Saturday, 28 February 2015


Woo-hoo it's the last day of the month and trust me,  it's been an amazing ride these past Saturday. The feed back I get from our grammar class is so encouraging.. Oya chop kiss *mwah*

Y'all know I am a sucker for good English so imagine the face I make when learned people say "informations",  "staffs"  and the likes and I'm usually like seriously??

Anyhoo, not all nouns have plural form and such nouns fall under "uncountable nouns". Today,  we shall be considering a few of them.

  1. Accommodation 
  2. Baggage
  3. Courage 
  4. Equipment
  5. Education
  6. Fun
  7. Furniture 
  8. Homework
  9. Information 
  10. Knowledge 
  11. Love
  12. Luck 
  13. Marketing 
  14. News
  15. Patriotism (and other - ism words) 
  16. Progress 
  17. Research 
  18. Sleep 
However,  note that monies is the plural form of money as used in financial and legal contexts to mean "individual sums of money"... And it's a wrap guys. Till our next lesson,  make sure your spoken English is on fleek *bats eyelashes*. 

Friday, 27 February 2015

Friday game show.

Hiya lovelies, I'm so sorry I've not been updating regularly, I've been so busy I hardly have time to sit and coordinate my thoughts. The truth is I even thought of resting this blog in between this confusion but well,  here we are.

I came up with this idea of starting a game and it could be riddle, current affairs, brain teasers or as the spirit leads so here goes.

Thursday, 26 February 2015


There is a popular saying that "where there is no law, there is no sin"... good morning lovelies, hope we are all doing great?

One of the requirements for a lawful and sane society is the presence of a code of conduct which we tag "rules". Right from the garden of Eden, God told Adam and Eve not to eat from the tree in the middle so you can see that rules aint new so to say.

I belong to the editorial and publicity group (EGG) CDS and we meet every Thursday. You see in  other CDS, you can wear khaki and shoe but in EPG, you are expected to be fully kitted yet I go to CDS and see people, not just people but graduates who were awarded certificates based on not just learning but character too wearing casual slippers or other colours and kinds of foot wear and I'm usually like why can't these people just obey the rules? Asides the fact that they do not get to flout any law, I feel there is this smartness dressing complete gives corps members.

Still on EPG during meetings, side talk is highly prohibited yet some people won't keep their mouth shut for the 1 hour we spend during meetings and seriously, it irks me!

The one that annoys me most is late coming. Choi!!! How I hate going late to places! You see, I had a teaching job prior to NYSC and members of staff were required to be at work before 7.30am but there was this particular girl that derived pleasure in coming by 8.00am (this is a single lady oh) and the HM would always complain and embarrass her yet she did not change, instead she told me she can not wake up later than 7am and I just swallowed my saliva (I do not waste my advise on some set of people) and eventually, she was sacked.

I've asked myself why people like to disobey rule, whether it gives them something similar to orgasm pleasures and I'm yet to understand. In Sokoto, bikes do not like to wait for traffic light to turn green before they move. In some parts, you see people driving one way and I'm like do they not have common sense to obey traffic rules? Anyhoo, common sense is not common really.

Now, we know that when Adam and Eve ate the fruit, they were cursed and driven out of the garden so for every rule that is broken, there is a reward.

In EPG, the fine for improper dressing, talking during meeting and late coming range from 20 - 100 naira yet people still indulge in them. Why?

In Nigeria, traffic offenders are punished although sometimes they bribe their way out and really that is why Nigeria is still in the doldrums.

So I'm asking, why do people flout rules even when they know they will be punished eventually?

Monday, 23 February 2015


Hallo Hallo!!! How are we? The cold is disappearing here and this crazy heat is descending slowly oh!

I grew up loving this adage "the key to success I know not, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone" and tell you what? I really loved it! I had a scrap book for cliches, adages and proverbs while growing up because I used to think deep.

Back to the adage, as I evolved into the young woman I am today, I found it to be true.

Some people will be like "Amaka, you look terrific on make up" while others will be like "ah, you look fabulous without make up".
Others will be like "you look great on trousers, it accentuated your shape", others will be like "you look better in skirt, it fits you like a second skin" and I'm usually like okay, okay.

