Saturday, 7 June 2014

The rules of life


Since nobody is a walking encyclopaedia and somehow, some of us are too busy to read just any book we lay our hands on, I decided to bring excerpts from a book I read sometimes ago “The rules of life” by Robert Templer. It’s a trilogy I think; “The rules of life”, “The rules of love” and “the rules of work”. Enjoy
- Wisdom is not about not making mistakes but about learning to escape afterwards with our dignity and sanity intact
- Getting through each day without seriously offending anyone or hurting anyone counts. Having the latest technology doesn’t
- Be flexible in your thinking
- Deep down within all of us is a fount of wisdom. This is called “intuition”
- The world is divided into those who look at others enviously and those who look at others as a motivational tool
- Change what you can change , let go of the rest
- Failing is fine. Aiming for second best is not
- Don’t allow benign neglect to ruin your relationship
- Just because we come together to be a couple for however long doesn’t mean we are joined at the hip and have to think the same, do the same , react the same, feel the same
- We all need someone who is pleased to see us. It makes us feel it is worthwhile
- Know when to listen and when to act
- Love is not for the “can’t be bothered to make the effort anymore”. You have to make the effort, stay awake, in touch, in tune
- If we are not talking, there is something wrong. If we are not talking, what are we doing?
- Differentiate between goals and dreams. Dreams are things you aim to get some day, goals are what you are doing/ would do or plan to do with someone
- What do you see your partner as? What is their role or function in being your partner?
- Treat your partner better than your best friend
- Most of us want to fall madly head over heels in love. Big chemistry, fireworks, butterflies, unbelievable feelings. It is brilliant, it is extreme but that intensity can’t and won’t last. You have to go back to reality sometime. You have to get on with your life
- The happiest relationships, the most successful, the strongest are where both parties see the need for flexibility in their rules and adjust their relationship accordingly
- Someone once said that a real friend is someone you can be having a conversation with as they get on a plane, you don’t see them for ten years and when they arrive back they carry on the conversation as they get off the plane like a moment hadn’t passed. That’s exactly how it is between good friends
- Never be too busy for loved ones
- Make time for the people who matter today. One day they might not be there and then you will desperately wish you had actually listened
- Never lend money to a loved one unless you are prepared to write it off- either the money or the relationship
- No point hanging out with people who don’t make you feel good
- Be assertive without being aggressive

10 comments:

  1. Nice one amaka.






    @iMannie_

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  2. Thanks for sharing.
    I particularly love these three.
    *No point hanging out with people who don’t make you feel good.
    *Make time for the people who matter today. One day they might not be there and then you will desperately wish you had actually listened.
    *We all need someone who is pleased to see us. It makes us feel it is worthwhile.

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    1. Am glad you do. Thanks for visiting

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  3. This is my favorite - If we are not talking, there is something wrong. If we are not talking, what are we doing? --> I can only think of one thing...hehe...

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    1. Hahahahahahaha... Tibs we that are unmarried nko?

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  4. Never lend money to a loved one unless you are prepared to write it off- either the money or the relationship.
    *crying*... I should've known. No wonder.

    Maturemindstalk.blogspot.com

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    1. Hands you basket. Happy crying. Pele

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  5. ...The world is divided into those who look at others enviously, and those who look at others as a motivational tool....

    The above hit me immediately. Nice strong words Amaka. Fun read as usual.

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