Thursday, 31 December 2015

My top 10 9ja jamz 2015

In few hours, we'll bid 2015 goodbye... The year that marked a turning point in our history as a nation. Well, so many events made the year memorable and one of such is the music, yes, Nigerian music has evolved from the highlife and apala to some afropop eccentric something.
Music is life, for me that is and I'd like for us to share our top 10 songs that was always on autorepeat... Here goes >>
10. Collabo by Psquare ft Donjazzy.

I love love the lyrics of collabo.. And the video?? I can watch it all day.

9. Duro by Tekno.
So I had to love this song when I travelled to the East in August and all the shops in Onitsha were blasting "baby kpalango". Very danceable song with a fusion of highlife.

8. Melo Melo by Olamide.

 I fell in love with this song when Dehinde performed it on pf8. As usual, Olamide didn't disappoint with his folk style song laced with proverbs.
7. Celebrate by Wizkid
Celebrate is the 15th song off Wizkid's sophomore album and it was produced by Shizzy. I love the lyrics, I love the beats, in fact it's been my ringing tone for over a month now.
6. Awww by Dija

 From the stables of Mavin records produced by Donjazzy comes this beautiful love song. Nice lyrics.

5. Sade by Adekunle Gold


 The beats sounds like one direction's story of my life but with afrobeat twist. Lovely song, lovely lyrics.

4. Orente by Adekunle Gold

 I  didn't know much about him till I came back from Sokoto. YBNL signee dropped this love song after Sade didn't say yes. This one is for the ladies.

3. Igbeyawo by Oritsefemi the international super star.


This track was produced by fliptice. Despite the baby mama and rape drama, our international super star musical taliban dropped this hit track sometimes in August. I'm sure this song was played in virtually every wedding that took place from August till the end of the year.

2. Ojuelegba by Wizkid.
From the Ayo album comes this club banger that rocked my phone this year. Produced by Legendury beatz with afrobeat undertone. I can listen to it everyday, all day.

1. Pray for me by Darey ft Soweto gospel choir.

This song is a mid tempo, Afro soul groove featuring the two time Grammy award winning Soweto gospel choir. This song has this folklike undertone, like someone telling a story, in this case Darey telling an inspiring story about you being who you want to be against all odds.

So what songs did you rock this year??





DAY 30

LOVE BRINGS UNITY

THE DARE
Isolate one area of division in your marriage and look on today as a fresh opportunity to pray about it. Ask the Lord to reveal anything in your own heart that is threatening oneness with your spouse. Pray that he will do the same for them.

Marriage according to the Bible is two people becoming one, now while it doesn't say you'll ditch your identity for your spouse's but you two should be United! I don't mean Manchester United oh, ehen, I mean there must be oneness of voice in every area of your marriage. It's not when your wife beats your child that the child will run to you for petting, no, scold the child on the spot too so they'll know they have no hiding place!  As married couples, you must eat from the same plate, sleep on the same bed among others. Remember, one will chase a thousand but two ten thousand.
Ever wondered why most of our organs come in pairs?? 

Wednesday, 30 December 2015

DAY 29

LOVE IS  MOTIVATION


THE DARE
Before seeing your spouse again today, pray for them by name and for their needs. Whether it comes easy for you, say "I love you"  then express love to them in some tangible way. Then thank God for giving you the privilege of loving this one special person unconditionally.
If you've followed from day 1,youd discover this dare is a potpourri of days 4, 6, 10,  16, and 27, so you see, some days are just a repetition of dares that you've taken earlier and you know when you're asked to repeat something, it's so you can be best at it.
Remember, you are your spouse's number one fan and cheerleader! 

Tuesday, 29 December 2015

Reflections

So it's few days to the end of 2015.. Wow, 2015. I remember when I was in primary school, 2015 seemed like some century to come  (man I'm getting young oh) and I have been reflecting a whole lot. I have so much to be grateful for even though I also have things to whine about but no I choose to be grateful. 

