Monday, 2 March 2015


Hallo lovelies, Happy new month once again and hope today is turning out fine?  I've been extremely busy at work but I had to sneak and put this up.

For the next couple of weeks,  I'd be running a series on the negative and positive emotions as outlined by Napoleon Hill and I'd start with jealousy even though I would be lifting the post I did here.

The urban dictionary defines jealousy as "the feeling of being threatened by a rival in a romantic relationship or losing something of value to another person which happens to be yours already".
I know from my little experience on earth that jealousy is not only linked to a romantic relationship like the urban dictionary stated so I checked further.

Merriam Webster dictionary defines jealousy as "being intolerant of rivalry or unfaithfulness,  a hostile attitude towards a rival or one believed to enjoy an advantage".

Now, I'm very sure we all have experienced jealousy at some point in our lives, give or take but for the purpose of this post,  I'll like to categorise jealousy into three.

1. Jealousy in friendship.
Jealousy has the power to ruin a friendship if not kept in check.
I remember when I was in  University, I had this particular "friend"  who was consumed by the green eyed monster. If I bought a new dress,  she'll buy two, same with shoes,  etc. It seemed funny to me because she was in a rat race with herself and not me and I really felt bad for her but hey!! *shrugs*.

The truth is that y'all can bear witness to the fact that even the best of friends can get jealous of each other at times,  especially if they are both going after similar things in life.  I've been there and I'm sure you have too but the good news is that you have to realise that you are two separate individuals who will each make his or her own way even if you have the same goals im mind after all the sky is wide for all birds to fly,  and even the Bible said "I returned and saw under the sun that the race is not to the swift, nor the battle to the strong, neither yet bread to the wise or riches to men of understanding, nor favour to men of skill but time and chance happeneth to them all" Ecclesiastes 9 vs 12.

Allowing jealousy to seep too far into your mind and heart will only rob you of happiness and if you look at it,  most times when we feel jealous, self esteem is involved as poor self esteem is the chief cause of jealous, so instead of getting jealous of your friend's achievements, why not use it as an inspiration to having a better life?

 To be continued.


  1. FTC!!!!!!!!!!....**eyes everyone**

    1. Preach on Sister!!!....You know it seems like everywhere I turn these days...I hear the words 'Envy' or 'Jealousy'.....Mami...**pulls hair and grinds teeth** I can't relate to it mehn...Yes!!! I have encountered jealousy 2.0.....Mehnnnnn....I can't deal...Naaa...

    2. Hahaha Ernie is on fire today!!!
      I see you sister *mwah*

    3. Oya stop pulling you hair *bats eyelashes*
      Dearie I really admire your strength given all you've been through.
      Tell you what, I have too but it's more painful when it comes from people who have become family.

    4. **smacks ass** FTC!!!!!!!! **eyes everyone again and flicks Amaka's weave** hehe...mami...I missed mi big sis...what can I say?

    5. *eyes popping* erm Ernie has become a nudist *screaming*
      I missed you more I swear down!!

    6. Ernie!!!!!am taking you for a "run"...oya!

  2. Tibs Tibs Tibs how many times did I call your name? Hmmm.

    Mehn jealousy is like a consuming fire. God created me different, I just don't see the need to be envious or jealous of someone. Now it's blog envy I'm hearing anywhert I turn. Hmmm it is well.

    1. Hehehe lastma *tongue out*
      This blog envy ehn, how childish can people be?? Na to borrow Ernie bazooka dey wait for the blog envy people oh *straight face*

  3. One day we'll wake up n Tibs will be hairless

  4. Ghen ghen....Today is jealousy tinz

    Had a busy day menh. How are you dear?

  5. **eyes everyone** Some 'why evils' people here who are wishing for me to be hairless....My God will judge you lah!...**eyes Esther**..... lemme go scream FTC again... **drops towel and walks nude to the FTC position** lol