.

Wednesday, 25 June 2014

Lyrics of the day

TITLE: QUE SERA SERA
ARTISTE: DORIS DAY

When I was just a little girl
I asked my mother what will I be
Will I be pretty, will I be rich
Here's what she said to me

CHORUS: que sera sera
Whatever will be will be
The future's not ours to see
Que sera sera

When I was young, I fell in love
I asked my sweetheart what lies ahead
Will we have rainbows day after day
Here's what my sweetheart said

CHORUS

Now I have children of my own
They ask their mother what will I be
Will I be handsome, will I be rich
I tell them tenderly

Que sera sera etc

What will I do with my life?

As a kid, I didn't worry about the future, but as I got closer to graduating from college, I realized I was going into the real world with real jobs and real bills; am there now and it's not been easy really as am there now and just like TY Bello said, the future is not a time zone yet to be discovered but the future is everything we can become but have not yet become, the future is everything we can do but have not yet done and the future is now!
In planning your future, you have a wide variety of options you sort through with goals. A goal is like a target destination. You don't reach it by wandering about aimlessly. It's better to plot your course.
Wise choices will be easier to make if you first know where you are headed and you can do this by customizing your goals. You can divide them into short term goals, middle term goals and long term goals.
Short term goals are things we want to do soon. It can help you make big changes. This short term goals is something you want to do in the near future and the near future can mean today, this week,.this month or even this year. Short term goals can make you manage your time. They might seem small but completely them can lead to big accomplishments in life.
Middle term goals are Achievements that you would like to achieve in a short period of time mostly less than five years.
Long term goals are things you want to achieve in future. It requires time and planning. Long term goals are usually at least several years away.

Check back in six months and see how you've done in reaching your goals. You could adjust or add to them as needed.
Now am no longer afraid of the storms of uncertainty as I have learnt to sail my ship.

Tuesday, 24 June 2014

Risk

To drive a car is to risk having a wreck
To apply for a job is to risk not being hired
To try out for a play is to risk not getting the part
To enter college is to risk flunking out
To smile is to risk that no one will smile back
To love is to risk rejection and hurt
To speak is to risk that no one will listen
To hope is to risk despair
To dream is to risk appearing the fool
To climb is to risk falling back down

Monday, 23 June 2014

What if she's a retired runs girl?

Yesterday I was in the kitchen frying plantain and it was taking too long so I decided to dash to the sitting room to watch a yoruba movie and the scene I met was that of a guy proposing to a lady, well let me not bore you with the long story but the summary is that the lady the guy had intentions of marrying is a retired olosho (whore aka runs girl).
So I said I was going to ask my lovely readers, guys, what if you discover the girl you fell head over heels in love with is a former prostitute? Will you call the relationship off without considering the time and maybe money involved in the relationship? What if you have proposed to her? Will you collect your ring back?
Girls, what if the babe your brother has brought home to mama falls in this category? How will you handle it?
I'll go first. If I discover the girl my brother is in love with or has proposed to is in this category, I'll honestly stay out of it. You know what they say that three is a crowd? Except I catch her in the act, I'd turn a deaf ear to the information at my disposal afterall most of us have dark secrets or pasts we don't want the public to know and besides love covereth a multitude of sins yeah?
Let's talk

Sunday, 22 June 2014

Jealousy and friendship.

Jealousy has the power to ruin a friendship if it is not kept in check. Even the best of friends can get jealous of each other at times if they are both going after similar things in life.
You have to realize that you are two separate individuals who will each make his/her own way even if you have the same goals in mind. Allowing jealousy to seep too far into your mind and heart will only rob you of happiness.
Most times, when we feel jealous, self esteem is involved. A poor self esteem is the chief cause of jealousy. Check it.
Instead of getting jealous of your friend’s achievements, why not use it as an inspiration to having a better life?
From time to time, we need to step outside and cheer other people up. Even if you feel a pang of jealousy don’t allow it to linger for two long.
Have you ever had problems of jealousy in your friendship? How did you handle it?

Happy birthday yours truly!!

Yeah yeah, am super excited!! My good friend of www.yourstrulyblogposts.blogspot.com is a year older today *drums roll*
Although she is semi anonymous, she's one of the blogger friends I have that I admire. Obim as you are starting another year today, I pray the good Lord to order your steps, you shall be a blessing to your generation, you shall be the head and not the tail, all your heart desires the Lord shall grant. You're that friend that everyone wants to have, you're a complete woman! You have always been a source of inspiration to me! You radiate happiness and good will on every blog you visit. Babes, I see a new hope, a new dream, a new you riding onto a new testimony!!
Happy birthday love, have fun.

Saturday, 21 June 2014

Make up fair

Hello lovelies, firstly let me apologize for my late post. I've been on the road since morning. From Oyo to a make up fair. Secondly, my laptop is away for now and I can't find my modem ; I don't even remember where I threw it and I've searched every where.
Ok so I attended a make up fair today and I bought somethings. Sorry I can't share pictures as my phone is acting.
1. Zaron cream 2 powder. CZ40
2. Zaron mattifying powder ZZ40
3. Zaron eye liner pencil in green and blue
4. Dark and lovely scalp soother
5. Maybelline mascara and kajal
6. Forever living hand sanitizer

I also got to meet my fellow blogger of www.mylifeasmoby.blogspot.com. She's such a sweet darling! Very free spirited too.

Well I missed you guys and I'll try to keep blogging regularly laptop or no laptop. Mwah

Friday, 20 June 2014

Uses of mayonnaise

1. Prevents lice: apply a little mayo to your hair and comb it through. Rinse well. It will leave an oil on the hair that lice will not want to stick to
2. Remove price tags: use a small amount of mayo on a soft cloth and wipe over the tag. Soon it will loosen and you will be able to peel it off completely
3. Lessen the pains of burns
4. Clean light switches and fridge: dirt and smudge accumulate from too much touching. Apply some mayo and wipe away with a clean cloth
5. Treat your cuticle: apply a dab to your cuticles, massage in and rinse
6. Wipe away crayon marks: scrub with mayo and sponge
7. Heal flaky heels: apply mayo mixed with olive oil to your heel. Rinse when done
8. Remove bubble gum: apply some mayo and massage into the gum. The oils will help the gum release
9. Shine your silver: make your silver shine by applying mayo with a soft cloth and rinse
10. Clean paint spots: applying mayo will loosen up the paint and it will clean up easily
11. Remove a ring: add a little mayo to help make the ring slippery and easier to remove
12. Silence the squeak: add a dab of mayo to a squeaky joint or door and it should silence it
13. Facial cleanser: apply a layer and leave for 15 – 20 minutes, wipe off and rinse thoroughly
14. Condition your hair: massage into your hair and scalp. Cover head with a shower cap, leave for 30 minutes and shampoo
15. Strengthen your finger nails: coat your nails with mayo, leave for 5 minutes and wash with warm water
16. Make plant leaves shiny: florists use this trick to keep house hold plant leaves shiny and clean. Rub a little mayo on leaves with a cloth and they will stay bright
17. Clean piano keys: apply some mayo on the ivory keys, leave for few minutes and wipe with a damp cloth
18. Remove tree sap: coat still tacky tree sap with mayo and let sit for few minutes. Wipe away the softened sap with a clean rag
19. Banish finger prints from stainless steel; cover messy prints with a thin coat of mayo and use a clean dry cloth to wipe away
20. Get rid of tar: use mayo to coat tar that’s stuck to your shoes or car. Let sit for several minutes then wipe off



In other news,my call up number is out!!!! After six months of waiting. Na me happy pass mhen!

