One of the cliches I grew up listening to is "love is blind". I used to ponder in my young mind what it meant; in my child's mind, I used to wonder if love was a human being but was blind and since I did not have an elder sister to discuss my love thoughts with, I was content with my definition. Hiya lovelies!!
As I progressed into my adolescent age with my emotions running wild and my voracious appetite for books, I finally understood the "love is blind" line after my brief stint with Mills and Boons and Harlequin (I stopped reading romance novels because of the unrealistic things we were made to believe.
Many of us use the word love every other day, but I'd like for us to focus on romantic love as regards this post.
I know guys who love girls that are endowed but end up with flat chested ladies and when I'm like " guy, how far? they be like "I couldn't help it, love is blind". Now, don't get me wrong, it is not about the physical attraction for me but the truth is that when you know that the qualities you love in the opposite sex, your partner lacks say 99% and you stay in the name of love is blind, you will just end up frustrated and tempted to cheat!
I know I am petite and I have been screaming to high heavens that my man must be taller than me even if it is by few inches, so me agreeing to date a man who is shorter than me in the name of love is blind is a recipe for disaster.
In the name of love is blnd, a graduate marries an uneducated partner and in future when there is an office dinner or something of sort, the educated partner becomes ashamed of flaunting the better half for the fear of grammatical blunder, love is blind yeah? or a wealthy girl falls in love with a not too rich guy and later rubs it in his face how she foots the bills, or two people from the other side of the divide religious wise decide to start a family then after they say "I do" one person starts to make trouble about the religious difference, oh please!
It is perfectly normal to look at people we have feelings for through rose stained glasses but believe you me, it is no normal to create an ideal image of people because most times when we do that, they pretend to be what they are not so as to fit into the image we created. Now after creating this ideal image you created for yourself and you fall in love with this image you created for yourself instead of the personaity, who is to blame when reality check dawns?
Tue love is not blind, it recognizes faults, it does not ignore differences in social, tribal, educational or religious backgrounds but it seeks to find a way to manage these differences for the betterment of the relationship.