1. January: January this year went smoothly. From coming back to Sokoto from the Christmas break to the amazing moments I had as a presenter on RIMA FM (I miss those days) to the crazy lodge mates and quarrels..    Somehow in between, I fell ill I had to be admitted in UDUTH, series of test was run, the doctor even said I might be pregnant, and I'm like sheybi it's somebody that had sex that will be pregnant. The plan of the enemy was to kill themselves but my God neither sleeps nor slumbers.  The temperature was extra low and the cold was crazy but it made my skin glow. 
2. February: The month of love like they say. Funny enough I've never been valed *wipes lone tear* Nigeria was also agog with election fever and the election was postponed admist talks of break up and I was scared because Northern Nigeria is quite volatile. The electioneering activities took a violent turn up north with robbery on the increase and that's how my students robbed me around 8pm, yes I'm sure it was them and the drama that followed, my father in heaven!! I was traumatised for a very long while and even now, I feel apprehensive whenever I hear footsteps coming behind me.   
                  
3. March... Well, the election fever was high, I got served my first query at work and it was very funny. My employers were blowing hot and cold, they said they'll make sure I get an extension and I'm like go ahead. Well, I got posted to Illela on the fringes of Niger Republic for the election duties and the experience was something else. From those men disrespecting me, a whole presiding officer because I am female to me calling for armoured tankers to the whole APC tipping us... When it was time to collate and announce the result, I just confessed my aunt, crossed my self and started while using my side eye to look for the nearest escape route. My bag was slung across my chest and I wore my sandal slippers style. Well, we thank God APC won because the threats we were getting already!!               

 4. April. I spent my Easter in Sokoto but I made sure I attended all the stations of the cross.
The elections continued and by this time, the people of Illela already knew I was a no nonsense person so they comported themselves well. Life started returning back to Sokoto as many non indigenes already left to avoid post election violence. My CDS activities too helped to keep me busy since I was the advert manager 2.
5. May
 By May, I was already counting down to dropping my khaki. I also took a professional course in entrepreneurship and I became a certified Entrepreneur. It wasn't easy oh, considering the fact that this was different from the science calculations I've done all my life but as a sharp girl, I scaled through.
I also had the opportunity of being part of the OBS crew, it wasn't easy as we had to stay up late and wake up early to keep the engines running, in fact I broke down in June but was the experience worth it? Yes!

6. June
I love this picture so much!! My white tennis always sparkled in CDS.. Anyway that's off target. So this was my final month as a youth corps member, I started thinking of life after service and I did get a job in Sokoto but my mum raised dust and threatened to come and drag me home if I wasn't home by the 2nd  week of July so I had to forfeit it. It was quite emotional for me because passing out meant I had to become responsible for myself with no pocket money from anyone and I barely had more than 40k in my account because I paid my professional exams school fees myself plus I got a new phone and practically changed my wardrobe so I did a lot of thinking.. Well,June ended.

7. And July came.
 July is my favorite month of the year because it's my birth month. So I passed out and officially became a gold according to my former roomie. Everyday from July 1st till the day I left finally, I cried. I'm emotional yeah, but it was too much. From me never wanting to go to Sokoto initially to me never wanting to leave. As Lagos where I reside and Sokoto where I spent a year are two poles apart, I knew nothing would take me there in a loooooooooonnnnnnggggg while so I had to tidy all ends but I still feel nostalgic when I think about Sokoto. Someday maybe.
And I started working on the 17th or so,not something fancy but something that pays my bills including my new human hair madness.. I still sent my CVs out while hoping then something happened in August.

8. August

 So I was browsing this morning on Facebook when I got a notification I had a message. You see, I hardly chat on fb because all I get mostly are guys who are smitten, guys that can't even start a conversation but I replied him anyway. And I clicked on his profile and saw he was my senior in the University, I said hello and he was like so what am I doing now and I said I'm job hunting. He said he worked with xyz and asked if I was interested, I told him yes please and he asked for my particulars. I was on my way to work but I sent it to his mail. Later in the day I got a message from them that I scaled through stage one and I should bring a certificate of fitness plus my original credentials and photocopy. At this point, I told my mum. Meanwhile, dude started forming he was loving up and as a street girl, I just connected the dots but I said bae chill. At a point I had to simply ask him what will happen if I say no, will I still get the job and he was like he's not like that, blah blah blah. Akuko ifo!
I went for the medicals and the day I was to go and submit, he said they were having one seminar somewhere and lodged in one hotel, he wasn't around now but asked me if I wanted to go and drop the documents straight or I wanted to see him so we'll *talk* I told him I'll see him let's trash it out so I wore my pencil Jean and set out. I went straight to the hotel and he wasn't there, I collected the key and went to the room.
After like 40 minutes, he came and I showed him the documents, he said fine. At this point, he came to sit beside me but I made sure I locked the door myself and put the key in my handbag. He started skirting around the topic and I'm like dude, did you do this thing because you want to have sex with me?? I started giving it to him like an arrow and he was shocked. I told him, see this job is a federal government job, no be your papa be  federal government, the fact that your uncle is the chairman cttee on science and technology in house of reps means nothing to me. I started insulting the living day light out of him, I now told him that as I'm walking out, you can throw my credentials in the dustbin but he will suffer for this and his sister will be treated the same way. Ah, my head was hot oh!! I Seyon should give my body because of federal government job?? I flung it on him and left the place. I called him the next day to ask what's up with the job (I'm crazy like that) and he was talking gibberish. I blasted him again and ended the call.
I decided I wasn't going to tell my mum but after asking for too long, I opened up and I just told her if it's the wish of God I'll get the job, I'll get the job and I closed that chapter but then, I'm thinking, how about other girls that are gullible and even after offering their body don't get the job?