Thursday, 19 June 2014

Now that my blackberry craze is over

Once upon a time if you didn’t have a blackberry, you weren’t cool. The coolest kids on the block were those that had a pin to give out.
I used to be very active on the social media; facebook, twitter, 2go ( yes 2go that we now call children’s app, I rocked it up to veteran level).
I remember once my phone fell into the pot of stew I was cooking because I was tweeting and cooking. Trust nokia now, all I needed to do was dismantle, clean and air it.
Then there was paradigm shift. All my friends moved over to blackberry. I seemed to be the only one using a java phone. Even the guy I was dating at the moment was like I should buy a bb to make communication easier since my phone didn’t have whatsapp.
Somehow, I wasn’t interested in the blackberry thingy. When the pressure became too much, I told my dad I wanted a bb as I was fully dependent on him at the moment. He was like God forbid he buys me a bb, he said I was using a nokia and I was always busy with my phone, if I get a bb, what will happen to me?
But you see, everywhere I turned to, immediately after hello, what is your name? the next question was “what is your pin?” and I’d be like I don’t use a bb but within me I was dying to own one because it was like I wasn’t hip enough so I started saving my pocket money to actualize my dream (what a dream) and If I want something, ii must get it oh! So it was with joy in my heart that I received the alert some months later that my dad wired money to my account for me to buy a bb. At last he decided to fund my craving. I proceeded that same day to SLOT to buy my bb. At last I had joined the league of those that owned a bb.
With my new acquisition came new habits albeit bad. Selfies was the order of the day; we took selfies every time, everywhere, anyhow. We took picture of new shoes, new bags, even the food we were eating wasn’t spared of the selfie madness. I used to dedicate extra one hour of my morning to get the perfect pose to upload to my numerous social accounts. I used to ping late into the night when I was supposed to be reading or sleeping (I was still in the university) but then, being eager to learn, I was always on google learning new things too.
2 years into my bb usage, I got tired (you see, I get bored a tad too quickly, I don’t know how I managed to use bb that long, maybe because I was changing models). People were like ‘you didn’t ping me’ or ‘you didn’t reply my ping’ etc and am like chelukwa, don’t I have a life outside of bbm and the likes? The phone was just like a status symbol sort of as I didn’t even utilize half of the features on it asides the fact that peeps will be like hat model are you using? So we always wanted to keep up with the Joneses too.
Well, my people I have a testimony *in p square’s voice* my bb madness is over. I gladly handed my blackberry to my brother and I moved over to an android phone. Infact I hardly have time for social media frivolities now.
I’ve realized that if you don’t control your gadget, it will control you.

Today, Mr Ijaduolu will be committed to mother earth. Yesterday as this song was being sung at his service of songs, tears flowed freely from my eyes. Am still in shock but like Job said, man that is born of a woman is of few days and full of trouble. We should just echo the words of the psalter which says so teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts to wisdom.
A o pade leti odo
Odo didan, odo didan na
Pelu awon mimo leba odo
To san leba ite ni

RIP SIR

Wednesday, 18 June 2014

Friends that leave without a word

Sometimes you notice a friend suddenly stops picking your calls, stops replying your sms and email. That’s the first sign that something is wrong with that friendship. When these signs are noticed, watch out.
When your messages aren’t replied, send a direct message indicating you are worried but be careful not to sound angry. You might just start an unnecessary fight. I’ve had people assume I was angry with them because I didn’t pick or return their calls but the truth is such period, I might have been going through a rough patch in my life and I didn’t want my friends interfering.
However, you need to check yourself because this could be a subtle sign. Have you snapped at your friend recently? Has your friend told you some things repeatedly but you kept doing it? Or did you cross the line while assuming everything will be better in time?
Not everyone will end a friendship dramatically. Some people simply walk away because they are tired of complaining. Others might have been building up resentment over time and have not openly expressed it. Some say nothing when they feel slighted while others just erupt.
In such situations, allow your friend to vent. Just hearing you hear them out will help diffuse the situation. When you and your friend have identified the situation, you can work through it. Then, make sure that you come up with a different way to communicate from that point forward, so that your friend will feel comfortable talking to you right away when there is an issue rather than pulling away.

Tuesday, 17 June 2014

How to avoid being needy

Have you ever been described as needy or clingy? Do you get so excited about a new friendship or relationship that you bombard the other person with attention, only to find that the person starts to seem distant? If you find yourself wanting to call text or email someone a whole lot more than they contact you, you have probably figured out that neediness is a turn off to most people.
1. Put on the brakes: every relationship develops at its own pace and there is no need to fast forward to being “soul mates” or “best friends forever” just because things feel great. Cherish the novelty of it all and the excitement of having something new, because it’ll never be new again. It can be nerve wracking not knowing how a certain connection is going to unfold but it’s also exciting! Be patient and learn to savour that excitement. Don’t try and push the connection into a stage that it is not ready for or you’ll miss the fun and create stress.
2. Take off the rose tinted glass; part of the reason people get disproportionately excited sometimes is because we tend to idealize others in the very beginning of a relationship. When you first meet someone with whom you have a connection, it’s easy to get lost in fantasies of how awesome your friendship or relationship might be. However, with those fantasies come high expectations and sometimes those high expectations are unrealistic. Right now you might think you want to spend all your time with the person. But you’re setting yourself up to be let down. Be ready to cope and forgive rather than act shocked that the person dares to be anything but perfect.
3. Practice this for that: imagine your interaction with this person is like a tennis or volleyball game. Every time you initiate contact, you throw the ball to their side of the court. Then you have to wait for them to send it back. You don’t toss a whole bunch more to make sure he or she is still interested in playing. If you’re a little on the needy side, you probably get nervous and worried while you’re waiting.
If you’ve - already gotten in touch with someone 9 you sent a text or gave a call or left a voice message there’s no need to do it again. When you feel the urge to contact them again remember that there are only a few possibilities here:
a) They haven’t gotten the message yet
b) They’ve been too busy or preoccupied to get back to you. If you trust this person, then you have to give him or her the benefit of doubt and assume this is the case
c) They aren’t interested in hanging out at the moment
4. Don’t be suffocating: no matter how close you are to another person, spending ALL your time with him or her is going to get overwhelming. Even if the person loves you, he or she is not going to want to be with you at every waking and maybe sleeping) moment. If you find it difficult to be away from the person for even a few minutes, you’re almost definitely creating a situation that will eventually blow up in your face. As hard as it might be, force yourself to back off and give the person some space, spend a few nights away, do activities you like to do and don’t call or text for a bit. Your relationship will definitely Improve because the old adage that “absence makes the heart grow fonder” is true.
5. Recognize signs that the other person is no longer interested: it happens sometimes for s variety of reasons, but one thing is for sure – showering the person with more attention will never change their mind. Persistence is not the answer! Pulling away may be the person’s way of jumping ship without the way they feel, and deep down inside, you know that. If someone doesn’t have the decency to respond, they’re not worth your time, you deserve better than that.
Think about whether the person is acting fickle. Some people just aren’t good about maintaining a friendship or relationship and sometimes, they’re lazy or forgetful. More often though if someone isn’t responsive, it’s not because they forgot to call you back, It’s because they made a choice not to.
It might be that the other person just needs some time to focus on other things for a while. It doesn’t have to mean the end of your relationship.
6. Respect the other person’s wishes: getting ignored or iced out can feel like rejection. Well, it is rejection and that really hurts. But once someone has decided they’re ready to move on, there’s nothing you can do to force the issue. Do your best to move on and resist the urge to be pushy. Lashing out or trying to hurt the other person in return will only make the person grow even more distant.
7. See if your needs are being met: if the person on your mind doesn’t flat out reject you but her or she demonstrates flaky behaviour and seems to be leading you on, think about whether you really want this person in your life. Just because you want to spend time with your friend or significant other doesn’t make you “needy”. All relationships require some time and effort to maintain. If the person is making you feel like you’re asking for too much, but you know you’re not being excessively needy, then maybe it’s the other person who has a problem.
Decide how much time and attention you want to give the relationship and figure out how much you expect in return. If your expectations are reasonable but you’re always feeling let down or neglected, it might be time to find a new friend or significant other who makes you feel valued and cared for.
Relationships aren’t easy to balance – it often seems like one person is putting in more effort. It is normal to have phases where one person is often busy and the other seems to be calling and texting more. However, if this is a constant pattern in your relationship and you don’t think it’s going to change, get out of the relationship before it hurts your self esteem.
8. Learn to trust: once you sort out what’s going on inside you can deal with any issues you might have relating to other people. Neediness is often associated with a shortage of trust, and sometimes a fear of abandonment. When you find yourself doubting someone’s feelings for you, or their loyalty, ask yourself why you don’t trust them. Is it because they did something questionable? Or is it because someone in your past hurt you and now you think this new person is going to do the same thing?
9. Call other people once in a while: focusing your life around just one person isn’t good for your mental health or self esteem. Call other people in your group of friends instead of pouring all your energy into one person. Get some people together to go to a movie or out to dinner and all the other personalities that fill your life. You have room for more than one friend.
10. Get busy doing other things: people who are busy simply don’t have enough time to be needy. They’re always preoccupied with other things and guess what? Those other things are what make people in testing friends and romantic partners. If you have nothing better to do than wait for someone to call or write back, then you’re probably bored and you know what they say – if you are bored, you are boring.
Source: wikihow

