Thursday, 31 July 2014

Sex education

I bloomed very early,  at nine,  I already had real boobs not "tits" and it made me very conscious of myself. Being the voracious reader that I am,  I started reading my mom's every woman.  I pored over it religiously. In essence,  I got my first sex education myself.  Everything a young curious mind needed to know,  I found there,  I even knew contraceptives by names and I could identify a couple of them physically.  So at 11 when my cycle started,  I knew what to do.
Somehow,  my mum got to discover I had become a woman and she sat me down.  The following ensured.
Mum: Chimdinma(when my mum calls my name in full,  it's either I've offended or something along that line),  how are you.
Me: my mind was racing, my mum doesn't ask how I am on a good day.
Mum: ever heard of the term "menstruation"?
Me: (chin up) Uh,  yes, in mathematics, a list of formulae (I wanted to play around)
Mum: I don't mean that,  I mean the monthly shedding of blood
Me: oh,  yes.  We've been taught in home economics.
My mum proceeded to lecture me,  in my mind I was like duuh,  I already know mom. She then gave me every woman *something I stole to read two years earlier*,  she gave me a calender,  told me about sex and that if I have sex,  I would get pregnant.  She told me about ovulation too.
Now,  with my peers, it was a different story.  I am very touchy so when I noticed they don't allow guys touch them,  I asked and what I got was "my mummy said if a boy touches me,  I'll get pregnant"  dafuck????  Of course in everyone's eyes,  her mum was the wisest so we'll start the "your mum doesn't know anything fight".
Fast-forward many years later,  I still find graduates who find sex talks offensive,  they don't know about their bodies.  Well,  we can't blame our parents for not educating us sexually because that's the way they were brought up too and they're only doing what they feel is "best"  for us but can we really keep deceiving ourselves still?
My mum likes to say "it's not every thing that is taught with chalk and blackboard".  It is your responsibility to read books,  Google stuffs,  learn about yourself,  how you respond to touch (I did not say go and masturbate, neither am I encouraging or discouraging pre marital sex)  but you owe yourself that responsibility.
I've seen a lady whose bf told her to drink ampiclox after sex that it would prevent pregnancy,  my Lord I nearly slapped her when she told me.  If only she knew about pills etc.
Kids should be taught to identify their privates by their proper names to avoid stories of child molestation and they should report any usual touching by caregivers inter alia.
Those of us who have younger ones should see it as a task to educate these young ones properly so they won't learn it the hard way ; you know the " I'll put only the tip"  gimmick.

In other news,  I was posted to Sokoto. Truly,  I never saw this coming.  When I got my call up letter,  I was just confused.  If I was the type that cries easily I would have cried a river but I hardly shed tears (forget the online crying I do).  My mum has been crying though and it's breaking my heart.
So I'll go to the north and stay for twelve months?  Man,  that's crazy. I don't even know if there is Internet access there. Am even too confused to continue blogging for the time being but then,  I realized I have no choice at least for the next three weeks so na to go book my flight remain *sigh*.

Wednesday, 30 July 2014

Lyrics of the day.


Lord I hope this day is good
I'm feeling empty and misunderstood
I should be thankful, Lord I know I should
But Lord I hope this day is good

Lord have you forgotten me
I've been praying to you faithfully
I'm not saying I'm a righteous man
But Lord I hope you understand

I don't need fortune and I don't need fame
Send down the thunder, Lord send down the rain
But when you're planning just how it will be
Plan a good day for me

Lord I hope this day is good
I'm feeling empty and misunderstood
I should be thankful  Lord I know I should
But Lord I hope this day is good

You've been the king since the dawn of time
All that I'm asking is a little less crime
It might be hard for the devil to do
But it would be easy for you

Lord I hope this day is good
I'm feeling empty and misunderstood
I should be thankful, Lord I know I should
But Lord I hope this day is good.

P. S.  Am afraid this might be the last lyrics of the month. Lovelies I've been super busy with the whole nysc preparation and today am going to school to collect my call up letter. Tell you what,  am so apprehensive but I know that the thoughts of God towards me are of good and not of evil.
BTW,  our dear Eve is ill and am reaching out to her this moment,  may the healing unction from above rest upon you babes.

Your road map for success.

On Sunday,  I read 'YOUR ROAD MAP FOR SUCCESS" by JOHN C. MAXWELL and a part of the book struck me. For over 30 minutes I was pondering on the next step when a voice told me to share it because it might be just what somebody reading this needs.
Most people with bad attitudes usually point to something other than themselves to explain their problem. But you can't rightfully blame your attitude on anything or anyone but yourself.  It's not what happens to you but what happens in you that counts.  Your attitude is not based on
1. Circumstances
You may not be able to control what happens to you,  but you are completely responsible for your reaction to what happens to you.
2. Upbringing
The past is gone and outside your control.  You are responsible for not allowing it to control you in the present.
3. Limitations
Since everyone faces limitations of some kind,  you need to learn to live with them.
4. Others
No one but you is responsible for the choices you make today.  You may have been hurt or abused in the past, but it's up to you to overcome that injury,  just as you would a physical one,  and move beyond it.

I'd enjoin the "bookies"  amongst us to try to read this book,  it's one of the few motivational books I can vouch for.

Tuesday, 29 July 2014


Hello, how are you *bats eyelashes *today I'd like for us to talk about a new word that has been added to our lexicon "sexting"  *in my Teacher Patience's voice*
Sexting is gotten from two words,  sex and texting and am sure we understand these terms *shines teeth* for my old school peeps,  it is the equivalent of phone sex but that involves sound ie calling on the phone but this is audio visual *ghenghen*
So what is Sexting?  It is the act of sending sexually explicit messages or images between cell phones.
I hate Sexting for reasons I can't explain.  I mean if a guy starts to steer the convo towards "baby can I see your nude"  that day I'll show the wild part of me.
You see,  I can NEVER in block letters send my nude to ANYBODY. sending of nude has wrecked a lot of relationship, careers,  homes,  etc and like they say,  prevention is better than cure.  I'd rather Skype nude with my partner than send nude *okbye*.
They say sending nudes and Sexting increases intimacy but mbanu, ezigbo mmadu adiro fecha (there's no good person no more), that nude can "mistakingly" leak or the receiver can decide to use your nude to blackmail you or distribute your nude.
Enough of me,  what's your view?

Monday, 28 July 2014

Late post.

Hello everyone *looks around* I apologize for holding you to ransom,  well,  I came to spend the holidays with my parents and as usual,  the electricity supply is zero *sigh*,  am actually on very short fuse tonight and I decided I wasn't posting nothing but I remembered Duru called me earlier in the day and I promised to update so I'll be bringing some manners everyone should know.

1. When asking for something,  say "please" .
2. When receiving something,  say "thank you". Be especially appreciative and say "thank you" for every gift you receive.
3. Do not interrupt people who are speaking with each other unless there is an emergency.
4. If you do need to get somebody's attention right away,  the phrase "excuse me"  is the most polite way for you to enter the conversation.
5. When you have any doubt about doing something, ask permission first.  It can save you from many hours of grief later.
6. Keep negative opinions to yourself or between you and your friends and out of earshot of others.
7. When people ask you how you are,  tell them and then ask them how they are.
8. Knock on closed doors and wait to see if there's a response before entering.
9. Cover your mouth when you cough or sneeze and don't pick your nose in public.
10. When someone helps you,  say "thank you".
11. Help others out when you can.
12. Chew with your mouth closed.
13. Do not hurt people on purpose.
14.if you hurt someone, say "I'm sorry"  and try to find a way to make it better.
15. Do not use people's things without permission.
16. Treat others the way you'd like to be treated.
17. When you have spent time at  friend's house, remember to thank your host for having you over and for the good time you had.
18. When you make a phone call,  introduce yourself first and then ask if you can speak with the person you're calling.
19. Do not make fun of anyone for any reason.  Teasing shows others you are weak.
20. As you walk through a door,  look to see if you can hold it open for someone else.

And yes,  I missed every one of you and let me apologize in advance because I won't be bringing lyrics of the day in the meantime.

Sunday, 27 July 2014

Lyrics of the day


it's not the end
But it feels like it
I'm waking up
Like I'm back from the dead
I'm stepping out
And I feel so afraid
But as long as I'm moving it's all right

I feel alive
And it hurts for a change
And looking back and it's hard to believe
That I was cool
With the days that I wasted complacent and tasteless and bored
But that was yesterday

We're never going back to ok
We're never going back to easy
We're never going back to the way it was
We're never going back to ok

The discontent
Like a slap in the face
Of mediocre
I've had enough of this place
The party's over
And I'm moving away from the frills of you
Beverly Hills but that was yesterday


We're here to stay
This is our time
Our only life
Our chance to live


It never rains but pours.