9. September
 I decided to go to my mum's place in Anambra  to cool off when I had a little break at work and choi, I ate oha for the first time on God knows when.. Nothing really happened this month aside work and all.

10. October

October was just like a snake passing on a rock jare. It was work, work and more work for me.
11. November

Well, at some point, I wanted to quit my job, I had so many things going on in my life, I was depressed, I lost a friend in October and throughout November, I wore a long face.

12. December

 Here we are, the last month of the year and it's only an ingrate that won't thank God. So you think you have a problem? Wait till you hear another person's story and you'll thank God for your life.

So that's it, that's how my year went, the highest point was when I passed out from service and the lowest was when t thought I was going to get a change of job but didn't, also when I lost my friend. I had the highs and lows and I also learnt lessons, valuable ones. First, I'm very hot tempered, my temper fit fry egg oh, but NYSC changed me. One of my roommate was practically a witch and I don't know where the spirit of calm and wisdom came from but upon all her frustration, it's only once when it was too much I exchanged words with her. Also, I learnt never to stick my neck out for people. Please, the only person you can vouch for is yourself, end of story! Maybe someday, I'll type the story but ah, anyway. I also learnt that this world is highly spiritual and that the kingdom of God suffers violence and the violent takes it by force. Also, any person in your life that isn't profiting you should be dropped like it's hot! No time for extra baggage, in fact if there is time, the time is not correct!   How did your year go?? 2016 is on the horizon, have you set your goals?? 

DAY 28

LOVE MAKES SACRIFICES

THE DARE
What is one of the greatest needs in your spouse's life right now? Purpose to do what you can to meet the need. 

Monday, 28 December 2015

DAY 27

LOVE ENCOURAGES
THE DARE
Eliminate the poison of unrealistic expectations in your home. Think of one area where your spouse has told you you are expecting too much and tell them you are sorry for being so hard on them about it. Promise them you'll seek to understand and assure them of your unconditional love.

The fact that most spouses are unrealistic with what their expectations are is one sore point in marriage.
Your wife has given you only girls so far and instead of you to praise her and encourage her for being a good mum, you're nagging her about her inability to give birth to a boy. Please, who produces the Y chromosome??
After working all day and trying to make sure food is ready on time, the encouragement she'll get from you is you insulting her that she is using tiredness to deprive you of sex. Where did this come from??
Woman, the fact that he can't afford to buy you a car now while your friend has several from her husband doesn't make your husband a bad person, instead encourage him, it will go a long way.
Take out time today and ask your spouse what area you've placed high expectations on them and tell them you are sorry. X

Sunday, 27 December 2015

DAY 26

LOVE IS RESPONSIBLE


THE DARE
Take time to pray through your areas of wrongdoing. Ask for God's forgiveness, then humble yourself to admit them to your spouse.

One of the things that kills us literally is the fact that most of us don't like to take responsibility for our actions or inactions. Take Nigeria for example, the immediate past president has comfortably become the scape goat but politics isn't our concern this morning.
Most of us either blame Mr Anonymous or our partner.. Really, it doesn't cost anything to accept responsibility and apologise promptly, if you're guilty, change today and if your spouse is guilty, don't nag them to death, instead carry them along in the love dare while praying for them.
Remember, the hallmark of maturity is the ability to accept responsibilities. 

