Friday, 24 October 2014
He that is down need fear no fall;
He that is low, no pride;
He that is humble ever shall
Have God to be his guide.
I am content with what I have,
Little be it or much;
And, Lord, contentment still I crave,
Because thou savest such.
Fulness to such a burden is
That go on pilgrimage;
Here little, and hereafter bliss,
Is best from age to age.(Words by John Bunyan)
This is one poem I grew up reciting; my father practically forced us to learn it and since then, it has stuck!
Asides sticking, contentment is one virtue I can boldly say I possess. Right from my growing up days, I hardly covet people's properties. During my university days, my friends used to nag me because I would not buy what others are buying especially for keeping up with the Joneses purpose.
What actually prompted this topic is the attitude of someone in my lodge; last week when the batch C coprs members passed out, she went to them and was begging them to give her their left over provisions, soap, even kerosene!!! When I heard it, I was mad because it is not like this girl is lacking oh!
Now, what is this contentment?
The free online dictionary defines it as "a state of happiness and satusfaction".
Contentment involves being happy with who you are and we all know in this world of today, many people are not happy with who they are. True or false?
Besides this contentment doesn't have to do with material possessions only, it also involves being content with who/what we are (I'm not saying you should be content with being at the bottom of the rung of the ladder oh!).
Anyway, I went on wikihow to get tips on how to be content and I came up with these:
1. Live in the present: the people who are the happiest with themselves are able to enjoy and embrace the present moment instead of being stuck in the past or obsessing over what the future will look like (thinking of the past can help you learn from your mistakes and thinking of the future can help you set goals and be a good long term planner though).
2. Be grateful for what you have: instead of focusing on all the things you do not have, or all the things you want, take a minute to think about how lucky you are compared to most people out there.
3. Appreciate the little things: be thankful for the air you breathe, the food that nourishes you, etc. Every little details in your life counts. Focus on those little things and be grateful that you are still alive.
4. Take time to reflect: a lot of people aren't content with their lives because they don't take the time to sit back and consider everything that's going on. Taking time to reflect is different from moping, over thinking or analyzing everything that went wrong.
5. Stop comparing yourself to others: you can't change what other people are doing and you'll never get anywhere if you compare yourself to others instead of thinking about your life on its own terms. You will always find someone who is happier, healthier, richer, prettier and just more together than you are but why look? There are always reasons to be jealous of others and reasons for others to be jealous of you. You'll do yourself a favour by stopping the comparison.
6. Fake it until you make it: Being upset and complaining to everyone in earshot about what problem you've got is guaranteed to make you feel worse.
Even if you're feeling down in the dumps, you shouldn't go around moping, complaining and telling your best friends how awful you feel and looking like you're about to cry. Instead, you should try to be extra cheerful, extra friendly and make an effort to talk to other people and make them laugh.
7. Remember that happiness is a choice: some people gauge happiness by having a successful career, luxurious car or a huge savings account. Happiness cannot be determined by the money you earn or even with material things. It is a choice that we are happy, despite what life may bring.