We got our second sunshine award courtesy *dancing atilogwu* and am dedicating this award to my loyal readers, I can't thank you enough and also to my bestie,  a friend who is more of a sister than a friend,  my boo,  my all TEMITOPE SALIU.
Am supposed to write some facts about me and the truth is at this point,  I don't think I want to write anything again oh,  *side eye* let me try but I can't guarantee eleven facts though.

1. I love painting my nails.
2. I have  scrap book *covers face*.
3. I  won my first award in an essay organized by NBC / NIGERIA CONSERVATIVE FOUNDATION in 2006 but I stopped writing essays after that.
4. I wear braids a lot.
5. I love teaching.
6. I hate talking on the phone for long.  Those one hour phone conversation tires me *sigh*.
7. I hate liquid tinned milk  I like to mix my milk powder partially and allow it to form lumps at the bottom of the cup.
8. I dunk a lot.
9. I hate sleeping near the wall.  I like the edge of the bed.
Now to Petite's questions.
1. What is your favorite color?
Purple baby.
2. Army,  Navy or airforce, whose uniform do you prefer?
Airforce *whispering* you have a young officer for me?
3. What are your hobbies?
Reading, gisting, visiting new places.
4. What is your favorite soda?
What soda? I take SANS if that's what you mean.
5. What do you love about blogging?
I've met tons of cool persons,  you see am not the type to make friends easily but man I've met lot of cool people on here,  also,  I express myself freely here.
6. Bugs Bunny or Tom and Jerry, which do you like?
Mowunmi, seriously? This is Amaka!!!!! I hate cartoons babe.
7. Facebook, Twitter or Instagram?
Am loving Instagram right now and guys,  follow me @seyonhun.
8. Whatsapp or BlackBerry messenger?
Uh,  both.
9. What chores do you dislike?
All abeg.  Who likes chores?
10. What is your addiction?  Shoes,  bags, clothes,  perfume or makeup.
11. Have you ever been on a blind date?

So am supposed to nominate bloggers but I've Nominated virtually all my favorite bloggers so am nominating
And as am too lazy to type questions,  you'll have to answer the same questions I was asked *winks*

Saturday, 26 July 2014

Lyrics of the day


Don't be blind
In all the fated life
Something great is happening in your life
But all the noise
Is drowning out your voice
No wonder you've been feeling down
From time to time
You know you have to realize
You can't stop day from turning into night

Hey you know you're gonna live
To find another day
It's just today things ain't so good
Get yourself back again
You've got so much love
That you can't afford to lose

goodbye heartbreak
Don't look for me
Cause I don't need you now
So long heartache
Don't look for me
Cause I don't need you now
I don't need you now
I don't need you now
I don't need you now
I don't need you now
I don't need you now
I don't need you now

Hey do you remember as a girl
You had a picture of the world
And you'd think about the great thing you would find
The thing is 9-5
And a struggle to survive
Ain't exactly what you had in mind
But that's the beauty of life
It takes a while to find
And you can't have your own way all the time




Some pairs of words are easily confused because they are pronounced similarly or spelled similarly. Today well be looking at a few of such.
1. Belief and believe.
Believe is a verb,  belief is a noun.
Wrong: he acted in the believe that he was right.
Correct: he acted in the belief that he was right.
2. Been and being.
Been is the past participle of be and can only be used after have,  has,  had.  Being is a present participle and a verb noun and is used after am,  is,  are,  was,  we're or at the beginning of a sentence or a clause or after a preposition.
Wrong: the matter has being reported to me.
Right: the matter has been reported to me.
Wrong: the rumor is been investigated.
Correct: the rumor is being investigated.
3. Border and boarder.
A border is the dividing line between one area and another.  A boarder is a person who lodges in a place.
Wrong: he was approaching the boarder between Nigeria and Benin.
Correct: he was approaching the border between Nigeria and Benin.
4. Cease and seize.
Cease means stop.  Seize means grab.
Wrong: he was ordered to seize laughing.
Correct: he was ordered to cease laughing.
5. Junction and juncture.
Both these words fundamentally mean joining but Junction normally means a place where two or more lines means such as electric wires. Juncture means coming together of events.
Wrong: at this Junction,  I have to say goodbye.
Correct: at this juncture,  I have to say goodbye.
6. Lose and loose ; lost and loosed.
Lose means not find and it's part are lose, lost and lost. Loose means untie,  release and it's parts are loose,  loosed,  loosed.
7. Sight,  site and cite.
Sight is both a verb and a noun and it has to do with seeing, site means place or situate.  Cite means quote.
8. Their and there.
There is an adverb,  their a possessive. There can never be used before a noun.
Wrong: they collected there money.
Correct: they collected their money.
9. This and these
This is singular, these is plural.
10. Sit and seat
Sit is always  verb and never a noun.  Seat is sometimes a noun,  sometimes a verb.  As a verb,  it usually appears in the passive form eg please be seated.
Wrong: She took her sit at the table.
Correct: she took her seat at the table.

Friday, 25 July 2014

Turn up!!!!

Am sooooooooo excited!! You know when your adrenaline is pumping so fast when you're overly excited? That's how I feel and what's making me excited is that my sweet heart's blog is two months old today!!!
I could go on and give the whole thank God I met you speech but I don't want to compete with oga at the top but the truth is each time I read ernie's comments here or her blog posts,  I feel like she's right beside me,  I mean she radiates positive vibes you can't help but notice.

Today am wishing you the very best blogging has to offer and am grateful for all the time you spend checking out my blog *whispers* your blog is the first thing I open when I open my eyes.
So guys,  what are you waiting for?  Turn up on!!!!

Lyrics of the day

He puts on a brave face
Every morning and every night
He goes on stage
With a big smile on his face
You split your sides with laughter
You are sitting on the edge of your seat
Cause you want some more
Show is over,  he goes home, take off his mask
Tears running down his face,  it's unbelievable
We all have our masks on,  the world is a stage
Go on tell me what is your story
Go on don't be shy,  what is your story

Behind the mask of a clown,  lies a trail of tears

Celebrities among us all the time
Big smiles for the camera around
They have lives that we only dream of
But on the inside they hurt just like us
They have things we only see on the movies
The tears we cry on the outside
They cry on the inside
Just like the clown,  they go home take off their mask
The world is a stage,  go on what is your story

Behind the mask of the clown lies  trail of tears

Epiphany moments

EPIPHANY: A moment of sudden and great revelation or realization/ a major realization in life in life when you're really stoned and realize something.
Today is Friday Woo-hoo am so excited.  24 weeks ago immediately after my clearance in school,  I picked up a job,  teaching. You see,  I love teaching!!!! The joy of impacting into the lives of others is something I can't describe and cupcakes,  today is officially my last day at work and I can proudly say I've led and I've been led,  I've taught and I've been taught,  I have impacted lives and my life has been impacted. Truly,  the journey wasn't smooth,  I almost resigned at some point due to some bullshit but well,  thanks to Dr Bobby who was my shoulder to cry on that moment.
I'll really miss the kids but my greatest joy is that one kid who was among the bottom three came first position this term!  Nobody believed I could mould the lives of those kids,  everybody was like Miss Patience (see I have many names for different places)  these kids are this and that but I always give them pep talk and we talked about everything,  sex inclusive.  No holds barred.
Now, I'll be going to serve my fatherland in two weeks, lovelies please pray am posted to a good state devoid of crisis.

So straight up,  your partner,  the one you love is involved in a life threatening accident and goes into a coma. After the whole treatment,  he/she opens his/her eyes but can't seem to recognize you, you know what that's called; amnesia.  Will you stay or leave? I know many of us will say they'll stay,  kindly type your reasons.

*Sigh* if such happens to me,  hmmmmmmm,  I'll surely be confused, sad,  etc but to leave? That's one thing Amaka will never do. If I can't be there for someone I claim to love,  then what are we doing together? I'll stay by his bedside always,  shower all the ounce of love in my blood on him and I believe with the love and all,  he'll recover fast.

Thursday, 24 July 2014

Lyrics of the day


Coffee black, cigarette
Start this day, like all the rest
First thing every morning that I  do
Is start missing you

Some broken hearts never mend
Some memories never end
Some tears will never dry
My love for you will never die

Rendezvous in the night
A willing woman to hold me tight
But in the middle of love’s embrace
I see your face

Some broken hearts never mend
Some memories never end
Some tears will never dry
My love for you will never die

I hate it when....

This morning when I woke up,  I was freaking tired,  I mean fagged out. Yesterday was the graduation/valedictory ceremony in the school I work and I was so busy I had to steal  time to update that one post. Am sorry for not bringing lyrics of the day.
Please am I the only one freezing?  This cold is damn killing and I don't know how I'll cope in NYSC camp in August *sad*.. Anyway,  enough of me.
Since my brain wasn't booting this morning,  immediately I opened blogger,  I got an idea of the topic you see up there.
1. I hate it when people barge into my room without knocking.