Saturday, 26 December 2015

DAY 25

LOVE FORGIVES

THE DARE
Whatever you have not forgiven in your mate, forgive it today. Let it go. Unforgiveness has been keeping you and your spouse in prison too long. Say from your heart "I choose to forgive".

I said it in Day 19 when we looked at the fact that love is impossible that the next series of dare are impossible kind of but achievable with the help of God and this dare is one of them.
Before now when I was younger, I used to repay every slight in full, with good measure and pressing together, I mean, I must take my own pound of flesh but now that I am young, experience has taught me to always forgive unconditionally if not for anything at least not to hinder my prayers afterall God sent his Son to die for our sins.
Married folks, don't allow the sun to go down on your wrath, I've made up my mind that when I marry, I'll try all I can to resolve every issues before bed time and I think you should adopt the same principle.
Please in marriage, there are no unpardonable offences, even if he cheated on you with your sister, you know how funny events are. The worse you'll do is move out and remain bitter for the rest of your life while the chest will move on.
Not forgiving your mate is like locking yourself in prison because each time you see the offender, you'll feel this rage. Is that how you want to live your life?? Remember, love forgives and complete forgiveness means forgiving and forgetting, not bringing up the same issues later and using them as a reference point. 

Friday, 25 December 2015

Christmas

December 25th is the day we commemorate the birth of our Saviour and we thank God for making us see another Christmas in sound health.

Howdy dovies?? Enjoying the long holidays yeah? - well, this is an emotional Christmas for me as today makes it two months I lost my Friend, Temitope Lamina. I woke up on the low yesterday and I woke up crying today but I won't dampen your mood, just make sure you perform an act of kindness today in the spirit of the season.
Happy holidays. 

DAY 24

LOVE VS LUST


THE DARE
End it now. Remove every object of lust in your life. It must be killed and destroyed today and be replaced with the sure promises of God and a heart filled with his perfect love.


Thursday, 24 December 2015

DAY 23

LOVE ALWAYS PROTECTS

THE DARE
Remove anything that is hindering your relationship, any addiction or influence that is stealing your affections or turning your heart away from your spouse.

This though *sigh* please married couples, don't ever put your parents or siblings above your spouse, never . I saw with my very eyes how it tore my peeps apart and I've sworn that I'll avoid the same. Three is a crowd in any relationship, remember you swore to always love and protect your mate when you took your vows. 

Wednesday, 23 December 2015

DAY 22

LOVE IS FAITHFUL

THE DARE
Choose today to be committed to love even if your spouse has lost most of their interest in receiving it. Say to them today in words similar to these "I love you. Period. I choose to love you even if you don't love me in return".

Truly, this particular dare isn't easy, I mean is it easy to keep loving someone who doesn't love you back?? But then, remember the dare of day 19 which tells us that love is impossible, which is why we had to take out day 19 -  21 to talk to God to give us the grace to be able to proceed with the next set of dares which are a tad difficult but remember, we can do all things through Christ that strengthens us!! 

Tuesday, 22 December 2015

DAY 21

LOVE IS SATISFIED IN GOD

THE DARE
Be intentional today about making a time to pray and read your Bible. As you do, immerse yourself in the love and promises God has for you. This will add to your growth as you walk with him.
Remember that the entrance of his word gives light. Cheers. 

Monday, 21 December 2015

DAY 20

LOVE IS JESUS CHRIST

Wow, it's amazing we've gotten to half of the dare, we have twenty more dares to go and I'd like for us to do a recap so far before we consider today's dare.