Monday, 16 June 2014

Friend zone

Once upon a time I used to think that friend zone existed in my head and not on planet earth but events have proven me otherwise.
So you see, I used to have a friend, I honestly can’t recall his name now, he works with KPMG (big boy things), we met on twitter (my bff has given up on me and my many online escapades) after a while we moved to whatsapp. When we got talking on whatsapp we practically spent the whole day talking about everything.
Along the line he was like he wasn’t ready to date, the last girl he dated fleeced him, in my mind I was like hian oga wait let me fall first before you start to feel yourself bros. somehow the calls and chats became far inbetween so one day bobo called me and accused me oh, we sha got talking on whatsapp again, he then called me one endearing name, I tackled him immediately and an argument ensued that lasted days. In the end, he was like I had zoned him, I was taking his love for granted and I was like chelukwa, did you even ask me out?
I have been accused of zoning so many of my male friends although some exaggerate. I guess the person whose zoning is on another plane is Deji. He is on big brother zone but he has no choice because there is no where he can push me to *bats eyelashes*
Back to the matter, it seems ladies have been painted to be the main culprit of zoning but I beg to differ, the truth is at one point of our lives most of us have been zoned besides I can’t possibly agree to every proposal I get nah! It is even more annoying when the guy hasn’t said anything and along the line, I meet another guy that sweeps me off my feet and it’s at that point he speaks up like what am I supposed to do? Place you on maga zone?
One chief reason why girls zone guys is when guys act like if you don’t date them, they’ll die. Nna I hate it when a guy acts desperately! Fine, initially the attraction is usually stronger from one person but that seemingly act of desperation to be with me puts me off. Love is a verb not a noun. You actions should speak for you not like everytime you call or text, you broach the subject.
Also, wait for common grounds and physical attraction before you make the move. Else you might be placed where you don’t like oh! Don’t gan be acting like a father figure, not everybody likes it. It’s also good to figure out what the other person wants before you make your move. Everybody knows am short and I’ve already said several times I want a tall guy so any short guy that is thinking before you talk your answer is no before we would look like pygmies from Congo while walking down the street.
The truth is most times after blurting out your feelings, things might not be the same especially if you two were good friends before one person caught feelings, you might have to bring the close friendship down to the acquaintance level.
You might feel jealous, angry especially if immediately after zoning you, you see them dating. Yes, it’s okay but trust me, with time and a healthy attitude, you’ll be fine!!

Sunday, 15 June 2014

My first language

I am a product of an intertribal marriage, my dad is egun and mum is igbo. From my growing up days I’ve always had issues with it but that’s a topic for another day.
We grew up speaking English language, my mum occasionally spoke igbo to us but the basic like come and eat, etc but she never held a conversation with us and if she spoke igbo to us, we’d reply in English. We were never corrected to reply in igbo. My dad on the other hand never spoke egun to us; he still hasn’t spoken it to me.
The first 17 years of my life I’d say I spoke English basically, I remember when we go to our cousin’s at Nnewi for hols, it was war because they'd speak only igbo and we only English.
Imagine the rude shock I got when I gained admission into the federal university of agriculture, Abeokuta and I found everybody speaking Yoruba. To make matters worse Abeokuta indigenes have their own dialect, egba. I now had the misfortune of having razz Ibadan housemates!
The first 2 weeks, I was on my own and people mistook it for pride, I didn’t understand neither could I speak. With time, I realized that if I had to cope in that town, I had to learn so I settled down and started to adjust my lifestyle. Now I speak Yoruba well but with an accent (I have slight igbo accent). I have also started learning igbo but the problem is that it is awkward speaking any language other than English st home so I try to force my brothers and cousins to speak Yoruba with me. As for egun? The only thing I understand is ’wadunnu’ meaning ‘come and eat’.
Am not really proud of my language defect but I can’t keep blaming my parents for not teaching me.
Now, should parents speak their mother tongue to their children during their formative stage? Or speak English? My view is both! Speak English and speak your language too! Encourage them to hold conversations with you fluently in both and also teach them how to write it.
Schools don’t help either, they be like speak vernacular and pay a fine and am like hello?? Kids have the tendency to overdo things, yes, but we need to emancipate ourselves from mental slavery. Allow them to express themselves while explaining that at school, English is the official medium and stop making it sound like speaking their mother tongue is bad, something that shouldn’t be done. I mean our language is our heritage! At this rate, some languages might go extinct.
Let me quickly chip in the issue of speaking with affectation. If there is something Seyon hates it is speaking with an accent especially people who have never been to domestic airport much more international airport.
I have a friend who is very guilty. I don’t even know if the accent is British, American, South African or confused American. He accuses me of not calling but the truth is each time we talk on the phone I end up saying “pardon” uncountable times. For deuces sake you cannot pick an accent once you are over twelve years old! Please if you want to speak god English master the rules of English especially oral English and stop sounding like you are whining in the name of talking.
Thoughts?

Saturday, 14 June 2014

Things my mum told me

I used to be a very stubborn child! So stubborn I was trashed like crazy and I'd be like this woman cannot be my mum, am sure I was adopted.I was really hoping one day my real mum would come for me *Sigh*
Well, inspite of my head strong attitude, my mum used to ring somethings into my ears and trust me, I still remember. Some I've not really bothered if they are true or not but I believed anyway.
1. Women don't eat gizzard in igbo land: those days I used to wish I were a guy! In my mind I'd be like Sheybi na egun land we dey? Truly the first time I ate gizzard I was 18 and I bought it with my money. Well, now mum gives me sha.