Most times when am in my room,  am usually in my birthday suit,  I mean it's my room innit? Now most people in my house have this bad habit of just opening my door without knocking and really you don't want to imagine the drama that usually follows.
Thankfully,  my younger ones are changing.

2. I hate it when someone hears a rumor and instead of going to Google asks me.
Gawd,  how I so hate this.  Yesterday my temper was on short fuse when I got home then I got this call from a friend who wanted to know if it was true nysc camp was in September,  ah,  the bile in me rose to my throat and I was like nysc has a website,  direct your enquiries there.  What he was asking me for,  I got the news last week by visiting the said website.
I don't get why someone with a phone that has Internet connection will be waiting for a third party news.

3. I hate it when I see stuffs like "My mum taught me to give my used toy to the less privilege",  "my ex is this and that".
Now this is so fucking childish so if you have been doing it,  stopeet.
I mean if he's my ex,  am his ex too.  Why use such language on your ex?  If the relationship was that bad,  deal with it,  it's your funeral not mine.  By using such terms or wallpapers you are just pointing to how insecure you are.  Simple.
You broke up with him,  move your fucking ass on and stop the vindictive statements because most times the said ex doesn't even know you exist again.

4. I hate it when people do  first to call.

Well,  I don't know what to say here really but why ask for my number if you won't call? I just don't get it really.  Then I call and subsequently you be like after all I was the first to call you the last time. What the freaking fuck? Lord knows I'll give you a taste of my madness before cutting you off.

5. I hate it when someone calls me and be like "who am I speaking with?"
For deuces sake you dialed my number,  I should be the one asking you.  I don't even have time to say no time.  I'll end that call straight up.

6. I hate people who act like prudes all the time.
I mean I like to talk about sex and I say it the way it is. Because of this,  I've been labeled with names that are not on my birth certificate but do I care? Except you're paying my bills,  I don't care. I don't aim to be who you want so you'd like me.

7. I hate guys who think because a girl invites them to her crib,  she wants the D.
I've met tons of these boy men *when God was allocating shares of idiots,  I got more than enough* and they be like a girl can only invite a guy over if she want sex.  My reaction ? If I start typing,  I'll type more than  a PhD thesis.

8. I hate married men who hit on single ladies.
Why promise a woman you'll stay with her through thick and thin and break that promise?? When I was in my first year I met a dude and he was all caring,  not like I wanted to date him but I had time to fool around and the day I went to his place,  I saw his wedding picture on the wall.  I was mad but calm and I told him to go and drop me back,  he started the whole I can explain shit but I started my drama..
If the men can't use their brains to think,  girls please some men are off  the limits.  And to all those men cheating but acting the good husband,  the hottest part of hell awaits you.

Enough of me,  go on and tell me the things you hate.

Wednesday, 23 July 2014

Categories of men who can't be in a relationship

1. Men who are looking for their mother
These men are looking to be fed,  having their cleaning done.
2. Men who are too absorbed in themselves
It's their life,  their hobbies,  their friends,  their ambitions,  their children, their....... Somehow their women doesn't seem to come into the equation.
3. Men who are too on a mission
The focus and dedication of a man on a mission is an amazing sight.  Sometimes,  it just goes too far.  Sometimes the climber climbs one too many mountains and kills the relationship in the process. Sometimes the businessman goes on one too many trips abroad and loses sight of home.  Men need to find a balance on this.
4. Men who see themselves as alpha
These are the ones that cause so much pain.  They are men who have a misplaced idea about men needing to be the alpha males. They chase and conquer women to show how great they are.  In the process that just show how lacking they are in any emotion,  understanding or even humanity. They are no better than dogs even if on the surface they appear to know what women want.
5. Men who just want a pal
These are the sad ones who spend their lives going to the pub or the football game.  They remember the great times with their pals when they were young and just want it to continue.
Occasionally it works when one of the women becomes one of the lads,  but this never lasts then the man is left wondering what happened.
Sometimes  men just need to realize they need to grow up.
6. Men who are afraid of intimacy
Men often have difficulty dealing with intimacy, particularly when a relationship appears to be out of their control.  These men also have difficulty acknowledging that they have difficulty dealing with intimacy.  They usually sublimate the emotions into actions that they can understand. This can show itself as aggression or even abuse,  but generally it just results in sullenness and withdrawal.
Men who have this difficulty need help to overcome their fear and learn to become a normal part of the world.
7. Men who want their lost youth
This shows itself classically in the mid life crisis.  Things were great when they were young or so they remember.  Life was free and easy,  there were no pressure,  no mortgages.  Their women were beautiful and nubile in the time before children..  They have affairs trying to reach their long lost Nirvana. In the process they throw everything away.  It is possible however to bring your youth into your present life by changing your outlook.
8. Men who want to control
These are men who can't love,  who just never seem to get over the temper tantrums of their childhood.  They want everything and they want it now.  No one is going to stand on their way. Nothing is good enough for them.
They need to open their eyes and see that there is a big wide world out there that doesn't revolve around them.
9. Men who lack a sense of polarity
These are new men who feel compassion  for their women and want to spend their lives honoring and worshipping them.  There's nothing wrong with this as such but the problem  comes when their masculinity disappears on the process.
They go into their feminine and lose their sense of being a man.  They seek equality with their woman and end up being the same.  The polarity disappears and the relationship becomes empty.
10. Men who are just too macho
They just get so tied up with being a man.  They look good,  they drive a great car and they just expect women to fall over themselves to get to them.  Well,  they do that at first.  Then they find that there's nothing there,  there's no substance,  no real man at all.  Don't get caught on this trap,  look at yourself long and slow and look for what a woman sees in you.
Men,  take care, become aware of who you are and how women see you. Don't become one of the men who can't love a woman,  be strong, be present and find love.

Material was from

Tuesday, 22 July 2014

Lyrics of the day.


No more your freaking bullshit
No more you talking of lies
No more you put me down
Deceptive blue eyes
Wake up and smell the coffee
Wake up and take a pill
You think I won't go on with out you
You really think I will fail
You really are a fool
YYou sent a man to fool
And I'm kinda sorry for you

WWhat's going around
YYou talking me down
BBut I found out that
So it was you
So it was you
You picked up the knife
And then cut me in two
You stabbed me in the back
And then you twisted it in
Oh oh oh
You left me for dead again

No more you blame Jesus
Why don't you pick a lame
I felt that you were normal
But you are devil's incarnate
I tried to keep it grounded
Cause it's no good for my health
But you really can't save a man for yourself
This is so much I can say
Before I turn to breathe
All times with you


Soldiers foremost
You are no proof


We've got another award in our kitty!!!

Good morning cupcakes *bats eyelashes*,  remember I mentioned yesterday that beautiful Tosin of Nominated us for the sunshine award *doing the sitay dance * *stops and looks at ernie* *goes back to continue typing* so here we are.
The rules are:
1. Share eleven facts about yourself.
2. Answer the questions set by the blogger that Nominated you.
3. Nominate bloggers.
4. Set 7 questions for the nominated bloggers.
 So let's go.
11 facts about me.
1. My handwriting is bad.
2. I don't eat hot food or food half eaten by anyone, not even my dad.  But I can eat the meat Sha *bats eyelashes*.
3. I have phobia for flying.
4. I love people with dimples *waves at Ernie*.
5. I sleep in my birthday suit.
6. I hate fish especially catfish.  That name alone makes me want to puke.  I hate beans too. Dear future hubby,  take note.
7. I can't eat food with salad dressing or mayo,  am local like that.
8. I have black spots at the tip of my tongue.  I  don't know what it's called though.
9. I can roll my tongue.
10. I hate the fact that am busty. I'd have love to have hips and butt.
11. I don't like surprises.
Phew,  that was hard though.

Tosin's questions.
Tosin: What is your inspiration in life?
Me: Things around me inspire me.
Tosin: one amazing thing you are looking forward to before the year ends?
Me: Babes I want to be in a relationship. My mum is beginning to suspect am a lesbian.
Tosin: Your favorite sport?
Me: That has to be football.
Tosin: Describe your dream vacation?
Me: Going off to one of the exotic Island with my hubby and all we'll do the time we spend there is eat,  make love on the sand, in the water, everywhere and of course shop.
Tosin: Your favorite character in the Bible.
Me: David.
Tosin: Your favorite fashion item?
Me: lip gloss.
Tosin: Real book or e books?
Me: Real book oh,  I have issues with my eyes so looking at the screen for too long is a no no.
Tosin: Your blog role model?
Me: To be honest I don't think I have but I admire Ernie.

My nominees :

My questions.
1. Ever been attracted to the same sex?
2. If you could go on a time machine,  how far will you go and what will you change?
3. Your favorite season of the year and why?
4.  Most visited Web page?
5. Do you have any pets?
6. Righty or lefty?
7. Did you sing today?