Naturally, I do not aim to please people but I am naturally nice, as in nice to a fault, but I can be brutal you would not believe it is me that has that other side so when I do things, as long as it appeals to reason and it is within the purview of common sense, I do not care whose ox is gored.

In this world of confused people, you can't truly please people and don't ever aim to!

Sunday, 22 February 2015

Birthday wishes

Hiya lovelies.. It's the beginning of a new week, not just a new week but the last week of the month. Really it's been God all the way.

February 22 every year is one special day for me because it's the day two people very dear to me were born.

I remember the smile on Tope's face the day she walked into my room during pre degree.. Since then she's become a sister more than a friend.  She is the one I cry to when I am confused,  sad,  etc.  Even the separation NYSC brought did nothing to weaken the ties that bind.

Samuel and I became close in year 1, the circumstances that lead to our bring friends is one I don't like to remember but thank God we weathered the storm and emerged unscathed. My first love as I like to call him,  I can never forget the way you encouraged me especially in the things of God and introducing me to NIFES.

Today as you both add a year to your years,  I pray God's favour upon you,  as you've watered my life,  may you also be watered. I can go on and on with the Blessings but even more than my heart desire,  may God bless you two.

Saturday, 21 February 2015


Hiya lovelies.. How did the turning up go last night? As for me I've been battling flu oh,  I don't want to believe my immune system is weak because I'm tired of being ill every now and then,  besides I've upped my fruit intake. Anyhoo, down to the business of the day.
Today we'll be looking at common misspellings. Leggo

1. WRONG: Arguement
     CORRECT: Argument
Note however that judgement or judgment is correct.

2. WRONG: Infact
     CORRECT: In fact
This is not one word like "indeed". In spite is also two words.

3. WRONG: Maintainance
     CORRECT: maintenance

4. WRONG: priviledge
     CORRECT: privilege

5. WRONG: strainous
     CORRECT: strenuous

..... And it's a wrap guys.
I want to use this medium to heartily congratulate all batch A corps members,  y'all came,  saw and conquered. I wish you the very best in this next phase of life.  Bless.

Wednesday, 18 February 2015

You won't be the weak if you turn the other cheek

Everyone considered him the coward of the county
He'd never stood one single time to prove the county wrong
His mama named him Tommy but folks just called him yellow
Something always told me they were reading Tommy wrong

He was only ten years old when his daddy died in prison
I looked after Tommy 'Cause he was my brother's son
I still recall the final words my brother said to Tommy
Son my life is over but yours has just begun

Promise me, son not to do the things I've done
Walk away from trouble if you can
Now it don't mean you're weak if you turn the other cheek
And I hope you're old enough to understand
Son, you don't have to fight to be a man

There's someone for everyone and Tommy's love was Becky
In her arms he didn't have to prove he was a man
One day while he was working the Gatlin boys came calling
They took turns at Becky and there was three of them
Tommy opened up the door and saw his Becky crying
The torn dress, the shattered look was more than he could stand
He reached above the fireplace and took down his daddy's picture
As his tears fell on his daddy's face I heard these words again

Promise me, son not to do the things I've done
Walk away from trouble if you can
Now it don't mean you're weak if you turn the other cheek
And I hope you're old enough to understand
Son, you don't have to fight to be a man

The Gatlin boys just laughed at him when he walked into the barroom
One of them got up and met him half way cross the floor
Tommy turned around they said hey look, old yellow's leavin'
You could've heard a pin drop when Tommy stopped and locked the door

Twenty years of crawling was bottled up inside him
He wasn't holding nothing back he let 'em have it all
When Tommy left the bar room not a Gatlin boy was standing
He said, This one's for Becky as he watched the last one fall
N I heard him say

I promised you, Dad not to do the things you've done
I walk away from trouble when I can
Now please don't think I'm weak I didn't turn the other cheek
Papa, I should hope you understand
Sometimes you gotta fight when you're a man

Everyone considered him
The coward of the county 

Howdy lovelies? all good and fine yeah? I had to type that song in full because it is one of my best country songs ever and I kinda cry each time I listen to it.