2. Don't cover the pot while cooking draw soup else the soup won't draw. Well I've not done otherwise too.

3. Don't dish egusi soup except it is on the fire, else it will go sour.

4. If you wash bitter leaf and pour the water away, if you cross it, your veejay will be sore. The fear of crossing bitter leaf water was the beginning of wisdom for Seyon.

I believed her because she always say to me "I'm your mother, can I deceive you?"

Oya what were the things your mum or dad told you as a kid?

Friday, 13 June 2014

Yesterday my eye saw many things and I said I mustn't keep them to myself oh! I.went to ijesha and as I was waiting on the sideway for a bus I just heard gunshot. I already bent down to pack my slippers and pick race when I saw nobody was running. I looked straight and saw a mopol corking his gun again o boy I don set for the race it was then I noticed he was an orderly to a big man and was trying to create space for the man to pass in the gridlock. The way these people behave in holdups ehn I ask myself if they expect others to fly so they can pass. Anyway I noted the number of the car EPE333AC. A few meters away I saw petrol tankers packed left and right on the road and it was apparently the cause of the traffic.
I waited ten minutes before I saw a bus, that was after the rain drenched me even with my umbrella oh. Immediately I entered the bus I looked round as I usually do when am on a public bus it was then I noticed I was the the only female on the bus, Choi immediately I started to bind and cast in my mind. That instant the conductor shut the door firm, I was like temi ti bami loni. Suddenly everyone started sleeping I was like ori iya mi ko, mi o gbodo sun. And I have this funny face I make like the weight of the world is on my shoulders. The conductor started looking at me, anyways I got to my destination safe. Meanwhile at mile 2 I saw a boy carrying his babe's handbag, like hello? Why would a guy carry my bag?
Big ups to FERMA, there was no hold up at barracks, the road was smooth like a baby's bumbum.
Those beggars that litter the road from lasu road to okoko are still there. Sigh
There was thus gurl on the bus that was playing music loud and I was like urrghhhhh why do earphones come with phones? Nna I was disgusted that I slapped her uncountable times in my head. The girl was forming and me too I can form activity and deaf and dumb esp if am on a journey. I was just too glad to alight.
Finally my neighbor has cut down their mango tree.. I wrote about it in the law is a ass post. It feels good to be home man.
Now that the rains are here, please you need an umbrella. Those Small ones will suffice. Shower cap is needed,you need to invest in those rubber slippers and leave the leather for the office.
Babes leave Peruvian for now and wear braids. They are easier to dry than weaves. You don't want your hair to smell do you?
Invest in thick clothing and take lot of fruits to avoid flu


Last night I was in the kitchen when my phone rang, my bestie Was on the line. I was about to start the usual insult when I noticed her voice was faint; she told me her uncle breathe his last around past 6pm right in front of her. He had been battling cancer for sometime. My heart really bleeds, I don't know what to say. May his soul and the souls of other faithful departed rest in peace.

Thursday, 12 June 2014

Where are they?

This is actually a short and quick one. I have some amazing people who used to be regulars here but I've not noticed their presence on the blogsphere either here or elsewhere.
1. Mr anonymous: I really hope he is fine, he is one dude I really admire but all of a sudden we stopped seeing him. Please wherever you are, I do care and I've been worried oh.

2. Uje: Hmmmmmm, very intelligent babe. She nominated me for my first blog award. Nice blog she runs at ujesta.blogspot.co.uk ; seems she's rounding off final year but am kinda worried though. Just pop in and say hello Uje

3. Mayowa: said he was going to be quite busy and then Poof! He just disappeared. May may do and come back Oh!

Lyrics of the day

TITLE: INCOMPLETE
ARTISTE: BACKSTREET BOYS

Empty spaces fill me up with holes
Distant faces with no place left to go
Without you within me I can’t find no rest
Where I’m going is anybody’s guess

Chorus: I tried to go on like I never knew you
I’m awake but my world is half asleep
I pray for this heart to be unbroken
But without you all I’m going to be is incomplete

Voices tell me that I should carry on
But I am swimming in an ocean all alone
Baby, my baby
It’s written on your face
You still wonder if we made a mistake

Chorus

I don’t mean to drag it on, but I can’t seem to let you go
I don’t wanna make you face this world all alone
I wanna let you go on (alone)

Chorus

20 things women will never understand about men

Oya here is the follow up on 20 things women don’t understand about men

1. Why can’t you put the toilet seat down
2. Why can’t you bear to hear about our period
3. Your inability to remember details
4. Guy code
5. Your need to fix things
6. Your obsession with gadgets
7. Inability to multitask
8. Boobs obsession
9. Why you say you’ll call and don’t call
10. Why you hate shopping
11. Video games
12. Bottling up emotions
13. Why you find it hard to ask for help
14. Football craze
15. Why you spend forever in the toilet
16. Why you try to get the woman to do the breaking up
17. why you won’t help in the kitchen
18. what’s the big deal in helping with the chores?
19. Why the woman gets the blame for not giving you a male child
20. Why you find it hard to say “I’m sorry”

Am getting better lovelies, thanks for the love. Well I managed to scribble some things last night. About three articles but am so lazy to type *Sigh*

Wednesday, 11 June 2014

Anniversary

Wow..how time flies! Just like yesterday it's seven months I started blogging! The journey hasn't been easy but well I thank God. Yesterday I checked my page views before sleeping and it was 376 that's like the highest ever. All I can say is thanks be to God!
My malaysian people, I see you..those from Russia, Estonia, Germany, Indonesia, China, USA, UK, Nigeria, Vietnam, etc thanks for the love.

P.S. Am not feeling too okay oh incase my posts are irregular but I'll try to write still.
Mwaaaaaaaaaaah

Lyrics of the day

TITLE: HEY SOUL SISTER
ARTISTE: TRAIN
Heeey heeeey heeeeey
Your lipstick stains on the front lobe of my left side brains
I knew I wouldn’t forget you
And so I went and let you blow my mind
Your sweet moon beam
The smell of you in every single dream I dream
I knew when we collided you’re the one I’ve decided
Who is one of my kind

Chorus: hey soul sister, ain’t that mister mister on the radio stereo
The way you move ain’t fair you know
Hey soul sister I don’t wanna miss a single thing you do
Tonight

Heeey heeeey heeeeey
Just in time, I’m glad you have a one track mind like me
You gave my life direction
A game show love connection we can’t deny
I’m obsessed
My heart is bound to beat right out of my untrimmed chest
I believe in you, like a virgin, you’re Madonna
And I’m always gonna wanna blow your mind

Chorus

The way you can’t cut a rug
Watching you is the only drug I need
So gangster, I’m so thug
You’re the only one am dreaming of
You see I can be myself now finally
In fact there’s nothing I can’t be
I want the world to see you’ll be with me

Chorus

20 things men will never understand about women

I stumbled on this article as i was jejely browsing and it practically left me in stitches. Its 20 things men will never understand about women.