Monday, 21 July 2014

Lyrics of the day


Lazy old days
Rolling away
Dreaming that day away
Don’t want to go
Now that I’m in the flow

Crazy amazing day
One red balloon
Floats to the moon
Just let it fly away
I only know
That I’m longing to go
Back to my lazy days

And how it sings and how it sighs
And how it never stays
And how it rings and how it cries
And how it sails away…away…away

Why do you care?

Before I do today's post,  sweethearts,  today is Eve's birthday and as a fellow July born,  I can't let the day pass without wishing her the best life has to offer on her day.  Happy birthday sweetie.

Who is the most important person in your life?
Your mum or dad?
Your sister or brother?
A special friend?
Husband or wife?
There are most important people in everyone’s life
When people care about one another
They sometimes do remarkable things
Remarkable, wonderful, important things
That makes the world a place to be.

Meanwhile, am very angry. I mean angry. Can someone explain why I've not been enjoying good Internet services for the past couple of days?  This is just crazy and annoying.  I don't mind not being able to call and all but not being able to open and comment on my favorite blogs is annoying!!!!  Damn!!!

On the other hand,  Chidinma came fifth on the Miss Africa New Jersey pageant yesterday and tell you what am still proud of her.

And yes,  we were Nominated for the sunshine award by and as soon as I can,  I'll do a post on it.
Have a terrific week lovelies.

Sunday, 20 July 2014

Lyrics of the day


Set me free, why don’t cha, baby
Get out of my life, why don’t cha, baby
Cause you don’t really love me
You just keep me hanging on
You don’t really need me
But you keep me hanging on
You don’t really need me
But you keep me hanging on

Why do you keep a coming around
Playing with my heart
Why don’t you get out of my life
And let me make a new start
Let me get over you
The way you’ve gotten over me
Set me free, why don’t cha baby
Let me be, why don’t cha, baby
Cause you don’t really love me
You just keep me hanging on
Now you don’t really want me
You just keep me hanging on

You say although we have broken up
You still wanna be just friends
But how can we still be friends
When seeing you only breaks my heart again
And there ain’t nothing I can do about it

Woo, set me free, why don’t cha baby
Woo, get out of my life why don’t cha baby
Set me free, why don’t cha baby
Get out of my life, why don’t cha baby

You claim you still care for me
But your heart and soul needs to be free
Now that you’ve gotten your freedom
You wanna still hold on to me
You don’t want me for yourself
So let me find someone else

Why don’t you be a man about it
And set me free
Now you don’t care a thing about me
You’re just using me

Go on, get out, get out of my life
And let me sleep at night
Cause you don’t really love me
You just keep me hanging on

So dear readers,  I've been thinking of something lately.  I really want to relate with all my readers on a personal basis because this blog is like my family,  in fact it is my family albeit virtual.  Yes,  I have spoken to couple of us on phone but I want to talk to all of you.  What can we do? 

Dating a mummy's boy?

The greatest misfortune that can happen to any girl is dating a guy who is still tied to his mother's apron string.
Imagine a grown ass adult telling you his mother told him not to drink custard that is causes convulsion,  dafuck? Or a grown ass man whose mum still buys him boxers.  Oh yeah,  mother can get you boxers once in a while but always? No frigging way baby.
While I have it etched on my gray matter that my duty as a girl friend is not to play the role of his mother,  I won't and can't accept baby sitting a man who always whines my mummy this, my mommy that every freaking time,  we'll,  I've not had the misfortune of dating one so far though because my own craze no be for here at all.
Mummy's boy is a term for a man who is excessively attached to his mother at an age when men are expected to be independent.
With a mummy's boy,  you either make a decision to stay and learn to cope or else get out and set your sights on a more independent dude.
Signs that you're with a mummy's boy

1. He speaks to her everyday
he just has to contact her everyday either by phone , email,  text,  Skype or face to face.  And this takes importance over everything else
2. He spends major holidays with her
They have certain traditions that cannot be broken,  not on anybody's account.
3. He asks her for advise
Whenever he is in a fix,  it is his mother he turns to before anyone else. Of course this means that if you're having problems in your relationship,  he is likely to talk to his mother about how to solve them.
4. He runs errands for her all the time
He's happy to drop anything he's doing at the moment to go and run errands for his mother.
5. He can't say no to her
His favorite word to her is "yes" . He wants to please her and gain her approval at all cost.  He's craved it all his life and he's ready to put her first to get some recognition. This means that the word "no"  is out of the question and is something that he will try to avoid saying if possible as he can't stand facing her disappointment.
6. He needs her for reassurance
Whenever your guy is feeling insecure or anxious about something,  he turns to mum to build him up.  He wants her compliments,  praise and words of support to get him through and he will continually go to her when his confidence is low.  Without this  he struggles to believe on himself and have the courage to take on life as a man.
7. He puts her ahead of his wife/girlfriend
He'll always consider how she might be impacted by your plans and will cancel if they don't suit mum.  He will be quick to defend his mother over you and you'll need to get on her if you want a long term relationship with her son.  He'll talk about her a lot to you,  spend time with her exclusively and you'll have to fit in with her routines -  no questions asked.
8. He let's her come over to his place unannounced
She'll have free reign to come over to his place unannounced. There are no boundaries with her,  so if she's in the area and she has some free time she'll be popping in.  This might be a nice surprise on some occasions but on others it can be embarrassing,  inconvenient and annoying.
9. He relies on her for money
Although he is an adult,  he still may rely on her for financial support.  He appreciates this but is also tied to this as he has certain obligations abd pressure.  The money gives him security but it also binds him to keeping mum as the most important person in his life.
10. He still lives at home
This is a huge sign that your guy is a mummy's boy.  He is all grown up but he is still living at home or else he's got a place out the back of the house or he's living on the same street.  This tells you that he hasn't cut the strings and become independent and still needs the emotional support of mother to deal with life's stressors.

Meanwhile today my very good blogger friend and namesake Chidinma of will be taking part in the miss Africa New Jersey and she's representing Nigeria so lovelies,  let's wish her luck.  Babes,  you know am solidly behind you.  That crown must come to Nigeria oh *bats eyelashes *.

Saturday, 19 July 2014

Tagged again

Hello lovelies *group hug* we have been tagged again.  Yesterday my sugar tagged me and because she's my oga at the top,  I had to answer with alacrity.
I believe the purpose of tagging fellow bloggers is to get to know them more and so far, I've told 40 truths/facts about me.
1. I love sleeping.  Nobody wakes me up when am sleeping.
2. Am a very spontaneous person especially with conversations.  The whole hello,  hi ish pisses me off.  I'd rather not say hi if I have nothing to say to you.
3. I don't know how to pretend.  If I don't like you,  I'll tell you to your face.
4. I like for people to hug me *no body odour please*
5. My body is very sensitive.
6. I hate being tickled.  Weird yeah?
7. I spend hours every night checking random things on Google.
8. I love arts more than sciences.  Till the point I wrote my WASSCE,  my mum was still convincing me to switch but hey,  I still might do something art related someday.
9. Once I like someone , that person can do no wrong in my eyes,  I mean absolutely no wrong but then,  it takes just one thing to turn the tables *breech of trust*.
10. My ears ain't pierced.
11. I hate wearing bra *ok bye*.
12. I keep claws.  I hate short nails.
13. My longest relationship lasted eleven months.
14. I write a lot,  I mean I can just be in the kitchen and I'll get an idea,  that same minute I'll race to my room and write it down.  I have lots of papers in my wallet,  bag,  with things I scribbled down.
15. Am not a movie fan,  I prefer to talk.
16. I smile a lot! Like a lot.
17. My threshold for pain is very low *whispers,  my butt still hurts from the injections of three weeks ago*.
18. In my circle of friends,  am like the mother hen .
19. I don't suffer fools gladly,  I hate people who are not Street wise , people who can't think to save their lives.
20. I hardly use the word "love"  when referring to people.  If I say I love you then the whole of my spirit,  soul and body loves you.

This is totally unrelated to this post but I can't help but include it. I've been a blogger for ten months *wow I like the sound of that * and in my journey,  I've met the most amazing people online and I honestly hope to meet every one of you someday.  One of the sweet people I met is Adesewa of and believe me she's a very sweet lady.
Adesewa has been MIA for a while because she was heavily pregnant and we've been in constant touch so yesterday when I opened my mail and I saw her mail,  I was ecstatic!!!  She delivered a boy two days ago and mother and child are in good condition.