Every day, people must offend us and we must offend people and that's where the concept of turning the other cheek comes to play. When and when do you have to dish it back? Like Kenny Rogers, do you agree turning the other cheek always doesn't mean you are weak? or do you believe like Tommy that sometimes you have to fight to prove your masculinity?

Well, sometimes I turn the other cheek and even turn a blind eye not because I want peace to reign but because when you are arguing with a mad person, you also become mad, but then, sometimes I do not turn the other cheek because some take silence to mean weakness so I firmly state my opinion without violence.

Tuesday, 17 February 2015


One of the cliches I grew up listening to is "love is blind". I used to ponder in my young mind what it meant; in my child's mind, I used to wonder if love was a human being but was blind and since I did not have an elder sister to discuss my love thoughts with, I was content with my definition. Hiya lovelies!!

As I progressed into my adolescent age with my emotions running wild and my voracious appetite for books, I finally understood the "love is blind" line after my brief stint with Mills and Boons and Harlequin (I stopped reading romance novels because of the unrealistic things we were made to believe.

Many of us use the word love every other day, but I'd like for us to focus on romantic love as regards this post.

I know guys who love girls that are endowed but end up with flat chested ladies and when I'm like " guy, how far? they be like "I couldn't help it, love is blind". Now, don't get me wrong, it is not about the physical attraction for me but the truth  is that when you know that the qualities you love in the opposite sex, your partner lacks say 99% and you stay in the name of love is blind, you will just end up frustrated and tempted to cheat!

I know I am petite and I have been screaming to high heavens that my man must be taller than me even if it is by few inches, so me agreeing to date a man who is shorter than me in the name of love is blind is a recipe for disaster.

In the name of love is blnd, a graduate marries an uneducated partner and in future when there is an office dinner or something of sort, the educated partner becomes ashamed of flaunting the better half for the fear of grammatical blunder, love is blind yeah? or a wealthy girl falls in love with a not too rich guy and later rubs it in his face how she foots the bills, or two people from the other side of the divide religious wise decide to start a family then after they say "I do" one person starts to make trouble about the religious difference, oh please!

It is perfectly normal to look at people we have feelings for through rose stained glasses but believe you me, it is no normal to create an ideal image of people because most times when we do that, they pretend to be what they are not so as to fit into the image we created. Now after creating this ideal image you created for yourself and you fall in love with this image you created for yourself instead of the personaity, who is to blame when reality check dawns?

Tue love is not blind, it recognizes faults, it does not ignore differences in social, tribal, educational or religious backgrounds but it seeks to find a way to manage these differences for the betterment of the relationship.

Monday, 16 February 2015

Knowing when to let go

Hiya lovelies?? Sure we're all good yeah??
In the course of the day,  we must offend people and people must offend us,  well the Bible says to forgive 77 times daily but tell you what,  sometimes the road to forgiveness might be filled with hurt,  blame,  broken promises and what nots that might make the road difficult to see. At that point,  the question would be do I forgive, forget and accept the offender back or forgive, forget,  move on and/or sever the ties that bind?

Growing up,  I used to have a very quick temper and an unforgiving heart.  Once you offend me and I blow hot and cold,  I'll lock your space in my heart and throw the key in the Atlantic Ocean *rolling my eyes* and you know that when you throw a key into the ocean,  you can never find it.

After I turned 21, I got a grip on my temper and I've become so calm but as people are wont to do,  they like to take gentility to be stupidity.

Well,  when dealing with people, I give them two chances and the third time,  it's the final red card.

Once upon a time,  I used to have a very close female friend that I could do anything for and yes,  I did everything for her  but what did I get in return?  Jealousy, resentment and the likes initially, I was too stunned to believe she could be jealous of me because the truth is in reality,  it is very hard for people to say I offend them because I am always extremely cautious of my actions and when I tried to talk her back to reality,  she was acting.  That moment the alarm in my head was blinking red and I knew it was time to move on as there was nothing to salvage.  Well,  eventually she came around and tried to apologise but at that point I knew it was time to move on and I told her that.

Letting go of close loved ones might hurt but sometimes it is better to let go for the good of all the parties involved.