1. Somehow all the important stuff always goes to the bottom of that bag.
2. You try on everything….every size…. Every style… everytime.
3. How is shopping a social activity?
4. Why does it take you so long to get ready for bed?
5. Why do you need so many throw pillows?
6. You like to talk after sex
7. You wear heels even on nights when you know you’ll be walking a lot
8. Why do you say the opposite of what you mean
9. Why you won’t tell us what is bothering you..
10. Why you ask questions when you know you won’t like the answers
11. Why you say you don’t have anything to wear
12. Why you wear something that is so uncomfortable
13. Periods
14. Why is your skincare so expensive
15. Why you say you just want a nice, funny guy but only date assholes.
16. What I’m supposed to do when you’re in a bad mood
17. Why you hoard so many clothes
18. Your fascination with shoes
19. How you are good at multitasking
20. Why you ask about our exes so much.
Lmao, guys, seen anything familiar? Babes, am so doing the follow up on this.
I was going to answer some but I changed my mind. Oya over to the guys

Tuesday, 10 June 2014

Lyrics of the day

TITLE: SOMETHING HAPPENED ON THE WAY TO HEAVEN
ARTISTE: PHIL COLLINS

We had a life, we had a love
But you don’t know what you’ve got till you lose it
Well that was then, and this is now
And I want you back
How many times do I have to say I’m sorry

How can something so good go so bad
How can something so right go so wrong
I don’t know, I don’t have all the answers
But I want you back
How many times can I say I’m sorry

CHORUS: you can run, and you can hide
But I’m not leaving less you come with me
We’ve had our problems but I’m on your side
You’re all I need, please believe in me

I only wanted someone to love
But something happened on the way to heaven
It got a hold of me and wouldn’t let go
And I want you back
How many times do I have to say I’m sorry

CHORUS

They say you can’t take it with you
When you go
And I believe it
But taking what I’ve got or being here with you
You know I’d rather leave it

CHORUS

Quotes

Oprah Winfrey on men
- If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay
- Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour. Allow your intuition to save you from heartache
- Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be. Slower is better
- Never live your life for a man before you find out what makes you truly happy
- If a relationship ends because the man wasn’t treating you as you deserve then neck no, you can’t be “friends”. A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend. Don’t settle for less
- If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is
- Don’t stay because you think that it will get better. You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better
- The only person you can control in a relationship is you
- Avoid men who have got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
- Always have your own set of friends separate from his
- Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up
- Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later
- You cannot change a man’s behaviour. Change comes from within
- Don’t make him feel he is more important than you are. Even if he has more education or a better job
- Don’t make him a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more, nothing less
- Never borrow someone else’s man
- A man will only treat you the way you allow him to treat you
- All men are not dogs
- You should not be the one doing all the bending. Compromise is a two way street
- You need time to heal between relationships. There is nothing cute about baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
- You should never look for someone to complete you. A relationship consists of two whole individuals. Look for someone complementary not supplementary
- Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always knows where you are, and you’re always readily available for him, he takes it for granted
- Never move into his mother’s house. Never co-sign for a man
- You should know that you are the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he’ll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the first place, you know that he is not the only one. They are all watching you and you want more, so you have a lot of choices. Make the right one
- Ladies, take care of your own hearts. Share this with other women (just so they know, it’s not everything here I agree with though) (am doing just that). You’ll make someone smile, another rethink her choices and another woman prepare.
Hope I did?

Monday, 9 June 2014

My bride price

Virtually every female I know has been on about this bride price ish and I decided to try it out via brideprice.com.ng in the end my bride price was 551,000 naira. It says am a premium babe. Yesterday’s calculation I didn’t understand some terms so it was 441,000 naira
The questions are so funny I nearly fell off my bed from laughing. In the height there is aki and pawpaw, lmao.. weight mama ronke ctfu..the sexy bow legs (beyonce) nearly killed me *checks bow legs* facial beauty sent me sprawling with laughter as its -25k chai! Skin colour lupita ctfu nna whoever did this is wicked (in my igbo accent) so having a dimples is +15k? anyway I have what is like a failed attempt at having a dimple at least when I smile it shows *tongue out* biko which one is ronaldinho teeth again? Ctfu gap teeth self follow? Chai chai no wonder one of my friend nearly broke her teeth onto I must have gap teeth having a doctorate is -50k oh! Hian the cooking skills na die, trust your chika now me choose calabar . even with all the guys ranting about pounded yam on twitter the other day, pounded yam is just 30k. maga dependent is also a form of employment? Ctfu
You need to check this app seriously even if you are a guy just go and pick anything. Okay accent there are three categories of Americans . (a) Americana proper +40k (b) Americana local +5k (c) confused Americana +1k lmao warri is -8kyoruba h factor is -20k. I nearly peed on my body here . choi choi the funniest is the bonus ada in the morning and caro at night ..ctfu please just go and check this app out.

Lyrics of the day

TITLE: DOROBUCCI
ARTISTE: MAVIN ALL STARS

DON JAZZY: ehn dorobucci
Don dorobucci
Doro jazzy
Ehn doro boss
Doro big
You know say doro heavy
Doro skilful
You know say doro bloddy eh ehn
Doro get the biggest label wey you know of course
Doro frosh pass anybody wey doro meet
Doro gather pass anybody for the gathering
Doro get money pass everybody there

REEKADO BANKS: oya doro.. dorobucci o.. oh na na na
Doro dorobucci o
Doro doro dorobucci mama n mo o
Doro dorobucci
Ibu onye be o
Doro fresh kwanu
Doro big kwanu kwanu
Doro flashy
Doro classy
Doro fine pass anybody wey doro see
Doroo get pass anybody wey doro meet e ehn
TIWA SAVAGE: doro na diva doro
Doro na tiwa
Doro na leader doro
Follow the leader
Doro doro do do doro doro
Doro is bigger doro
Doro is higer
Follow the ladder
So follow the lader doro
Doro get liver
She no dey tire
Doro hot
Doro eminado
Doro fine
Do do dorobucci eh
Doro me
Doro you
Doro mavin
We the baddest crew

DR SID: doro suru
Doro lere
Doro grab
Doro carry
Doro fast pass anybody wey don dey fast before
Doro sleek pass anybody wey doro jam eh ehn
Doro hammer
Doro pako
Doro knack pass carpenter wey don dey knack before
Doro nado
Doro messi
Doro dribble anybody wey try to mark doro

KOREDE BELLO: doro doro
African prince doro
See doro dey make all the girls dey feel robo robo
Doro o
Doro catch anybody wey doro fish doro
Doro chop anybody wey doro beef doro
Doro mega
Doro super
Doro star
Doro mega super star oh
Doro catch anybody wey doro fish doro
Doro chop anybody wey doro beef doro

DI’JA: doro bad
Doro double o seven
Doro na yaro
Doro wey get money doro
Doro like for do anything wey doro like for do
Make nobody try doro
Cos dey go wound oh
Doro bad
Doro double o seven doro
Doro na yaro
Doro wey get money doro
Doro like for do anything wey doro like for do
Make nobody try doro
Cos dey go wound oh

D’PRINCE: doro is a cheerful giver
Doro is a kind of boss a kind of boss
Doro is a money spender
Doro too dey floss too dey floss
Too dey floss oh
Anywhere wey doro dey
You know say wahala dey wahala dey
Chikalas dey chikalas dey
Cos doro gallant eh
Anywhere wey doro dey
Wahala dey wahala dey
Chikalas dey chikalas dey
Cos doro gallant oh
Omoba
Doro money
Doro baller

REEKADO BANKS: doro popping
Doro naughty
Doro fly pass anybody wey dey the plane of course
Doro ball pass anybody wey the pitch yeh
Doro dorobucci o
Doro dorobucci o
Doro doro dorobucci mama o
Doro fine pass anybody wey doro see
Doro doro get pass anybody wey doro meet
Ibu onye be o
Dorobucci
Doro big
Doro street
Kwanu doro big
Doro chuk norris

How to relieve stress

Virtually every day, we come across things that put pressure on us. It could be family life ( wake up by 4am, prepare breakfast, clean the house and still get to work by 7am. Shout out to all the mothers in the house), the office wahala, relationship, you name it, the concept of stress is familiar but I have good news for you! Stress can be managed. As usual I visited my good friend google and came up with the following tips. Enjoy