Lyrics of the day


Look we gotta talk
Dang I know
I know it’s just
It’s just…………………
Somethings I gotta get off my chest
Whoa, whoa, whoa, oh, whoa, whoa
Whoa, whoa, oh, whoa

Baby come here and sit down, let’s talk
I got a lot to say so I guess I’ll start by
Saying that I love you
But you know, this thing ain’t been
So walk in the park for us
I swear it’ll only take a minute
You’ll understand when I finish yeah
And I don’t wanna see you cry
But I don’t wanna be the one to tell you a lie so

How do you let it go? When you
You just don’t know? What is on
The other side of the door
When you’re walking out, talk about it
Everything I tried to remember to say
Just went out my head
So amma do the best I can to get you to understand
Cause I know

There’s never a right time to say goodbye
But I gotta make the first move
Cause if I don’t you gonna start hating me
Cause I really don’t feel the way I once felt about you
Girl it’s not you, it’s me
I kinda gotta figure out what I need oh
There’s never a right time to say goodbye
But we know that we gotta go our separate ways
And I know it’s hard but I gotta do it
And it’s killing me
Cause there’s never a right time
Right time to say goodbye

Girl I know your heart is breaking
And a thousand time
I found myself asking, why? why?
Why am I taking so long to say this
But trust me, girl I never
Meant to crush your world
And I never
Thought I would see the day we grew apart
And I wanna know

How do you let it go? When you
You just don’t know? What is on
The other side of the door
When you’re walking out, talk about it
Everything I tried to remember to say
Just went out my head
So amma do the best I can to get you to understand
Cause I know

There’s never a right time to say goodbye
But I gotta make the first move
Cause if I don’t you gonna start hating me
Cause I really don’t feel the way I once felt about you
Girl it’s not you, it’s me
I kinda gotta figure out what I need oh
There’s never a right time to say goodbye
But we know that we gotta go our separate ways
And I know it’s hard but I gotta do it
And it’s killing me
Cause there’s never a right time
Right time to say goodbye

Listen to your heart
Girl you know
We should be apart baby
I just can’t do It
I just can’t do it
Listen to your heart
Girl you know
We should be apart, baby
I just can’t do it
And sometimes it makes me wanna cry
Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh (4x)
Do you hear me crying

How do you let it go? When you
You just don’t know? What is on
The other side of the door
When you’re walking out, talk about it
Everything I tried to remember to say
Just went out my head
So amma do the best I can to get you to understand
Cause I know

There’s never a right time to say goodbye
But I gotta make the first move
Cause if I don’t you gonna start hating me
Cause I really don’t feel the way I once felt about you
Girl it’s not you, it’s me
I kinda gotta figure out what I need oh
There’s never a right time to say goodbye
But we know that we gotta go our separate ways
And I know it’s hard but I gotta do it
And it’s killing me
Cause there’s never a right time
Right time to say goodbye


English does not have a perfect regular system of spelling. I hear many funny pronunciations because sometimes we try to pronounce words the way they are spelt so we'll be looking at common examples today.
1. Ewe
Ewe is pronounced as "you"
2. Architect
Do not pronounce the "ch"  like the "ch"  in "church". It is pronounced like "k" as if the word were written "arkitect".
3. Available
The "ai"  here is pronounced like the "a"  of "state" not like the "a" of "back". The word should not be pronounced as if it were written "avallable".
4. Debt
The "b" is silent.  Pronounce the words as if it were written "dett"
5. Elite
This word has French origin and still keeps a French style of pronunciation. It should sound like "ayleet"  not like "eelight".
6. Legal
The first three letters are not pronounced like the word leg,  say the word as if it started with "lee".
7. Listen
Pronounce as if it were "lissen".  The "t"  is silent.  Other examples are fasten,  castle,  bustle.
8. Shepherd
"ph" is normally pronounced like "f"  in English,  but this word is pronounced as if it were "shepperd"  not as if it were "shefferd",  the "h" is silent.
9. Vehicle
The "h"  in the middle is silent.  Pronounce the word as if it were "veeicle".
10. Wednesday
Do not say the word "Wednesday" . The first "d"  is silent and the word is pronounced as if it were "wensday".

Friday, 18 July 2014

I have been tagged.

Yesterday Obiamaka of tagged me and I don't know much about it but I think it's basically writing twenty random stuffs about me so let's go *in Osadebe's voice*

1. Am half igbo,  half egun (from Badagry,  the town where the Christian missionaries celebrated the first Christmas service in Nigeria)  but trust me,  my igbo gene is stronger.  I even speak with slight igbo accent.
2. I talk too fast that even my mum hardly hears what I say but am calm when I talk on phone.
3. I kinda stammer
4. Not to brag but I am very intelligent.
5. I hate typing,  I guess that's why I hardly type epistles in the comment section of blogs.  I prefer to talk.
6. I've not dated in the last 13 months.
7. I love children!!!
8. I get bored easily. People bore me quickly so if am still talking to you after one month then I like you.
9. I eat solids with cutlery *side eye*
10. Am a bad ass cook.  I love to cook but unfortunately I hardly eat what I cook I don't know why.
11.  I Love reading... I mean seeing a good book give me something close to orgasm.*covers face*
12. I use swear words a lot
13. Am very impatient especially with dumb people *shrugs*
14. I cannot fake an accent.  Biko how do people do it?
15. I used to run 100m in high school.
16. I've never used a phone for two straight years.  Either it gets stolen,  it get spoilt or I get bored.
17. I wake up in the midnight abruptly to count my shoes.
18. I could be stone hearted even though most times I like for people to feel the emotional part of me.
19. My "I don't care attitude"  is very terrible.
20. I love South paws *waves at Ernie *

Am tagging :

Lyrics of the day


Perhaps I was addicted to the dark side
Somewhere inside my childhood witnessed my heart die
And even though we both came from the same places
The money and the fame made us all change places
How could it be through the misery that came to pass
The hard times make a true friend afraid to ask for currency
But you could run to me when you need and I’ll never leave
Honestly someone to believe in, as you can see

It’s a small thang to a true, what could I do?
Real hommies help you get through
And I come to know he’d do the same thang if he could
Cos in the hood true hommies make you feel good
And half the times we be actin up call the cops
Bringin a cease to the peace that was on my block
It never stops, when my mama ask me will I change
I tell her yeah, but it’s clear I’ll always be the same
Until the end of time

Chorus: take these broken wings
I need your hands to come and heal me once again
(until the end of time)
So I can fly away, till the end of time
These broken wings
You gotta learn to fly and learn to live so free
(until the end of time)
So I can fly away till the end of time
Take these broken wings

Now who’s to say if I was right or wrong?
To live my life as an outlaw all along
Remain strong in this planet full of player haters
They conversate but death row full of demonstrators
And in the end drinking Hennessey made all my enemies envy me
So cold when I flow eliminatin easily
Fall to they knees, they plead for they right to breathe
While beggin me to keep the peace

What I can see closer to achieve
In times of danger don’t freeze time to be a g
Follow my lead, I’ll supply everything you need
An ounce of game and the training to make a g
Remember me, as an outcast outlaw
Another album out, that’s what I’m about more
Getting raw till the day I see my casket
Buried as a g while the whole world remembers me
Until the end of time


Epiphany moments

Epiphany: a moment of sudden and great revelation or realization in life when you are really stoned and realize something.

Good morning lovelies, today is my favorite day of the week because I get to rest and sleep to my satisfaction. The week started on a high as I turned a year older,  well those so called friends that found it hard to wish me happy birthday,  today the cord of friendship has been severed between us.  Please don't ever think you have one Seyon friend anywhere.
I can't thank Ernie enough,  I've been showing all my family members what you got me and babes,  we can't wait to meet you.
Yes,  my sweetie Moby came to my office on Tuesday and spent time with me; I've said it before yeah?  It doesn't matter.  Thanks for coming.
Enough of my recap.  Down to the business of the day.

Your dad is the most loving dad in the world,  blah blah blah but old man kicks the bucket and a couple of women come stringing along to the burial with kids that bear an uncanny resemblance to old man and they insist they must be listed as part of those left behind, and by extension share in his will.  What will you do?

As for me,  these days,  nothing seems to shock me again.  If such happens to me,  I'll simply request for DNA and if it's true,  well I'll oblige them.  After all naked we came to this world and naked we shall return besides,  who depends on his or father's riches these days when you can make your own money?
Give them what they want and avoid spiritual battles you didn't ask for and in come cases long drawn court battles?

Thursday, 17 July 2014

Lyrics of the day


You shout it out
But I can't hear a word you say
I'm talking loud,  not saying much
I'm criticized but all your bullets ricochet
You shoot me down but I get up

I'm bullet proof,  nothing to lose
Fire away,  fire away
Ricochet,  you take your aim
Fire away,  fire away
You shoot me down,  but I won't fall
I am titanium
You shoot me down,  but I won't fall
I am titanium

Cut me down
But it's you who'll have further to fall
Ghost town and haunted love
Raise your voice , sticks and stones may break my bones
I'm talking loud,  not saying much

I'm bullet proof,  nothing to lose
Fire away,  fire away
Ricochet, you take your aim
Fire away,  fire away
You shoot me down,  but I won't fall
I am titanium
You shoot me down,  but I won't fall
I am titanium
I am titanium
I am titanium

I usually don't dedicate my songs to anyone but I did this specially for my very good bad friend Nonso.  I wish you all the best with T.