  1. Day 1 told us that love is patient, have you demonstrated this to your spouse? 
  2. Day 2 was the fact that love is kind. What act of kindness have you demonstrated towards your spouse? 
  3. Day 3's dare was the fact that love is not selfish. Remember, you cannot be kind and selfish at the same time. 
  4. Day 4 considered the fact that love is thoughtful. You must make a conscious effort to always place your partner top of your list... A simple "I'm missing you" sms while they are at work won't be bad. 
  5. Day 5 told us that love isn't rude. Pretty simple innit? 
  6. Day 6 made us to understand love isn't irritable. Remember this is the person you'll wake up to for the rest of your life. 
  7. Day 7 told us that love believes the best.  Have you thanked your spouse for that positive character they have?? Remember, no negative energy. 
  8. Day 8 clearly spelt out the fact that love isn't jealous. Forget the demonstrating little jealousy to show you love me, jealousy is a negative emotion, you don't have to be jealous to prove love. There are better ways of doing so. 
  9. Day 9 made us to understand that love makes a good impression. Remember, the world's greatest asset is a smile. 
  10. Day 10 considered the fact that love is unconditional. Remember the vows you took. 
  11. Day 11 made us to understand that love cherishes. Pretty easy. 
  12. Day 12 told us that love lets others win. For love's sake, play the fool sometimes. 
  13. Love fights fair was the dare of day 13. Remember words are like eggs, once you break them, you can't fix them.
  14. Love takes delight was the dare of day 14. Once in a while, take a break from your favourite activity to be with your spouse. 
  15. Day 15 saw us through the fact that love is honourable. Always honour your spouse in a special way 
  16. Day 16's dare told us that love intercedes. When last did you go on your knees to pray for just your spouse?? 
  17. Day 17 told us that love is intimate. Intimacy doesn't always mean sex, never allow a third party into your home. Three is a crowd, remember?? 
  18. Love seeks to understand was what we considered in the dare of day 18. If the understanding you had of your spouse was that of a first degree, take it a step further to the MSc level. 
  19. Day 19 told us that love is impossible. Truly, looking at the dares above, by your strength, you can do nothing. Talk to Jesus and ask him for sufficient grace to follow up on the dares. 
And the dare for today. 

Dare to take God at his word, dare to trust Jesus Christ for salvation, dare to pray "Lord Jesus, I am a sinner but you have shown your love for me by dying to forgive my sins and you have proven your power to save me from death by your resurrection. Lord change my heart and save me by your grace". 

Sunday, 20 December 2015

DAY 19

LOVE IS IMPOSSIBLE


THE DARE
Look back over the dares from previous days. Were there some that seemed impossible to you? Have you realised your need for God to change your heart and to give you the ability to love? Ask him to show you where you stand with him and ask for the strength and grace to settle your eternal destination. 

Saturday, 19 December 2015

GRAMMAR 101

Still on cognates

  1. Quiet and quite: Quiet means without sound or mention of while quite means either completely or somewhat, rather, depending on what you mean. 
  2. Quote and quotation: Quote is a verb meaning to state the exact word someone else said while a quotation is the actual statement being quoted. 
  3. Rain, reign, rein: Rain is the water that falls from the sky, reign is the rule of a king or Queen, a rein (usually reins) are the straps of leather used to control and guide a horse. 
  4. Raise, raze: Raise means to build or grow, raze is to destroy. 
  5. Reality, realty: Reality means the perceived world as it is, the true situation, realty is land or real estate. 
  6. Rebate, refund: A Rebate is a discount from the manufacturer to the customer after a purchase has been made while a refund is full payment to a dissatisfied customer. 
  7. Regime, regiment: Regime is a systematic plan, regiment is a troop of soldiers. 
  8. Restive, restful : Restive means impatient, nervous and restless. Restful means full of rest, calm, quiet and restorative. 
  9. Rifle, riffle: Rifle means to search with the intention of stealing or taking while to riffle means to shuffle or flip quickly through papers. 
  10. Rise, raise: Rise is intransitive and does not have an object. Raise always has an object. 
  11. Role, roll: A role is a part in a play or a movie while roll is a verb meaning to turn over and over. 
  12. Retch and wretch: To retch is to try and vomit while a wretch is a miserable or wicked person.

DAY 18

LOVE SEEKS TO UNDERSTAND
THE DARE
Prepare a special dinner at home, just for the two of you. The dinner can be as nice as you prefer. Focus this time on getting to know your spouse better, perhaps in areas you rarely talked about. Determine to make it an enjoyable evening for you and your mate.

This is pretty self explanatory but while setting the dinner, add scented candles for that special twist.. Candle lit dinner they call it.
Guys you love Arsenal yeah? And you know how you tune in to super sports to catch up on happenings with them?? Ladies you love make up but you know how many hours you spend on YouTube trying to master your skills?? How then do you neglect your spouse?? Do you know what your mate's dreams, hopes, aspirations, fears and so on are??
Remember, if you don't understand someone  there'll always be conflict and marriage is one school we never graduate from! 

Friday, 18 December 2015

DAY 17

LOVE PROMOTES INTIMACY

THE DARE
Determine to guard your mate's secrets (unless they are dangerous to them or you) and to pray for them. Talk with your spouse and resolve to demonstrate love in spite of these issues. Really listen to to them when they share personal thoughts and struggles with you. Make them feel safe.