Sunday, 15 February 2015

Post Valentine.....

Hallo lovelies,  today's post is going to be short ehn.
So yesterday was my cds's send forth for the batch A... I'm next in line people and one of the high point was the nomination of a new president. Well myself and one girl were nominated and I lost by 2 votes *shrugs*. Anyhoo I had fun and I'll give y'all some eye candy.

And that's it for today.  Have a lovely Sunday peeps.  X

Saturday, 14 February 2015


Yeah,  today is February 14, the day love is celebrated... Good morning lovelies, I hope all is set for today?  Well,  I'm not sure about me but there's a turning up later in the evening as my CDS will be sending the batch A forth and I'm excitedly looking forward to it.  I might or might not post pictures here but I will on instagram.

Today we would be considering the correct form of some words commonly mistaken.

1. Bound
The word bound when used in sentences should be bounds meaning a boundary,  a limit,  prohibited or forbidden.
The correct idiom is out of bounds,  not out of bound.

2. Grassroot
There is no such word as grassroot. The correct form is grassroots meaning basic or fundamental.
Grass root with the space means the root of a grass.

That's it for today lovelies. Have a happy celebration and stay safe.  X

Wednesday, 11 February 2015

Uses of salt

Salt should be the most common mineral in the world and it is very important in life's as the Bible even calls us the salt of the earth but aside giving taste to food,  we'll be looking at other fabulous uses of this inexhaustible mineral.

1. Test egg freshness: put two teaspoon of salt in a cup of water and place an egg in it.  The fresh egg will sink and the older egg will float.

2. Prevents fruits from browning: I don't know if anyone hates this but when I'm prep fruit salad and the apples turn brown,  it annoys me.  Dropping it in slightly salted water will help to maintain its colour.

3. Remove odour from hand: use salt to get rid of that onions and garlic odour from your hand.  Just scrub your palms with salt and you're good to go.

4. Extend toothbrush life : soak toothbrush in Salt water before your first use.  They'll last longer.

5. Natural mouthwash: mix equal parts salt and baking soda in water for a fresh and deodorising mouth wash.

6. Ease throat pain: mix salt and warm water and gargle to relieve a sore throat.

7. Deter ants: sprinkle salt around the house especially where ants gather.  Ants do not like to walk on salt.

8. Drip proof candles: soaking new candles in a strong salt solution for few hours and drying them will make them not to burn fast and they'll last longer.

9. Clean sink drains: pour salt mixed with hot water down the kitchen sink regularly to deodorise and keep grease from building up.

10. Clean wine spills: when you get tipsy and ruin your favorite dress with wine,  covering immediately with a pile of salt and soaking in water for 30 minutes before laundering helps.

Amazing right??

In other news I found my surname on a coke can oh *dancing salsa*

Tuesday, 10 February 2015

Even the best laid Plans could go terribly wrong

Hiya lovelies, how's the week coming up?? I've not been fine oh,  I miss my friends,  I miss real companionship, too many shenanigans going on here jor.

So sometimes ago I was checking my old diary and I saw the entry I made on the 20th of January 2013 and memories just started flashing.

While growing up,  I wanted to get married at 22 and when I got to  a certain stage,  I thought I had come to my final bus stops I remember Prince, he was the first guy to explore me and everybody that has known me for over 7 years would certainly know our story because I worshipped him and I gave him my body,  my soul and my spirit. Well,  as we all know that even the best laid plans could go terribly wrong, we started experiencing our first rough patch and we couldn't pull through so we broke up. Years later,  he came back but I was no longer the innocent girl he fell in love with so I told him it would be better if we let sleeping dogs lie.

In that same diary, I found "dear diary , today I found the father of my unborn children",  choi!!!  Those days when Amaka used to be a hopeless romantic!  I don't even know where the guy in question is.

I'm not one to dwell on past experiences and I have selective amnesia so for all the plans that didn't work out,  they made me who I am today as I've come to realize that there is no fool proof plan especially if God doesn't approve it.

Monday, 9 February 2015

Space in a relationship: healthy or not?

It is not uncommon to want to spend every single time with your partner especially if you two are in the early stages of the relationship. While this is normal,  the truth is if care is not taken,  one partner may feel choked. I've been there before.