Being alone

Being alone can mean many things, some good, some bad. When do you like to be alone? When don’t you like to? What kind of things do you like to do when you’re alone? What kinds of things are more fun when you do them with other people?

I like to be alone when I need to think perfectly, when I have to plot several graphs that must give me a straight slope…..I like to be alone when am hurting, those periods I don’t want to hear sorry because it will only trigger the pain am feeling, those moments that I am heartbroken and I need to lock myself in my room or the toilet and cry my eyes out.
I don’t like to be alone when am afraid, you know those unsure moments when all I want is to be held close, those periods all I want is just a bear hug and I need to hear words like “lean on me” words like “you’ll be fine”, I don’t like to be alone when am excited, I have a very contagious spirit and I like to share the enthusiasm I feel. I don’t like to be alone when am coking or eating, I like to cook up a feast and am a good cook oh *shines teeth*
When am alone I like to write and write, you see I have a lot of junk paper in my wallet, my bag, my shelf, everywhere. I also like to cuddle my pillow and breathe slowly…and yes, I like to read my Sidney Sheldon, Clive Cussler or John Grisham.
It’s fun when I watch TV with people, it’s fun when I share a laugh over a  drink with people and of course it’s fun gossiping with the girls *tongue out*
Let’s talk

Wednesday, 16 July 2014

Lyrics of the day


I guess as a lover, I have a ways to go
When someone wants you they should just say it so
But you’ll understand if you take my hand
Then we can dance real slow to something on the radio

Listen to the radio, oh, listen to the radio
Let’s spend the night together, baby don’t go
They sing it on the radio

I try to find a way to explain to you
What’s on my mind and not sound so plain to you
But you’ll  realize if you close your eyes
The feelings my words can’t show
They’re playing on the radio

Listen to the radio, oh, listen to the radio
Let’s spend the night together, baby don’t go
They sing it on the radio
The words I’d say don’t seem to sound as real
The songs they play, that’s how I feel

So listen to the radio, listen to the radio
Let’s spend the night together, baby don’t go
They sing it on the radio

Signs that you are in a relationship with yourself

Lately I've fallen in love with love and I've written a couple of love posts in my head but this morning,  I finally overcame laziness and put it down for us to share my thoughts.
Before I forget,  I want to give a big shout out to Moby; she came over to my workplace and spent over one hour with me.  You the best babes.
So yes,  we all have loved at some point,  we must love after all isn't it the force of love that keeps us alive? But the sad truth is at some point, we can't always stay,  sometimes we have to move on and we're not always given a choice.  At some point,  people don't have to stay.  Some do, some don't,  some can't. The fact that we can't always stay is why people break up,  marriages collapse and all of that.
Me thinks that people just don't fall out of love,  it is a process that if not handled with caution and care leaves bad taste and the "God punish my ex" shit. Well,  you know they say love is like playing the piano,  first you must learn to play by the rules,  then you must forget the rules and play from your heart.
So what are the signs of the first cracks?
1. Communication is almost non existent
The main reason I broke up with 99% of my ex boyfriends is communication.  I can't imagine not talking to my partner at least twice a day if we are not together. When I love , I love with my body,  my soul,  my spirit and all so if my partner doesn't call me often,  then something is wrong but some people make the mistake of doing the calling all the time.  Heck no! Communication is a two way traffic.  If you don't get as much as a text message that won't take one minute to compose,  honey,  the red flag is waving up there.

2. The pictures of both of you is the one you picmix
If the only pictures of you and your partner is the one you use those photo applications to join is what you are displaying as "my boo and I" then you are very single. End of story.

3. You are always at loggerheads
I once dated a guy who was always marking me.  Like I call xyz boo and he picks a fight , anything I did was always wrong,  I broke up with him in my mind six  months before I told him to his face.  If you spend 23 out of 24 hours settling quarrels then you might just be in a relationship with yourself.

4. You don't know any of his family or friends six months into the relationship
Six months is a whole lot yeah? Yes,  I wrote six months because it's after six months I count a relationship as real,  anything less is puppy love.
How can you date a guy this long and not know a single of his family or friends? I don't mean friends that only come to eat jollof rice oh,  I mean his or her real gees.  My boyfriend not introducing me to his family or friends only means one thing.  I don't exist.  End of discussion.
Abeg if you don't know your partner's friends (and take note that you should be introduced voluntarily,  you shouldn't ask), use your tongue to count your teeth and run for dear life with your legs touching the back of your head.

5. Emotionally unavailable
If your supposed boo isn't available emotionally,  honey what are you still waiting for? There is more to a relationship than sex.  Yes,  the romance is important but isn't it the emotions we feel that attracts us to people? You don't have to beg before emotions is showered on you.  Abeg if your partner is emotionally unavailable, then you should wake up and smell the coffee.

Remember, just because I love you and you love me doesn't mean we are meant to be and like I like to say,  there are no guarantees in life  only promises and whispers.
If any of this is evident in your relationship, you just might be dating yourself.
Let's talk

Tuesday, 15 July 2014

Lyrics of the day


Let me sail, let me sail, let the orinoco flow
Let me reach, let me beach on the shores of Tripoli
Let me sail, let me sail, let me crash upon your shore
Let me reach, let me beach far beyond the yellow sea

Sail way, sail away, sail away
Sail away, sail away, sail away
Sail away, sail away, sail away
Sail away, sail away, sail away

From Bissau to Palau in the shades of Avalon
From Fiji to Tiree and the isles of Ebony
From Peru to Cebu feel the power of Babylon
From Bali to Cali far beneath the coral sea

Sail way, sail away, sail away
Sail away, sail away, sail away
Sail away, sail away, sail away
Sail away, sail away, sail away

From the north to the south, Ebudae into Khartoum
From the deep sea of clouds to the island of the moon
Carry me on the waves to the land I’ve never been
Carry me on the ways to the lands I’ve never seen
We can sail, we can sail with the Orinoco flow
We can sail, we can sail
Sail away, sail away, sail away

We can steer, we can with Rob Dickins at the wheel
We can sigh, say goodbye, Ross and his dependencies
We can sail, we can sail
Sail away, sail away, sail away


If I say I love you
Would you reciprocate?
If I say I need you
Would you always be there for me?
If I say my heart throbs
Would you believe me?
If I say forever
Would you encourage me?

This was the first poem I ever wrote I think; I was in high school,  I was 13 and I had a crush on Obiora (remember him from the "my first crush post?)  so pardon me for any act of omission or commission.

Woo-hoo, yesterday I was a year older and man,  I got so much love to last me a life time from my blogger friends.
Ernie and her husband bought me this huge birthday card and chocolate candle and man,  I was wowed; go here to see it.
Moby,  Obiamaka, Omowunmi, Bobby,  Chuka,  Temmy,  Fikemi, Ugo,  Godwin,  Shy anonymous, Tosin, Duru my surest paddy,  I see you!!!  I love love you to the moon and back.

In other news,  am very angry. For the past three days now I've had the worse Internet service and  am so vexed. I mean even with my money I still get to suffer?
Am just tired of Nigerian networks because I've used all of them and they are the same and am tired of changing networks.

My second complain is my phone. I don't know if am the one doing something wrong but I don't like my picture quality. Please can someone help because I've gone to camera settings yet it's the same.  I use a Sony Xperia SP and am already frustrated oh.  Maybe I should just switch to iPhone *looks at tibs*

Monday, 14 July 2014

Today is the first day of the rest of my life!!!!

Time is a swiftly flowing river that has no shores, no boundaries. It's seasons ain't winter,  spring,  fall or summer but birthdays and joys and troubles and pains.  
Today is the first day of a new year for me and am super excited.  

Happy birthday to me!!  Am so grateful to God for without him,  I won't be typing this today.  I've been in near death experience several times,  I've passed out twice,  but still he kept me.  Am so so grateful papa. 
As a kid,  I used to dream of myself as a married lady at 24, cruising round the world with my rich hubby in our private yatch but hey,  today am turning 24 and am not even in a serious relationship much more married.  I had dreams as a starry eyed teenager,  big dreams that are still valid. Along the line I've made silly mistakes,  terrible choices,  I've done things that I look back now and ask myself what I was thinking back then but am not one to dwell so much on her past ; those mistakes only help shape me into who I am today. 
If there's anything am most grateful for it is the fact that in the past one year I've not thrown a tantrum *praise the Lord*.  You see,  I had terrible anger issues that even my mum used to be scared to talk to me but on my last birthday,  I went to church and told God to help root out that anger in me and he did it!  
This year while I really crave for fancy shoes,  clothes,  bags,  etc as birthday gift,  I want God to put in me that spirit of Daniel,  the spirit to be ten times better,  the wisdom of Solomon I also crave for,  and I know he has done it already.  

Happy birthday to me and every one celebrating today.  We shall be the head and not the tail,  we shall be blessings to this generation! 

