Monday, 15 September 2014

HOW HEALTHY IS YOUR AFFAIR?

It is totally normal to look at the world through rose coloured glasses in the early stages of  a relationship. But for some people, those rose coloured glasses turn into blinders that keep them from seeing that a relationship is not as healthy as it should be.
Take a  step back from the dizzying sensation of being swept off your feet and think about whether your relationship has these qualities.
1. Mutual respect
Know that your partner is into you for who you are but that doesn't mean you should feel like you are losing out on being yourself.
Respect in a relationship means that each person values who the other is and understands and would never challenge the other person's boundaries.

2. Trust
It's ok to get a little jealous sometimes. Jealousy is a natural emotion. But how a person reacts when feeling jealous is what matters. There is no way you can have a healthy relationship if you do not trust each other.

3. Honesty
This goes hand in hand with trust because it's tough to trust someone when one of you is not being honest.

4. Support.
In a healthy relationship, your significant other should be your shoulder to cry on and your greatest suporter when the going is good.

5. Fairness and equality
You need to have give and take in your relationship too. Things get bad really fast when a relationship turns into a power struggle with one person fighting to get his or her way all the time.

6. Separate identities.
In a healthy relationship, everyone needs to make compromise.  When you started going out, you both had your own lives (families, friends, interests etc) and that should not change.

7. Good communication 
Never keep a feeling bottled up because you are afraid it's not what your partner ants to hear or because you worry about sounding silly.
A relationship is unhealthy when it involves mean, disrespectful, controlling, or abusive behaviour. Some people live in homes with parents who fight or abuse each other emotionally, verbally or physically. For some people who have grown up around this kind of behaviour it can almost seem normal. It is not! Many of us learn from watching and imitating the people close to us. So someone who has lived around violent or disrespectful behaviour may not have learned how to treat others with kindness and respect or how to expect the same treatment.



I know my picture is not related to this post but erm sheybi we break the rules we make? That's a quick selfie I took this morning.
Mwah

25 comments:

  1. Meh i feel u o. Esp the issue of communication, it's a key attribute that is needed for any relationship to be healthy.

    You look beautiful... Nice pics

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    1. My dear a relationship that there is no communication is dead.
      Thanks for the kind words.

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  2. All the points here are so important but to me Trust and communication is everything.

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  3. All of the points here cannot be overemphasised.... as for your picture, I will remove that myself later

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    1. Lool issokai.
      Thanks for visiting ma'am

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  4. Hahahaha. Amaka o... selfie monday it is. On today's topic, trust and communication is very important in a relationship. They go hand in hand.

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  5. im with the seperate identities, some folks just turn each other into siamese twins.you gotta do u

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    1. Gbam!!! Preach it oh Ms cookie. A thousand likes for this comment. :)

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    2. I just can't deal!!! I think people who do such have no mind of their own

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  6. Fyn girl. Educative post.
    www.makeupcubicle.blogspot.com

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  7. I've gat no words for todays topic.
    Nice pic You've got there.







    Jeezuz_Ricki

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  8. Amaka i so second all that you have stated above, as they are all very important. Permit me to add that a very important part of the Trust part is that Every girlfriend of mine must have Faith in my Tomorrow, i mean i have been with girls who dont really believe in my Dreams, and that for me is a No way.. I love this post, i was saying to myself a while back that we have missed Amaka on instagram oh, oh well i guess the picture does suffice as a sort of compensation. :) Cheers Bubba, and please be safe oh, i take MTN beg you.

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    1. I can only believe in your dream if it's achievable*bats eyelashes*
      I've missed ig too my dear.. This thing is killing me oh

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  9. Nwanne duru, I dunno wah u're talking about here. Its fvcking hard for peeps 2 understand ur dreams. + u be joseph wey u dey dream :p ?




    :D

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  10. Nods head in agreement. Unhealthy affairs are quite common and love is used as an excuse not to leave.
    You look so nice in d pic.

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    1. The word love has been bastardized ma'am!
      Thanks for the kind words.

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  11. Also, nagging unnecessarily should be avoided.

    www.auspiciousdeb.blogspot.com

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  12. Amen! Preach girl. Communication is everything

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