Hiya lovelies?? Hope we had a fantastic weekend? Well mine was INEC training filled oh and it still continues today *wipes brow* but now that the elections have been postponed, Amaka isn't going anywhere.
The initial stages of a relationship (friendship, dating, marriage etc) always sees the two people involved trying to get to know each other better, after that we assume we know about the other person well and relax. This process of getting to know the other party can also be likened to getting familiar.
At first, both parties are usually extremely careful as A would not want to piss B off, we try to appear at our best, in short we act like we are walking on pins and stepping too much will hurt.
After a while, the uncertainty might or might not wear off and we switch back to our default settings ; the initial respect might be lost at this stage and what usually follows next is "I allowed you too close", "familiarity breeds contempt ", etc.
Well, I do not think familiarity breeds contempt, I think it is lack of boundaries that breeds contempt.
I like to draw boundaries, my best friend knows this. I do not assume that because she is my bestie, we can take each other for granted, no. When we fail to set and spell boundaries, we create unnecessary problems.
To avoid the contempt that sets in when you become too familiar, do not take things for granted, do not take liberty in the way you interact with people, do not stop being polite, avoid crude jokes and remember, always set boundaries. That way everyone stays happy.