Sunday, 13 July 2014


Friendship is a state of being emotionally attached to another person resulting from feelings of affection. It is also a warm and intimate relationship with someone you like and trust. Friends provide a basic source of happiness, pleasure and companionship. Friendship is very crucial to all because it provides opportunity through which we acquire experiences which aids the process of developing a self identity , it helps us to develop inter personal communication skills and helps us with conflict management skills. Friendship are among the most important relationships we form in life.
Through friendship, individuals come to know, trust and depend on each other for affection, acceptance and support. Our first and most important relationship outside of the family are those we establish with friends.

True friendship involves:
1. Mutual respect: which involves relating with others in ways that honour their personal values, decision and choices even if they will not accept ours.
2. Acceptance of people as they are and not always trying to change or make them live up to our expectations.
3. Honest communication which is the sharing of truth and being able to talk about sensitive issues or negative characters without malice.
4. Support which involves being able to support each other consistently, being able to depend upon someone.
Others include common interest, warmth, age, gender, ability to keep confidence, similarities of values and attitudes, background, loyalty, etc.

There are different types of friends. While some are close friends, others are not so close, yet others are mere acquaintances i.e. people you know but do not consider them as friends.

The social and cultural environment often influence friendship.  The view used to be prevalent that friendship between male and female should be discouraged between puberty and marriage. This erroneous view is rooted in the belief that males and females cannot relate to each other in a caring way without having shared sexual activities.

Forgiveness, trust, loyalty, ability to keep confidence, co operation, honesty, shared industry, support during good and bad times, respect, reliability, empathy, understanding, affection, sympathy.

Friendship is important because:
1. We learn social skills through friendship
2. It provides us an opportunity to share experiences and insights
3. Skills gained in articulating feelings and thoughts will be helpful throughout life
4. It promotes self esteem
5. It provides companionship
6. It involves fun, sharing and caring
7. It promotes mutual respect
8. Appropriate inter personal communication skills are developed
1. Having group activities
2. Sharing information
3. Exchanging gifts
4. Sharing goals and aspirations
5. Visiting each other’s families
6. Giving support in times of trouble
7. Making positive comments about each other
1. Gossiping
2. Disclosing confidential information
3. Dishonesty
4. Selfishness
5. Suspicion
6. Disrespect
7. Misunderstanding
8. Betrayal of trust

Saturday, 12 July 2014

Lyrics of the day


maybe I’m just a ghost
disappear when anybody’s close
go through when you travel
travel over near

maybe I’m just a ghost
emptied by them, anybody knows
maybe I’m on a rose
or am I even here

every time I try to walk through the walls
more walls appear
what’s the point of feeling love for you
when you don’t believe I’m here
what’s the point in trying to raise your voice
if no one ever hears
every time I try to pull you close
you disappear

maybe I’m a ghost
just a whisper in a puff of smoke
a secret that nobody knows
no one will ever hear
oh maybe I’m a ghost
spectre of the wrong cause
thorn without a rose
something people fear

and every time I find I’m off the walls
it’s all becoming clear
what’s the point of feeling love for you
when you don’t believe I’m here
what’s the point in saying “rescue me”
if no one ever hears
every time I try to pull you close
you disappear
every time I try to pull you close
you disappear

and every time I find I’m off the walls
it’s all becoming clear
every time I try to pull you close
you disappear

The use of "I"

I is the ninth letter of the English alphabet and a vowel. It is also a personal pronoun and since it replaces our names in sentences, wherever “I” appears in our writing, it MUST be in capital letter.
This is one of the basic rules of grammar my English mistress in high school taught me, albeit with enough trashing, so always remember that the letter “I” must be in capital letter in all our writing when it is used as a personal pronoun.
                                I OR ME?
Most times, these two personal pronouns are used wrongly in which I is being used with another noun.
1. Always use the pronoun “I” along with other subjective pronouns such as we, he, she, you and they, when the pronoun is the subject of the verb.
Example: He ate my food
                  We waited for her
                   Ernie and I are having a drink
2. Use the pronoun “me” along with other objective pronouns such as us, him, her, you and them when the pronoun is the object of the verb
Example: Moby thanked them
                 The dog followed Mannie and me out
                  (Here Mannie forms the object of the verb followed)
3. Use the pronoun me, along with other objective pronouns such as us, him, her, you and them when the pronoun is the object of the preposition.
Example: Bobby spent the day with Nma and me
                 (here Nma forms the object of the preposition with)

                YOU AND I OR YOU AND ME?
Using both is correct. It only depends on the rest of the phrase (subject or object)
1. Temmy and I are eating. Temmy and I can be replaced with we.
2. Can you spot Tosin and me in this picture? This is correct because you could replace Temmy and me with us.

……………………………and that is it for today’s grammar lesson. I hope we have learnt something new.
Have a wonderful weekend!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Friday, 11 July 2014

Lyrics of the day


Baby, baby, when we first met
I never felt something so strong
You were like my lover and my best friend
All  wrapped into one, with a ribbon on it

And all of a sudden, when you life
I didn’t know how to follow, it’s like a shot
That spurn me around and now my heart dead
I feel so empty and hollow

And I’ll never give myself to another, the way I gave it to you
Don’t even recognize the ways you hurt me
Do you?
It’s gonna take a miracle to bring me back
And you’re the one to blame

And now I feel like, oh, you’re the reason why I’m thinking
I don’t wanna smoke all those cigarettes no more
I guess this is what I get for wishful thinking
I should’ve never let you into my door

Next time you wanna go and leave
I should just let you go on and do it
Now I’m using like I bleed
It’s like I checked into rehab
Baby you’re my disease
It’s like I checked into rehab
Baby you’re my disease

I gotta check into rehab
Cause baby, you’re my disease
I gotta check into rehab
Cause baby, you’re my disease

Damn, ain’t it crazy when your love swept
You’ll do anything for the one you love
Cause anytime that you needed me I’ll be there
It’s like you were my favourite drug

The only problem is that you was using me
In a different way that I was using you
But now that I know, it’s not meant to be
You gotta go, I gotta win myself over you

And I’ll never give myself to another, the way I gave it to you
Don’t even recognize the ways you hurt me, do you?
It’s gonna take  a miracle to bring me back
And you’re the one to blame

The best things to give

The best to give to your creator – devotion
The best to give to your father – humility
The best to give to your mother – good conduct
The best to give to your teacher – obedience
The best to give to your child – good example
The best to give to your employer - hard work
The best to give to your nation - service
The best to give to the elders - respect
The best to give to the needy - help
The best to give to all men – charity
The best to give to an opponent – tolerance
The best to give to yourself – respect
The best to give to friends - sincerity

Thursday, 10 July 2014


Hello lovelies, today is Thursday and also its five days to my birthday, am so excited. Well, this post was not even on my mind as I already typed the posts I was going to put up for one week but something happened in my office this week and it prompted this.

Etiquette is a code of behaviour that delineates expectations for social behaviour according to conventional norms within a society, social class or group.
Etiquette is important as proper etiquette makes you attractive to someone in any given situation. When you have good manners, you’ll have a pleasant time wherever you go. It is important to know good manners but more important to practise them.
Always remember to smile graciously no matter the situation. You see I smile so much some people wonder if I don’t frown but *whispers* I actually think I frown as much as I smile.
Try to maintain a positive attitude, but be aware that there are times you must express anger or frustration. Just know the difference and avoid unnecessary drama. You don’t want the reputation of not being able to get along with your peers.
Always find ways to be a team player even if you don’t care for someone else’s personality, find common grounds to maintain a pleasant work environment.
Maintain your strength while exhibiting patience with others. If you don’t know how to do something, take the time to learn.
Also learn how to make small talk because doing so will help you in social and professional situations.
Following certain rules of etiquette is essential in both the social and professional  situations , so I thought it okay to bring them to our notice and I think it’s a good idea we all commit them to heart because good etiquette can mean the difference between keeping or loosing friends and getting ahead in business.