Good morning lovelies, hope our weekend went smoothly??

I used to date a guy when I was in university and we were always together for at least 18 hours everyday. Initially, I was enjoying the attention and the times we used to spend together but after few months,  it started getting to me.  I mean I couldn't even hang out with my friends again!

Lovelies, in my opinion,  space is very healthy in a relationship but the mistake most people make is that they think asking for space in a relationship means the asking partner wants out.  No that is wrong! Prior to your relationship, both of you were separate individuals, you had your hobbies,  you had your need for me time where you could reminisce, reflect and plan ( two heads are better than one but sometimes you need to plan alone), in fact space helps couples to grow.

Ladies instead of whining about the fact that the boyfi is always watching football,  he does not have your time,  etc,  why not use the time he uses to watch football to hang out with the girls or do your manicure or bake??

Remember,  a good relationship breeds independence and not codependence.

Sunday, 8 February 2015

Familiarity breeds contempt??

Hiya lovelies?? Hope we had a fantastic weekend? Well mine was INEC training filled oh and it still continues today *wipes brow* but now that the elections have been postponed, Amaka isn't going anywhere.

The initial stages of a relationship (friendship, dating,  marriage etc) always sees the two people involved trying to get to know each other better,  after that we assume we know about the other person well and relax. This process of getting to know the other party can also be likened to getting familiar.

At first,  both parties are usually extremely careful as A would not want to piss B off,  we try to appear at our best,  in short we act like we are walking on pins and stepping too much will hurt.
After a while,  the uncertainty might or might not wear off and we switch back to our default settings ; the initial respect might be lost at this stage and what usually follows next is "I allowed you too close", "familiarity breeds contempt ", etc.

Well,  I do not think familiarity breeds contempt,  I think it is lack of boundaries that breeds contempt.
I like to draw boundaries, my best friend knows this. I do not assume that because she is my bestie,  we can take each other for granted,  no. When we fail to set and spell boundaries,  we create unnecessary problems.

To avoid the contempt that sets in when you become too familiar,  do not take things for granted,  do not take liberty in the way you interact with people,  do not stop being polite,  avoid crude jokes and remember, always set boundaries. That way everyone stays happy.

Saturday, 7 February 2015


My name is Ndidiamaka and the Anglicised meaning is PATIENCE is good, but it's very annoying when I hear people call me Patient (like seriously?!) and it's more annoying when I see 'patient'  medical blah blah blah instead of PATENT.

Hiya lovelies, it's that time of the week when we trash everything grammar and today we'll be looking at the meaning of patent,  patience and patient.

- a grant made by a government that confers upon the creator of an invention the sole right to make,  use and sell that invention for a set period of time.
- relating to or being a non prescription drug or other medical preparation that is protected by a trademark (this is the definition that concerns us).

- the quality of being forebearing without complaint,  loss of temper,  irritation or the likes.
- an ability or willingness to suppress restlessness or annoyance when confronted with delay.

- able to accept or tolerate delay,  problems or suffering without becoming annoyed or anxious.
- a person receiving or registered to receive medical treatment (this is the one we need).

I hope after reading this,  we'll stop confusing the three words even though I'm sure they don't sound the same (I'd have loved it to be an oral lesson though) so till our next lesson,  remember the power of words and endeavour to speak error free English.

Friday, 6 February 2015

Is there a thin line between helping someone and being called a maga?

I'm so glad I'm getting better by the day,  I've actually missed writing my posts before typing *I'm old school like that*. Good morning lovelies... . It's Friday already and for those of us turning up,  turn up well oh!  I'm actually tired of staying in bed I'm afraid I might develop  bedsores but the instruction is to rest well so that I'm doing.

Una dey see this topic so?! *presses brakes* ok back to my British accent,  this topic has been on my mind for a long time , as in e don tey!!!

I get pissed easily but for the right reasons.
Most times when you say "maga" in Nigeria,  people tend to have this view or image of a rich cash cow/ money miss Road especially a male or a female as the case may be who spends on you like no man's business as long as you know the right buttons to press, but my good people,  it looks like more notes have been added under the definition of maga and it seems being naturally nice to people is one.