1. All office work ends in the office. Don’t take office work home biko. After working my ass off from 8 – 4pm, I can’t imagine me writing lesson note or lesson plan. The time meant for family shouldn’t be an extension of office hour
2. Exercise: exercise is one of the most effective stress relievers. Studies have shown that those who exercise regularly are in good shape and don’t have as many problems with stress that is because exercise releases endorphins, chemicals that promote good moods and positive thinking. Exercise also provides a good physical outlet for releasing the energy that stress builds up inside you.
3. Massage: massages can also significantly reduce stress by releasing tension in your muscles. Not only can a massage help with stress, it can help boost your immune system which may have been weakened by stress.
4. You don’t even have to go to the big massage parlours to get a massage, you can massage your hands, feet, face, arms, legs and shoulders yourself or get bobo to do it for you
5. Meditation: it is a useful method to relieve stress regardless of your belief. You can use your imaginations as a place of escape, think of a place where you felt relaxed, try to imagine the place in the greatest detail possible, etc
6. Avoid your stressors: stay away from what is stressing you. Infact this is the first step to relieving your stress
7. Reframe your problems: if it is an issue bugging you that is stressing you, you can change your perspective of it. Instead of focusing on the negatives and the problems, you can concentrate on the positives. Do your best to see things in a positive light
8. Be better organized: most times, the chief cause of stress arises from feeling overwhelmed. Use a planner to keep track of your “to do list”. You can buy sticky notes and write things to do in an organized manner stick them on the fridge, on the dressing table, above the wall on your desk and follow the schedule strictly.
9. Learn to say no: you cannot do everything you are asked to do, so why keep pretending that you can? Be assertive and learn to say no politely but firmly and always when you know there isn’t a chance at all that you’ll get the thing done.
10. Learn how to delegate: learn to let go by giving more credence to the abilities of others. Giving up tasks may seem stressful in theory, but will free up more personal time. Find reliable people In your life that you can trust with tasks that you are too stressed or anxious to manage
11. Listen to some music: music has shown to have a very strong effect on mood and mental state. Cal yourself down by listening to your favourite soothing music
12. Try out a new activity: learning a new activity forces your mind off your stressors, making it easier for you to relax

Sunday, 8 June 2014

New love

Hello lovelies, how is your Sunday coming up? Great I guess. Well, I would not say any event happened today to make me ecstatic but I am! Now don’t you think it’s related to my heading!!! Nah, don’t worry when I start to catch feelings for the lucky dude and he eventually sweeps me off my feet and is there to catch me, you’ll be the first to hear *shining my thirty teeth*
Okay, basically in my journey as a blogger, I’ve come across some very wonderful blogs that keeps my day going and (I even hope to meet some of the bloggers in person someday) and it would be unfair of me to keep these blogs to myself. So people, I know many of you don’t have that time to blog whore *bats eyelashes* but please, kindly visit these my new love and taste the goodness too.
1. www.mylifeasmoby.blogspot.com
2. www.mystyleorgy.blogspot.com
3. www.duruadolphusjnr.blogspot.com
4. www.maturemindstalk.blogspot.com
5. www.thatnigeriangirl.net
6. www.missymayification.blogspot.co.uk
7. www.journalofapetitediva.blogspot.com
8. www.ujesta.blogspot.co.uk
9. www.yem-smoothies.blogspot.co.uk
10. www.yourstrulyblogposts.blogspot.com
11. www.adesewasmusings.com
12. www.tosyne101.wordpress.com
13. www.everydaytibs.blogspot.com
14. www.appreciateafrica.blogspot.com
Okay, I remember why am ecstatic now…………..this week I’ll be working for just THREE days *dancing skelewu* because Thursday and Friday is midterm .

Lyrics of the day

TITLE: THE COLOUR OF LOVE
ARTISTE: BILLY OCEAN

If I had to paint a picture
To show the world how true love can really be
I would use the brightest colours
To create a vision of harmony

It would be a reality
Cause it’s only what’s inside of my heart
You would see I’ve always loved you
Right from the very start

Chorus: tell me what is the colour of love what do you see
Is it warm, is it tender when you think of me
I see the colour of love when am thinking of you
As a picture perfect painting of a love forever true

The colours of the rainbow
Turn grey whenever you’re so far away
It changes like the seasons
You’re the reason it happens that way

Chorus

And oh, though many may try to keep us apart
Oh the colours that I see in you
Will shine a light to see us through
No matter what the world will do, I’ll always love you

Chorus

SELF CONCEPT

Your self concept is your views of yourself and your role in life. It is how you think about and evaluate yourself. To be aware of oneself is to have a concept of oneself.
Carl Rogers (1959) believes that self concept has three different components: (a) the view you have of yourself (self image) (b) how much value you place on yourself (self esteem or self worth) (c) what you wish you were really like (ideal self)
SELF IMAGE
This doesn’t necessarily have to reflect reality. A person’s self image is affected by many factors such as parental influences, friends, the media, etc.
The list of answers to the question ‘who am I?’ probably includes examples of each of the following four types of responses
1. Physical description : I am tall, I have brown eyes, etc
2. Social roles: we are all social beings whose behaviour is shaped to some extent by the roles we play. Such role as students, housewives, or member of the football team not only help others to recognize us but also helps us to know what is expected of us in various situations.
3. Personal traits: these are a third dimension of our self descriptions. I’m impulsive, I’m generous, I tend to worry a lot, etc
4. Existential statements (abstract ones); these can range from I’m a child of the universe to I’m a human being to I’m a spiritual being etc
Typically, young people describe themselves more in terms of such personal traits whereas older people feel defined to a greater extent by their social roles.

SELF ESTEEM AND SELF WORTH
Self esteem refers to the extent to which we accept or approve of ourselves or how much we value ourselves. Self esteem always involves a degree of evaluation and we may either have a positive or negative view of ourselves.
HIGH SELF ESTEEM
We have a positive view of ourselves. This tends to lead to confidence in our own abilities, self acceptance, not worrying about what others think and optimism.
LOW SELF ESTEEM
We have a negative view of ourselves. This tends to lead to lack of confidence, wanting to look or to be like someone else, always worrying what others might think and pessimism.

Some psychologists believe that there are four major factors that influence self esteem.
1. The reaction of others: if people admire us, flatter us, seek out our company, listen attentively and agree with you, we tend to develop a positive self image. If they avoid us, neglect us; tell us things about ourselves we don’t want to hear we develop a negative self image.
2. Comparison with others: if the people we compare ourselves with (our reference group) appear to be more successful, happier, richer, better looking than ourselves, we tend to develop a negative self image but if they are less successful than us our self image will be positive.
3. Social roles: some social roles carry prestige e.g. doctor, pilot, TV presenter, footballer and this promotes self esteem. Other roles carry stigma e.g. prisoner, mental hospital patients, refuse collector or unemployed people.
4. Identification: roles aren’t just ‘out there’. They also become part of our personality i.e. we identify with the positions we occupy, the roles we play and the groups we belong to.
But just as important as all these factors, are the influence of our parents.

IDEAL SELF
If there is a mismatch between how you see yourself (your self image) and what you’d like to be (your ideal self) then this is likely to affect how much you value yourself. Therefore there is an intimate relationship between self image, ego, ideal and self esteem.
A person’s ideal self may not be consistent with what actually happens in life and experiences of the person. Hence a difference may exist between a person’s ideal self and actual experience. This is called incongruence.
Where a person’s ideal self and actual experience are consistent or very similar, a state of congruence exists.
When you have a realistic self concept, you can see both your good points and your weaknesses. Having a positive self concept or feeling good about you may be as important as having a realistic self concept.
Enjoying your good characteristics and being willing to work or accept your faults means that you accept yourself the way you are.