Back to what happened in my office, sometimes in May, a new staff was employed and when we got talking, I discovered we attended the same uni but she graduated a year before I did so we exchanged numbers but I wasn’t particularly close to her. I noticed she was always coming late to work and I talked to her about it but she gave me some flimsy excuses and I let her be because am someone that if I advise you once and you don’t take it, I’ll just push you to one corner. Along the line I also got to discover she was very rude, she talks to members of staff anyhow, rudely that sometimes I get ashamed on her behalf so apparently this week the management was tired of her and she was sacked yesterday morning. I don’t know if I should be happy or sad but I feel sad because in her next job, she might exhibit the same character. Well, I got a list of etiquette online.
What not to do:
1. Being impolite to anyone: being nice to others in all scenarios is the most important rule of etiquette you can follow. Being rude to people is known something you might not be able to undo.
Politeness extends to everyone you come in contact with, from the door man of your office to your boss and co workers.
Showing gratitude and respect to servers at the restaurant, etc can make the difference in the service person’s day. Not being nice to these people show a lack of character on your part.
2. Being late: if you are one of those people who are chronically late, you are showing disrespect for other people’s time. When you agree to show up at a certain time, be there. If you are occasionally late, you will probably be forgiven if it is not something you do often. Always call and let someone know your circumstances and your estimated time of arrival.
3. Failing to introduce others: when you are with two people who don’t know each other, you should always introduce them. If you can’t remember either of their names, politely say something like “I’m sorry, I know we’ve met, but I can’t recall your name”. Then use the person’s name during the introduction and afterward in conversation.
4. Chatting or texting on your cell phone while physically present with others: always give the person you are physically with your attention. If your cell phone rings or you receive a text that needs immediate response, politely excuse yourself and keep all electronic contacts brief. Then when you return to the person, apologize and refrain from making a habit of chatting on the phone or texting.
Never text while dining with others, that is plain rude.
5. Failing to RSVP: when you are invited to events, let the host know whether or not you’ll be there ASAP. Failing to RSVP can hamper the person who must plan the guest list, food and space.
Never change plans if something more interesting comes along. You may never get invited by that host again if he finds out.
6. Being too self absorbed: when chatting with friends, family or co workers give them equal time during the conversation. If you have a pattern of making the discussion all about you, you may discover people walking a wide berth around you or running away when they see you coming. You don’t want people to see you as narcissistic or self absorbed.
Back and forth conversation is more enjoyable for both parties and will gain favour among people you care about.
7. Having bad table manners: when dining with others, take your time to observe proper table manners. If you are unclear about which utensil to use, learn before you go.
Take time to chew your food properly and don’t talk with your mouth full.
After you finish eating, wait for the others. It is rude to leave the table while others are eating.
8. Forgetting to be thankful: when someone gives you a gift or does something special for you, always show your gratitude. Immediately say “thank you”
Materials were sourced from google.

Lyrics of the day


Strange how
My heart beats
To find myself on your shore
Strange how
I still feel
My loss of comfort gone before

Cool waves wash over
And drift with dreams of youth
So time is stolen
I cannot hold you long enough
And so
This is where I should be now
Days and nights falling by

Days and nights falling by me
I know
Of a dream I should be holding
Days and night falling by
As you are rising
To bring me my forgotten ways

Strange how I falter
To find I’m standing in deep water
Strange how
My heart beats
To find I’m standing on your shore

What your birth month says about you

1. JANUARY: stubborn and hard hearted. Ambitious and serious. Loves to teach and be taught. Always looking at people’s flaws and weaknesses. Likes to criticize. Hardworking and productive. Smart, neat and organized. Sensitive and has deep thoughts. Knows how to make others happy. Quiet unless excited or tensed. Rather reserved. Highly attentive. Resistant to illness but prone to colds. Romantic but has difficulties expressing love. Loves children, loyal, has great social abilities yet easily jealous. Very stubborn and money conscious.

2. FEBRUARY: abstract thoughts, loves reality and abstract, intelligent and clever, changing personality, attractive, sexy, temperamental, quiet, shy and humble. Honest and loyal. Determined to reach goals, loves freedom, rebellious when restricted, loves aggressiveness, too sensitive and easily hurt, gets angry easily but does not show it. Dislikes unnecessary things. Loves making friends but rarely shows it. Daring and stubborn, ambitious, realizing dreams and hopes, sharp, loves entertainment and leisure, romantic in the inside not outside, superstitious and ludicrous, spendthrift, tries to learn to show emotions.

3. MARCH: attractive personality, sexy, affectionate, shy and reserved, secretive, naturally honest, generous and sympathetic, loves peace and serenity, sensitive to others, loves to serve others, easily angered. Trustworthy, appreciative and returns kindness. Observant and loves travelling, loves attention, hasty decision in choosing partners, loves home decors. Musically talented. Loves special things, moody.

4. APRIL: active and dynamic, decisive and hasty but tends to regret. Attractive and affectionate. Loves attention. Diplomatic, consoling, friendly and solves people’s problems. Brave and fearless. Adventurous, loving and caring. Suave and generous, emotional, aggressive, hasty, good memory, motivates oneself and others. Sickness usually of the head and chest. Sexy in a way that only their lovers can see.

5. MAY: stubborn and hard hearted, strong willed and highly motivated, sharp thoughts, easily angered, attracts others and loves attention, deep feelings, beautiful physically and mentally, firm standpoint, needs no motivation, easily consoled. Systematic, loves to dream, strong clairvoyance, understanding, sickness usually in the era and neck, good imagination, good physically, weak breathing, loves literature and the arts, loves travelling, dislike being at home, restless, not likely to have many children, hardworking, high spirited, spendthrift.

6. JUNE: thinks far with vision, easily influenced by kindness, polite and soft spoken, has lots of ideas, sensitive, active mind, hesitating, temperamental, funny and humorous, loves to joke, good debating skills, talkative, daydreamer, friendly, knows how to make friends, abiding, able to show character, easily hurt, prone to getting colds, loves to dress up, easily bored, fussy, seldom shows emotions, takes time to recover when hurt, brand conscious, executive, stubborn.

7. JULY: fun to be with, secretive, difficult to fathom and be understood, quiet unless excited or tensed, takes pride in self, has reputation, easily consoled, honest, concerned about people’s feelings, tactful, friendly, approachable, emotional, temperamental and unpredictable, moody, dislikes nonsensical and unnecessary things, guides others physically and mentally, sensitive and forms impressions carefully, caring and loving, treats others equally, strong sense of sympathy, wary and sharp, judges people through observations, hardworking, mo difficulties in studying, loves to be alone, always broods about the past and old friends, never looks for friends, not aggressive unless provoked, prone to having stomach and dieting problems, loves to be loved, easily hurt but takes long time to recover.

8. AUGUST: loves to joke, attractive, suave and caring, brave and fearless, firm and has leadership qualities, knows how to console others. Too generous and egoistic, thirsty for praises, extraordinary spirit, easily angered, angry when provoked, easily jealous, observant, careful and cautious, thinks quickly, independent, loves to lead and be led, loves to dream, talented in arts, music and defence, sensitive but not petty, poor resistance against illness, caring, loves to make friends.

9. SEPTEMBER: careful, cautious and organized. Likes to point out people’s mistakes, likes to criticize, stubborn, quiet but able to talk well, calm and cool, kind and sympathetic, concerned and detailed, loyal but not always honest, does work well, very confident, sensitive, generous, good memory, clever and knowledgeable, loves to look for information, able to motivate self, understanding, fun to be around, secretive, loves sports, leisure and travelling, hardly shows emotions, tends to bottle up feelings, very choosy especially in relationships, systematic.

10. OCTOBER: loves to chat, loves those who love them, inner and physical beauty, lies but does not pretend, gets angry often, treats friend importantly, always making friends, easily hurt but recovers quickly, daydreamer, opinionated, does not care what others think, emotional, decisive, strong clairvoyance, loves to travel, touchy , easily jealous, loves outdoors, spendthrift, easily influenced, easily loses confidence, loves children.

11. NOVEMBER: has a lot of ideas, thinks forward, unique and brilliant, extraordinary ideas, sharp thinking, strong clairvoyance, can become good doctors, dynamic personality, secretive, inquisitive, knows how to dig secrets, always thinking, less talk but amiable, brave and generous, patient, stubborn and hard hearted, never gives up, loves to be alone, does not appreciate praises, high spirited, deep love and emotion, romantic, uncertain in relationships, unpredictable.

12. DECEMBER: loyal and generous, sexy, patriotic, active in games and interactions, impatient and hasty ambitions, influential in organizations, fun to be with, loves to socialize, loves praises, loves attention, loves to be loved, honest and trustworthy, not pretending, short tempered, changing personality, not egoistic, hates restrictions, loves to joke, good sense of humour, logical.

Ok, am July born and err, I don’t think this is entirely true but I know am difficult to fathom an d be understood, me self no understand myself, ah yes, I don’t take nonsense oh *bats eyelashes* and I kinda brood on the past way too much *sad face* as for the others, well……………………………………

Wednesday, 9 July 2014

Lyrics of the day


Every day is not a holiday
My life’s like a subway o
I know this love don’t last

Look at me tell me what you see
Do you believe this love is real o
I know this love don’t last

I have come from far away
To see this go down the drain

I have waited patiently
And this is what I get
Emotionally failing me

My whole wild world is caving in
I try so hard to express myself
But the woman in me o o o don’t fade away

My mama say baby be careful
If anybody comes to say I love you
My papa say baby I warn you
If anybody comes to say I love you

Now you ask me to trust you
Tell me how am I supposed to
When I know this love don’t last

Could this be the kind of love
That my mum used to warn me about
How will I know that this love won’t last

I have come from far away

P. S. This is post #200 and am so grateful to all of you that take time out of your busy schedule to check my blog out. You are the voice that whispers "you can"  when am discouraged.  I owe you one!