The greatest misfortune that can happen to any girl is dating a guy who is still tied to his mother's apron string.
Imagine a grown ass adult telling you his mother told him not to drink custard that is causes convulsion, dafuck? Or a grown ass man whose mum still buys him boxers. Oh yeah, mother can get you boxers once in a while but always? No frigging way baby.
While I have it etched on my gray matter that my duty as a girl friend is not to play the role of his mother, I won't and can't accept baby sitting a man who always whines my mummy this, my mommy that every freaking time, we'll, I've not had the misfortune of dating one so far though because my own craze no be for here at all.
Mummy's boy is a term for a man who is excessively attached to his mother at an age when men are expected to be independent.
With a mummy's boy, you either make a decision to stay and learn to cope or else get out and set your sights on a more independent dude.
Signs that you're with a mummy's boy
1. He speaks to her everyday
he just has to contact her everyday either by phone , email, text, Skype or face to face. And this takes importance over everything else
2. He spends major holidays with her
They have certain traditions that cannot be broken, not on anybody's account.
3. He asks her for advise
Whenever he is in a fix, it is his mother he turns to before anyone else. Of course this means that if you're having problems in your relationship, he is likely to talk to his mother about how to solve them.
4. He runs errands for her all the time
He's happy to drop anything he's doing at the moment to go and run errands for his mother.
5. He can't say no to her
His favorite word to her is "yes" . He wants to please her and gain her approval at all cost. He's craved it all his life and he's ready to put her first to get some recognition. This means that the word "no" is out of the question and is something that he will try to avoid saying if possible as he can't stand facing her disappointment.
6. He needs her for reassurance
Whenever your guy is feeling insecure or anxious about something, he turns to mum to build him up. He wants her compliments, praise and words of support to get him through and he will continually go to her when his confidence is low. Without this he struggles to believe on himself and have the courage to take on life as a man.
7. He puts her ahead of his wife/girlfriend
He'll always consider how she might be impacted by your plans and will cancel if they don't suit mum. He will be quick to defend his mother over you and you'll need to get on her if you want a long term relationship with her son. He'll talk about her a lot to you, spend time with her exclusively and you'll have to fit in with her routines - no questions asked.
8. He let's her come over to his place unannounced
She'll have free reign to come over to his place unannounced. There are no boundaries with her, so if she's in the area and she has some free time she'll be popping in. This might be a nice surprise on some occasions but on others it can be embarrassing, inconvenient and annoying.
9. He relies on her for money
Although he is an adult, he still may rely on her for financial support. He appreciates this but is also tied to this as he has certain obligations abd pressure. The money gives him security but it also binds him to keeping mum as the most important person in his life.
10. He still lives at home
This is a huge sign that your guy is a mummy's boy. He is all grown up but he is still living at home or else he's got a place out the back of the house or he's living on the same street. This tells you that he hasn't cut the strings and become independent and still needs the emotional support of mother to deal with life's stressors.
Meanwhile today my very good blogger friend and namesake Chidinma of www.thatnigeriangirl.net will be taking part in the miss Africa New Jersey and she's representing Nigeria so lovelies, let's wish her luck. Babes, you know am solidly behind you. That crown must come to Nigeria oh *bats eyelashes *.