Tuesday, 4 November 2014

KNOW MR RIGHT

Last week, we did the wife material post so to be equal, we'll be looking at how to know the ideal husband (I'm not saying these points are fool proof oh).

  1. You trust him: Trust is key. You need to be able to trust the man you plan to spend the rest of your life with, not just to be loyal and faithful but also to be honest and frank about other areas of his life including money and work.
  2. He treats women with respect: The way your man behaves around other women, especially his mother or sister is a good way of gauging  his true character. Marriage to a man who doesn't hold women in high regards isn't safe.
  3. He is supportive: When he is always there for you, no matter how busy he is with work or other commitments, he is your right choice. You are top on his priority list. Marriage is about being able to support one another in times of uncertainty or emotional unrest.
  4. He must be employed: If he is still living with his parents or relatives, he is not ready. Also, if he is unemployed and sits at home all day watching TV, he is not the right man for you.
  5. He takes you to his parents: If he has introduced you to his parents and is happy to show you off at family gatherings, then be sure he is planning to be committed. When a man shares you with his dearest and nearest, this is a clear indication that he envisages having you in his life for more than just a short time.
  6. He has a sense of responsibility: This makes him a great husband. A man who doesn't let you or others down when he knows he is being relied upon is a precious commodity. A man who doesn't come through for you on important matters and who squanders his cash instead of saving has a bit of growing up to do before he can be deemed reliable enough for marriage.
  7. He treats you well: If you start feeling bullied or constantly undermined, it's time to have a serious thought about whether he really is the right one for you.
  8. He loves children: If you notice that he talks about the future and includes you in his plans or he is always happy when the conversation turns to the topic of children, then he is ready to walk down the aisle.
  9. Friends and family approve: Their opinion of you man matters a great deal. it is those closest to you who often have your best interests at heart. If they seem troubled by your latest match, then there could be some cause for concern.
Okay there we go ladies, do you agree with me? Is there something I forgot to list?
Post your thoughts away!

18 comments:

  1. If he is at 6/9 as per this listings..does that make him short of hubby type lol. All these are key elements but eh for me he has to be my friend...can't imagine a strange being hubby material. Thanks Amaka.
    PS.And by the way for the mention in the Sisterbloger thing--me super liked...Gratitude

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    1. Well, the list is not exhaustive but if a guy has 9/9 then he has to be your friend or wahdyyathink?
      You're welcome riri

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  2. Mami...lemme be honest eh...look at them #8...mami...it kinda was scary for me eh....See eh, everything you have listed up there...it has to be a 9/9...it can't be 8/9....know why?...they are sorta interconnected....any man who has a problem with any of the above is not a husband material...mami...I tell you eh...don't get it twisted...none of the above can substituted....it is better if the case is he is a 9/9 and you would prefer that he is a 8/9 or 7/9....buh a man MUST be a 9/9 with respect to the above mentioned....Hows mi sister doing?

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    1. Yeah dear, I can't agree less because these are like the basic things! I'd rather he has. All and I make my choice than he's not up too and I have to settle for less.
      I'm doing just good dear!

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  3. Ernieeeee you took those words outta my mouth
    We can't have it all o but somehow, everything is interconnected

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  4. This is quite a biased post when compared to the #wifeHer post. Hian na one man won carry all dis features most especially number (9)?? Think again. *red face* *red face*






















































    #Mannie

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    1. Sweetheart I'm not biased; I asked the guys what they wanted. And they weren't forth coming.
      I'm doing this from a ladies view point.

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    2. hehehehehehehehehe You be craze man shaaa....

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  5. Amaka, 1 and 9 is beyond a man's control #UKD. I can't make my lady's fam like me, and she might decide not to trust me also (most low self esteem and jealous ladies hardly trust). This is d reality.








































































    #Mannie

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    1. Why would you be with a lady who doesn't trust you and whose friends don't approve of you? That's a bad signal my dear

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    2. C'mon amaka! I'm not in the relationship bcos of her friends. Sometimes u can't do nothing about em' disliking you. Moreover, its a love relationship not a committee.























      #Mannie

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    3. Yeah, whilst you. Aint. Dating her friends or doing it because of her friends, it is important to haave a good rapport with them.

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  6. Let me use the naija mentality here. Mami a Nigerian player would take you to see his people so he can get in between your legs. Take that from me...Swits that's the fastest way to a woman's panties sef.....says a player friend of mine. His mum is so frustrated but guess what a man would do anything to sleep with you including introducing you to his parents. Trust me when I say guys are crazy. Then being unemployed. ..maybe in some other countries you can judge a man by how fast he gets a job but in Nigeria, things are not easy. I know so many 1st class graduates that are jobless. Its not his fault this country is messed up. If you are with a man and you can see he's trying and he's struggling, go for it. Don't ever judge how serious a man is by his inability to get a job....every other thing I totally agree. Nice one mami

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    1. Amaka, please where is the like button.. I love this Moby's comment.. Moby can make sense shaaa.. Moby Chop Knocku oh jari...

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  7. *smiles* see what I wrote up? i said these points are not fool proof. That being said, I was not and would not judge the unemployed man, like I said, he is unemployed and sits at home all day watching tv ie he doesn't care about his joblessness.

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  8. And why would you forget to list a godly man, i don't mean spiri koko o. I mean one who does and abides by God's will, i think after the godliness, all other things follow.
    Between, i'm so in support of moby's comment. Ladies as a result of greed want it now or never, personally, i know of a girlfriend who's so choosy. She keeps saying if the dude doesn't have a car, doesn't live on the island, its a NO NO!.
    Its high time we get ourselves off the present views and create an imaginary vision into the future.

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