So if a girl refuses to date you or have sex with you, you two can't remain friends?
Okay, good morning people...before I typed this topic, I tried to summarise it but I couldn't. I'm actually angry as I'm typing this but oh well, I might just be calm before I'm done typing.
I'm not of the school of thought that believes that a male and a female cannot have anything together (platonic friendship) except they are dating or having sex; if that's the case then we might have to invent a sex-o-meter or something like that.
I grew up among guys so naturally when it comes to my choice of friends, I'm more comfortable with the male folk (of course I have great female friends too that have become sisters more than friends) so right from my growing up days, I've always been the object of gossip among my peers because where guys are gathered, that's where you'll find me.
On the flipside, I didn't give a hoot about the gossips because the truth is I did not have a boyfriend till I was 16 and out of secondary school and in MI's voice *if no one talks about you, then you are nobody*; it was even worse when I got into the university because they couldn't figure me *in eminem's voice* ...I'm digressing here.
I know guys are moved by what they see and it only takes few seconds (or minutes for the benefit of doubt) before guys steer the conversation towards personal stuffs not minding the fact that you two just met but guys, if you ask a lady out and she says no, it doesn't mean you two can't cultivate something else! In fact you two can become best of friends.
Fine, I know some ladies like the chase (most times I'm indifferent though because if I agree to date you today or tomorrow, the bottom line is that I'll still say yes) but please, it's quite annoying when a guy who was the nice, sweet gentleman suddenly starts acting aloof because you said no. How do I believe the feelings you were telling me about weren't surreal?