Truly, it baffles me when people reveal their spouse's secrets, I mean I trust you enough not to spill one and I trusted you enough to say yes to spending the rest of my life with you  that's why I'm telling you my life issues, why then would you want to tell a third party who would most times make a mockery of us??
Intimacy isn't always about sex, it also has to do with knowing I have a rock in my mate and not judging them based on their issues. 

Thursday, 17 December 2015

DAY 16

LOVE INTERCEDES

THE DARE
Begin praying today for your spouse's heart.

If there's anything I've learnt within my little sojourn on earth, it's the fact that prayer changes  things.. In marriage, the truth is the bulk of prayer comes from the wife. I know you pray every morning but dedicate one day to pray for your spouse, do not mention a word about what you want but soak your spouse in the blood, pray for their heart etc. Remember, the kingdom of heaven suffers violence and only the violent take it by force.

PS I'm sorry about not bringing yesterday's dare. I was very busy at work but I typed and clicked publish, only for me to see today that it saved in my draft. I'm sorry. 

Day 15

LOVE IS HONOURABLE

THE DARE
Choose a way to honour and respect your spouse that is above your normal routine. Show your spouse that he or she is highly esteemed in your eyes.

It you love someone, you'll honour the person, it's not something you learn, it flows naturally. To honour is to respect and it's not when you answer sir or when you greet me that you're respecting me, no, it goes beyond that.
You have to show love and honour in a way that your spouse will be wowed.. Think of the little gestures that says 'I love you' and start from there. X

Tuesday, 15 December 2015

The 12 days of Christmas

Hiya doing?? It's how many days to Christmas now? 10 yeah? I'm still not smelling Christmas oh, the last time I tried to smell, I smelt flu and malaria ;-)
Anyways, you know that song we sang while growing up... One the first day of Christmas... How many of us can chant it without making mistakes?? Not to worry, I've dug out the lyrics and symbolic meaning of the song too.

HISTORY 
The twelve days of Christmas is a cumulative song, ie each verse is built on top of the previous verses. There are twelve verses, each describing a gift given by "my true love" on one of the twelve days of Christmas. It was published in England circa 1780.

The religious symbolism of the twelve days of Christmas. 

1 true love refers to God.
2 turtle doves refers to the old and new testaments.
3 French hens refers to faith, hope and charity, the theological values.
4 calling birds refers to the 4 gospels {Matthew, Mark, Luke and John}.
5 golden rings refers to the first five books of the old testaments, which gives the history of man's fall from grace {Genesis, Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers and Deuteronomy}.
6 geese a laying refers to the six days of creation.
7 swans a swimming refers to the seven gifts of the Holy Spirit, the Holy Sacrament.
8 maids a milking refers to the eight beatitudes.
9 ladies dancing refers to the nine fruits of the Holy Spirit.
10 Lords a leaping refers to the ten commandments.
11 pipers piping refers to the eleven faithful apostles.
12 drummers drumming refers to the twelve points of doctrine in the Apostle's creed.

The lyrics. 

One the first day of Christmas
My true love sent to me
A partridge in a pear tree

One the second day of Christmas
My true love sent to me
Two turtle doves
And a partridge in a pear tree

On the third day of Christmas
My true love sent to me
Three French hen
Two turtle doves
And a partridge in a pear tree

On the fourth day of Christmas
My true love sent to me
Four calling birds
Three French hen
Two turtle doves
And a partridge in a pear tree

On the fifth day of Christmas
My true love sent to me
Five golden rings
Four calling birds
Three French hen
Two turtle doves
And a partridge in a pear tree

On the sixth day of Christmas
My true love sent to me
Six geese a laying
Five golden rings
Four calling birds
Three French hen
Two turtle doves
And a partridge in a pear tree

On the seventh day of Christmas
My true love sent to me
Seven swans a swimming
Six geese a laying
Five golden rings
Four calling birds
Three French hen
Two turtle doves
And a partridge in a pear tree

On the eighth day of Christmas
My true love sent to me
Eight maids a milking
Seven swans a swimming
Six geese a laying
Five golden rings
Four calling birds
Three French hen
Two turtle doves
And a partridge in a pear tree