Saturday, 7 June 2014

Sunset at noon: RIP PROF DORA NKEM AKUNYILI

my heart is very heavy. Today Prof Dora Akunyili lost the battle to the undisclosed ailment that she's been battling with. Am just numb. May God comfort the family she left behind.

Lyrics of the day

Title: WHAT NOW
Artiste: RIHANNA

I’ve been ignoring this big lump in my throat
I shouldn’t be crying
Tears were for the weaker days I’m stronger now, or so I say
But something’s missing

Whatever it is
It feels like it’s laughing at me through the glass of a two sided mirror
Whatever it is
It’s just laughing at me
And I just wanna scream

Chorus: What now? I just can’t figure it out
What now? I guess I’ll just wait it out
What now? Oh, oh, oh, oh! What now?

I found the one, he changed my life
But was it me that changed
And he just happened to come at the right time
I’m supposed to be in love
But I’m numb again

Chorus

There’s no one to call cause I’m playing games with them all
The more I swear I’m happy the more I’m feeling alone
Cause I spent every hour going through the motions
I can’t even get the emotions to come out
Dry as a bone, but I just wanna shout

Chorus

The rules of life


Since nobody is a walking encyclopaedia and somehow, some of us are too busy to read just any book we lay our hands on, I decided to bring excerpts from a book I read sometimes ago “The rules of life” by Robert Templer. It’s a trilogy I think; “The rules of life”, “The rules of love” and “the rules of work”. Enjoy
- Wisdom is not about not making mistakes but about learning to escape afterwards with our dignity and sanity intact
- Getting through each day without seriously offending anyone or hurting anyone counts. Having the latest technology doesn’t
- Be flexible in your thinking
- Deep down within all of us is a fount of wisdom. This is called “intuition”
- The world is divided into those who look at others enviously and those who look at others as a motivational tool
- Change what you can change , let go of the rest
- Failing is fine. Aiming for second best is not
- Don’t allow benign neglect to ruin your relationship
- Just because we come together to be a couple for however long doesn’t mean we are joined at the hip and have to think the same, do the same , react the same, feel the same
- We all need someone who is pleased to see us. It makes us feel it is worthwhile
- Know when to listen and when to act
- Love is not for the “can’t be bothered to make the effort anymore”. You have to make the effort, stay awake, in touch, in tune
- If we are not talking, there is something wrong. If we are not talking, what are we doing?
- Differentiate between goals and dreams. Dreams are things you aim to get some day, goals are what you are doing/ would do or plan to do with someone
- What do you see your partner as? What is their role or function in being your partner?
- Treat your partner better than your best friend
- Most of us want to fall madly head over heels in love. Big chemistry, fireworks, butterflies, unbelievable feelings. It is brilliant, it is extreme but that intensity can’t and won’t last. You have to go back to reality sometime. You have to get on with your life
- The happiest relationships, the most successful, the strongest are where both parties see the need for flexibility in their rules and adjust their relationship accordingly
- Someone once said that a real friend is someone you can be having a conversation with as they get on a plane, you don’t see them for ten years and when they arrive back they carry on the conversation as they get off the plane like a moment hadn’t passed. That’s exactly how it is between good friends
- Never be too busy for loved ones
- Make time for the people who matter today. One day they might not be there and then you will desperately wish you had actually listened
- Never lend money to a loved one unless you are prepared to write it off- either the money or the relationship
- No point hanging out with people who don’t make you feel good
- Be assertive without being aggressive

Friday, 6 June 2014

Lyrics of the day

Title: HEROES
Artiste: NEYO

Never doubt, never doubt
Here for you, here for me
Worry not, I’ll be there
Strength when you feel weak
In the dark when you can’t see
Guiding light, I will be
All I need, all I need
Is for you to do the same for me
Cause

Even heroes need heroes sometimes
And even the strong need someone to tell them it’s alright
Even heroes need heroes sometimes
Will you be my hero tonight?

Just above, up so high
Just above you is where I fly
But if I fall from the sky
On you, can I rely
I’ll protect you from the world
Whenever I can
But will you do the same for me
Now and again?

Even heroes need heroes sometimes
And even the strong need someone to tell them its alright
Even heroes need heroes sometimes
Will you be my hero tonight?

Come to my, my rescue
Do for me as I do for you
Be my eyes when I am blind
Cause no one can be strong all the time

Phobia

A phobia is a constant, unreasonable, irrational fear of a situation, specific object or activity that leads to a compelling desire to avoid it.

Some phobias are really funny! Enjoy
- Acrophobia: fear of height
- Aerophobia: fear of flying
- Agoraphobia: fear of leaving home
- Anthrophobia: fear of people
- Aquaphobia: fear of water
- Claustrophobia: fear of closed spaces
- Gephygrophobia: fear of bridges
- Microphobia: fear of germs
- Nunerophobia: fear of numbers
- Nyctophobia: fear of darkness
- Ocholophobia: fear of crowds
- Ophidiophobia: fear of snakes
- Phonophobia: fear of speaking aloud
- Thanatophobia: fear of death
- Xenophobia: fear of strangers
- Zoophobia: fear of animals
- Algophobia: fear of pain
- Ailurophobia: fear of cats
- Atychiphobia: fear of failure
- Chaetophobia: fear of hair
- Decidophobia: fear of making decisions
- Erotophobia: fear of sexual abuse
- Gamatophobia: fear of commitment
- Hexakosiohexekontahexaphobia: fear of the number 666
- Papahobia: fear of the pope
- Sesquipedalophobia; fear of long words
- Stygiophobia: fear of hell
- Triskaidekaphobia: fear of the number 13
Which is yours?

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Wet kisses for you

Thursday, 5 June 2014

Lyrics of the day

Title: ANYWHERE IS
Artiste: ENYA

I walk the maze of moments
But everywhere I turn to
Begins a new beginning
But never finds a finish
I walk to the horizon
And there I find another
It all seems so surprising
And then I find that I know

You go there you’re gone forever
I go there I’ll lose my way
If we stay there
We’re not together
Anywhere is

The moon upon the ocean
Is swept around in motion
But without ever knowing
The reason for its flowing
In motion on the ocean
The moon still keeps on moving
The waves still keep on waving
And I still keep on going

You go there you’re gone forever
I go there I’ll lose my way
If we stay here we’re not together
Anywhere is

I wonder if the stars sign
The life that is to be mine
And would they let their light shine
Enough for me to follow
I look up to the heavens
But night has clouded over
No spark of constellation
No vela or orion

The shells upon the warm sands
Have taken from their own lands
The echo of their story
But all I hear are low sounds
As pillow words are weaving
And willow waves are leaving
But should I be believing
That I am only dreaming

You go there you’re gone forever
I go there I’ll lose my way
If we stay here we’re not together
Anywhere is

To leave the tread of all time
And let it make a dark line
In hopes that I can still find
The way back to the moment
I took the turn and turned to
Begin a new beginning
Still looking for the answer
I cannot find the finish
It’s either this or that way
It’s one way or the other
It should be one direction
It could be on reflection
The turn I have just taken
The turn that I was making
I might be near the end

