Monday, 23 June 2014

What if she's a retired runs girl?

Yesterday I was in the kitchen frying plantain and it was taking too long so I decided to dash to the sitting room to watch a yoruba movie and the scene I met was that of a guy proposing to a lady, well let me not bore you with the long story but the summary is that the lady the guy had intentions of marrying is a retired olosho (whore aka runs girl).
So I said I was going to ask my lovely readers, guys, what if you discover the girl you fell head over heels in love with is a former prostitute? Will you call the relationship off without considering the time and maybe money involved in the relationship? What if you have proposed to her? Will you collect your ring back?
Girls, what if the babe your brother has brought home to mama falls in this category? How will you handle it?
I'll go first. If I discover the girl my brother is in love with or has proposed to is in this category, I'll honestly stay out of it. You know what they say that three is a crowd? Except I catch her in the act, I'd turn a deaf ear to the information at my disposal afterall most of us have dark secrets or pasts we don't want the public to know and besides love covereth a multitude of sins yeah?
Let's talk

17 comments:

  1. To start with everybody has a past, if my brother brings such girl home, first might be sad but I would remind myself that I have a past too so why quick to judge her? As for me nothing wrong and above all love conquereth all. *shy anonymous*

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  2. I love the saying 'Live and Let live'...I don't seem to remember anyone who got into trouble for minding their business ....having said that...I am just gonna pretend she is a Nun, welcome her like a ferrari, love her like myself and WAIT...(keyword being wait)...If/When everything blows up...I am gonna be in the comfort of my room and ask God for forgiveness for not being my brother's keeper....and then go out and go be a Dr Phil to my family...If it progresses to a Maury Show situation.....I am just gonna act like Jerry Springer (drop a bomb and let it go off)......Wasssup Mami!

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  3. Hmmmmm........ unfortunately, when it comes to this topic, I'm not so liberal minded - I'm going to go ahead and comment, but, pardon me if i'm wrong. Yes, everybody has a past, but, do people change? I'm not sure to be honest with you. Like the Ibos say 'adiro amu aka ekpe na nka' (meaning you cannot learn to use your left hand in okld age). Well, it depends on the man in question - if you have doubts, it might not be a good idea to go ahead. Forget the time, money and energy invested cos you can always get them back, but, once you make a mistake in love, you are doomed. But,when it comes to matters of the heart, there is no persuading someone in love. If you love her so much, and you believe that she has 'changed', by all means go ahead. It's your life and your decision - Go ahead if it's worth it. Who are we to judge people? Circumstances might have led her to prostitution

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    1. My dear sometimes we just have to hear people's story before judging them oh

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  4. Its quite a hard one. Everyone has got a past so I'm gonna go ahead and marry her. But its gonna be better if she told me than if I discovered from another source.











    @iMannie_

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    1. She might not want to tell you because you might use it against her later

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  5. Well I think the past should live in the past and yes people change. Runz or no runz,let the past stay in the past. I'll think if my bro brings in someone that is an olosho, I will just mind my bizness. Shikena
    www.mylifeasmoby.com

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    1. Exactly! People change and the way I don't want interference in my relationship, I don't interfere in that of others.

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  6. lmao! Permit me to be very sincere Amaka. heheh I am smiling right now oh! You said, and I quote "Love covereth all sins" yeah, but not sicknesses nah! :p #Joking

    If she was once a Runs girl, and then she switched and some how we crossed paths and fell in love. I would be cool with it. But the part that I will never accept is if she didnt tell me this dirty secret in person, and I got to find out from another person, then how am I supposed to trust her? Apart from Health risks, i think trust is deeply important in Marriage, so i dont think I can keep up with someone i dont rust. :( #Sadly

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    1. My oh my! I personally don't tell guys am dating about my past because I don't judge people based on their past. Too bad if he has to trust me based on mine. Btw being a runs girl doesn't mean you must have stds now.

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  7. @Amaka. You should start telling people you're dating about your past though. Its not for them to judge u with, but for you have a crystal clear relationship. Imagine how disappointed he'll feel learning about your past from another source. U dig?


    Maturemindstalk.blogspot.com

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  8. I would not say anything to my brother but i would request that she carries out some tests (don't blame me o blame pharmacy) and let me know the results, then she is free to go ahead. But if i catch her still doing the runs while with my brother then i am going to soak her in boiling hot oil...

    http://journalofapetitediva.blogspot.com

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  9. I personally don't believe in sharing your past with your significant other, every relationship should start on a clean state. Besides what might be 'runs' to X might be 'normal' to Y. However I think it's fair to tell the person 'I have a dark past, but I'm not that person anymore, I'm fully committed to you and to making this relationship work'. If it's my sibling, I'd talk to the person and promise to skin her alive if she goes back to her old ways.

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