Imagine a case where you take pity on someone and decide to help and in the person's mind you have become a maga even when they are comfortable, they still expect you to maintain the status quo and when you do not,  you're tagged a bad person??

Well,  today I'm throwing the floor open.  When does one cross from being nice to becoming a maga?

Thursday, 5 February 2015


Hiya lovelies?  Today I'll be reblogging something I did in May 2014. The truth is I was googling something randomly when this post came up and I was like ok baby girl why not bring back the post *puppy eyes*.

 I hate bread but in my house, its one staple but most times I skip it and just drink my milk because I hate tea too, by tea I mean Lipton and not Milo oh! Milo is just a chocolate drink. So when I have to take bread and tea, I like to cut my bread into pieces and put inside my teacup for it to soak well. Well my mum says its bad habit but I’ve not had course to drink tea in public so as is my usual practise, I visited university of Google and I saw various opinion.

Some feel it’s bad table manner but hey, is there a law that says I shouldn’t soak my bread in my tea? The time I will use to chew my bread and drink tea, I’ll just save half of it by soaking my bread *grinning*

Come on, don’t Europeans dunk too? Do we even have to follow everything the colonial masters did hook, line and sinker?

I even read on nairaland that the standard is to bite off the bread, chew it and sip the tea from the teacup. Duuh . The truth is bad habit is relative. Who set the standard on how to drink tea?

Ok, let’s even define dunking. Wikipedia defines dunking as ‘dunking, usually indicates a submersion of biscuit, bread, buttered toast, cake or donought into a beverage, especially tea, coffee or hot or cold milk’. Dunking releases more flavour from confections by dissolving the sugars, while also softening their texture. You dey read am so?

Whether I dip tea in bread, or bread in tea, the koko is that it’s my tummy it ends up.


In other news, the corper's lodge in Tambuwal LGA was burnt down by political thugs, I seriously do not know what this country is turning to. I was posted to the north and I accepted it in good faith and see how we are being treated? 
My heart goes out to fellow corps members who lost everything in that unfortunate incidence. Incidentally,  the speaker of the house of Representatives is from tambuwal and I'm yet to hear of any relief package put in place. 
These are sad times. 

Wednesday, 4 February 2015

My first time on an escalator..

To many of us,  that word escalator evokes a feeling of fear and uncertainty... Right or wrong?  Good morning lovelies, I'm still recuperating but my appetite is zero oh *sad* and yesterday my principal and his family came to say hello to me in the lodge,  I was so wowed and humbled.  Only God knows how much appreciative I am and only him can reward my principal.

So to today's topic,  I remember the first time I was on a escalator,  it was in 2006 or there about and my elder brother took me to Silverbird cinema,  when we got to the foot of the escalator, he left me and went on it,  I stood there for like 5 minutes watching how that snake-like wonder operated and when I finally got on it,  I was climbing like I was climbing a staircase and my brother was just laughing at me like an idiot,  ok now time for me to get out and I jumped!  It's God that said my head won't be stitched that day else the risk I took , hmmmm.

I still do not like the escalator especially when I'm at the airport but then,  I don't have a choice than to use it.

How was your first escalator ride like?

Tuesday, 3 February 2015

By his stripes....

Good morning lovelies, how are we doing? I know I promised to still try to update but the truth is I've been having this dizziness since Sunday and it was so bad that I can't even stand up for one minute.

Since I'm a picky eater, everyone was thinking it was the fact that I was using camosunate and ciprotab and I wasn't eating well. Choi sickness no good oh! Even chicken that I can't resist on a good day tasted like paper in my mouth,  Fanta was like water too.

Anyway, yesterday I almost collapsed at home,  but thanks to my house mates that rallied round and called our principal who drove me to UDUTH, paid for all the tests,  drips and injections and waited for me while I was on admission till I was discharged.

If you enjoy good health and you're not thankful,  seriously you're an ingrate because I know what my eyes saw at the hospital, how many corpses were wheeled out before my eyes and what I even went through.
Thanks for the constant checking up on me,  I shall return to blogging as soon as my hand heals.