100 truths

1. Last drink? Water
2. Last phone call? Boluwatife
3. Last text message? Adetola
4. Last song you listened to? Ana masi ife uwa (Osita Osadebe)
5. Last time you cried? April 26th 2014
6. Last time you were in a relationship? May 2013
Have you ever
7. Dated someone twice? hell no
8. Been cheated on? I think so
9. Kissed someone and regretted it? yes
10. Been depressed? yes
11. Been drunk and threw up? no
List three favourite colours
12. Purple
13. Coffee
14. Turquoise
In the last year have you
15. Made new friends? yes
16. Fallen out of love? yes
17. Laughed until you cried? Yes!!!!!
18. Met someone who changed you? Well, my ex did. Am now wiser
19. Found out who your true friends were? yes oh
20. Found out someone was talking about you? people always talked about me in university nah
21. Kissed anyone on your friends list? Hello!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
22. How many people on your friends list do you know in real life? 95%
23. How many kids do you want to have? 2
24. Do you have any pets? no
25. Do you want to change your name? I wan marry change name nah
26. What did you do for your last birthday? nothing oh *wipes tears*
27. What time did you wake up today? 5.00am
28. What were you doing at midnight last night? In cloud 69
29. Name something you cannot wait for? to make my first millions *rubs palms together*
30. Last time you saw your father? Easter 2014
31. What is the thing you could change about your life? am still thinking
32. What are you listening to right now? kwue nkeyi by chief Osita Osadebe
33. Have you ever spoken to someone named Tom, Dick and harry? I’ve spoken to a harry, others no
34. What’s getting on your nerves right now? The one mosquito in my room that has been escaping my palms
35. Most visited web page? Google, www.seyonhundeyin.blogspot.com
36. What’s your real name? SEYON CHIDINMA NDIDIAMAKA HUNDEYIN
37. Nickname? none
38. Relationship status? single
39. Zodiac sign? cancer
40. Male, female or transgendered? hian, female
41. Infant school? co-operative nursery and primary school
42. Junior school? Badagry grammar school
43. High school? Badagry senior grammar school
44. Hair colour? wine and black
45. Long or short? my hair is at shoulder length
46. Height? 1.5m
47. Do you have a crush on someone? right now, no
48. What do you like about yourself? I have selective amnesia
49. Piercings? I don’t have any
50. Tattoos? none
51. Righty or lefty? righty
Firsts
52. First surgery? Olorun maje oh. None
53. Piercing? I don’t have any yet
54. First best friend? OGWOR ELOHOR
55. First kiss? 2007
56. First concert? 2013
57. First crush? OKOYE-OZUA OBIORA
Right now
58. Eating? nothing
59. Drinking? my spittle
60. I’m about to? Iron my clothes
61. Listening to? ebezina by Chief Osita Osadebe
62. Waiting for? Bed time
63. Wishing that? All my dreams come true
Your future
64. Want kids? Yes
65. Get married? Yes nah. Shuu
66. Careers in mind? I still have not given up on my radio broadcasting dream, I also want a career in human resources. Am not sure I still want to pursue a career in food science and technology
Which is better on the opposite sex
67. Lips or eyes? Both jor
68. Hugs or kisses? Depends on who
69. Older or younger? I like older(not my father’s mate oh). Can’t baby sit nobody
70. Romantic or spontaneous? Both
71. Nice stomach or nice arm? Ah, both. I want my eye candy
72. Sensitive or loud? A bit of both. Am loud enough
73. Hook up or relationship? Relationship
74. Troublemaker or hesitant? Ha, am a troublemaker, the combo go madding
Have you ever
75. Shoplifted? No
76. Drank hard liquor? Yes
77. Lost glasses or contacts? Never used any
78. Sex in public? Who wants to know?
79. Broken someone’s heart? duuh. it’s a viscous cycle
80. Had your heart broken? yes
81. Been arrested? No
82. Turned someone down? Yes nah
83. Cried when someone died? Yes
84. Like a friend that is a girl? Am too straight for that bikonu
Do you believe in
85. Yourself? Yes nah. Am my #1 fan
86. Miracles? Yes
87. Love at first sight? Not sure
88. Heaven? Yes
89. Magic? not sure
90. Santa Claus? Yes
91. Kiss on the first date? If the current is strong
92. Angels? Yes
Answer truthfully
93. Is there one person you want to be with right now? No
94. Had more than one bf at one time? Yes oh
95. Did you sing today? yes
96. Any regrets? a couple of them
97. If you could go back in time, how far would you go? 23/02/2013
98. If you could pick a day from last year and relieve it, what day would it be? 22/02/2013
99. Are you afraid of falling in love? I don’t know
100. Posting this as 100 truths? You bet I am

Wednesday, 4 June 2014

Friends with benefit(s)

Friends with benefit I believe is as old as dating itself. Whilst there isn’t a strict ‘definition’ as to this concept as everybody defines what it means to them, I searched the internet and came up with close to ten definitions and am posting some.
- People in a casual sexual relationship. A physical and emotional relationship between two people who may have casual sex or a non sexual relationship without necessarily demanding or expecting the extra commitments of a more formal romantic relationship.
- A healthy, fun sexual relationship between two people until one falls for the other.
- A safe relationship that mimics a real partnership but is void or lacking jealousy(really?) and other such emotions that comes with a sexual relationship
- A physically involved relationship, where both partners enjoy some comforts of sitting on the fence between serious relationship and simple friendship
- Any relationship that can be categorized as being between friends and partners also referred to as more than friends
- Two friends with a very casual dating relationship. The benefits can be really good, long, flirty conversations, make out sessions with no commitment, sex with no commitment, etc
In the end, the basic thing is sex with no strings attached. A casual relationship may be part time, or for a limited time. It may or may not entail partner exclusivity. In each case, the relationship’s dominance in the lives of those involved is being voluntarily limited and there is usually a sense that the relationship is intended to endure only as long as both parties wish it to.
People go into this because they are commitment shy or they are fresh out of a relationship and are not ready to date anytime soon, some have hot friends they’ve got their eyes on and so many reasons I’ve heard about.
They say feelings won’t get involved but this is always nearly impossible as soon one partner catches feelings ,feelings that are hard to ignore and then wants something more that the initial friends with benefit.
Friends with benefits can be addictive but they don’t sustain and in the end, one person will definitely get hurt and that initial friendship will be lost, so what’s the point?
Eventually it gets to a point where one person falls in love, or isn’t feeling the sex no more etc and you know when you start a game with no rules, it’s really hard to go back and play by the rules.
So what happens after the friends with benefit phase?
Me I’ve refused to be the milk guys get for free instead of buying the cow.

P.S. Now that I successfully uploaded a picture yesterday I tried with this post and it was like memory low. Sigh

Tuesday, 3 June 2014

I hope I'll get it right this time.
That's me right in front of the bust of Thomas Babington Macaulay, founder of CMS grammar school. I attended the school's hymn singing as part of activities commemorating it's 155th founder's day.

Am back!!!!

Am so sorry this is coming late, am also sorry about the fact that I went AWOL. Please don’t forgive me but the truth is that much waters have passed under the bridge this period I’ve been offline, so much waters I don’t even know their colours again but well, the most important thing is that am back, and stronger than ever I believe.
Thanks for checking up on me.... I feel so loved and am blowing kisses your direction.you rock lovelies!
It was a tough one choosing the winners of the giveaway so I just wrote all the participants names on a piece of paper, rolled them up and asked my younger one to pick any three as there has to be a winner. I really wish I could compensate everyone for making out time to comment on that post but……………….. Well, the lucky winners are: cyndy, bobby and mannie so kindly send me a mail telling me the network you use plus your phone number. My email address is; amakahundeyin@gmail.com