On the ninth day of Christmas
My true love sent to me
Nine ladies dancing
Eight maids a milking
Seven swans a swimming
Six geese a laying
Five golden rings
Four calling birds
Three French hen
Two turtle doves
And a partridge in a pear tree

On the tenth day of Christmas
My true love sent to me
Ten Lords a leaping
Nine ladies dancing
Eight maids a milking
Seven swans a swimming
Six geese a laying
Five golden rings
Four calling birds
Three French hen
Two turtle doves
And a partridge in a pear tree

On the eleventh day of Christmas
My true love sent to me
Eleven pipers piping
Ten Lords a leaping
Nine ladies dancing
Eight maids a milking
Seven swans a swimming
Six geese a laying
Five golden rings
Four calling birds
Three French hen
Two turtle doves
And a partridge in a pear tree

On the twelfth day of Christmas
My true love sent to me
Twelve drummers drumming
Eleven pipers piping
Ten Lords a leaping
Nine ladies dancing
Eight maids a milking
Seven swans a swimming
Six geese a laying
five golden rings
Four calling birds
Three French hen
Two turtle doves
And a partridge in a pear tree

Additional information and images from Wikipedia
...... And in other news, lemme officially introduce you to Deb. The first call she made to me, she pranked me!! I'll do my own back oh.. So Deb is multitalented, she makes beads, she is a make up artiste, a blogger, I'm sure she bakes and sews too *bats eyelashes*.. In fact just click on her name to go to her blog. Gracias.

Day 14

LOVE TAKES DELIGHT
THE DARE
Purposely neglect an activity you would normally do so you can spend quality time with your spouse(we have different love languages, post coming up soon). Do something he or she would love to do or a project they'd really like to work on, just to be together.

I'm not married yet but I love cooking and funny enough, I don't like people assisting me because I believe they'll ruin things for me but hey, I appreciate it if once in a while, my younger ones make an effort, at least to do the dishes and clean up while I'm cooking. Husbands, helping your wives to eat the fish or meat or dodo doesn't count oh!but helping her or even staying with her while she's cooking will cement the bond as it's an avenue to spend time.
Husbands, must you watch all the matches?? How about you forfeit one Saturday, send the kids over to the grandparents and have the weekend to yourselves?? Who said dating only ends when she says yes?? Going on dates twice a month is a good way to spice up your marriage. You don't have to wait till you go to Dubai to spice things up, get a few scented candles, have a florist deliver fresh flowers to her at work on Friday and pick it up from there (maybe I think too much with my imaginations, lol).
Husbands, how about you follow her to the market instead of going to hang out with the boys?? Yes, today I'm tackling the men oh. Lemme stop here ;-)

PS The essence of me attaching pictures is for easy remembrance, but you can download them, compile and send to your husband's email. 

Monday, 14 December 2015

Day 13

LOVE FIGHTS FAIR

THE DARE
Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement. Resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.

Funny as it might sound, you and your spouse should have healthy rules of engagement, rules that should be followed to the latter should a disagreement occur, for example, it should be written and put in a corner of the room that nobody raises his hands to hit another, or your kids must never see you argue, or apology must be tendered before the day runs out no matter how tense the situation is, or your matter will never get to the ears of a third party and so on. These are rules that points to the fact that love fights fair. 

Sunday, 13 December 2015

Day 12

LOVE LETS OTHERS WIN

THE DARE
Demonstrate love by willingly choosing to give in to an area of disagreement between you and your spouse. Tell them you're putting their preference first.
Now this is particularly for the men, the husbands.. Naturally, women/wives won't take no for an answer especially in an argument or when they want to have their way. So long it's not life threatening  once you air your view and she disagrees, agree to what she wants and let her have her way, not because she is right but because love lets others win... Wives, this is not a license to always have your way, once in a while, you should bend too. 

Saturday, 12 December 2015

Grammar 101


  1. Pamper, pander: To pamper is to treat with indulgence while to pander is to cater to the basic needs of others. 
  2. Passed, past: Passed is the past tense of pass, it also means to go ahead of, while past is a place in time that was before now. 
  3. Pasture, Pastor: A pasture is a place where farm animals graze while a pastor is a member of the clergy. 
  4. Patience, patients: patience is the ability to remain calm even when dealing with something or someone difficult while patients are people who are sick in a hospital. 
  5. Peace, piece: Peace is a sense of calm and absence of war or hostility while a piece is a part or segment of something. 
  6. Peek, peak and pique: To peek is to look quickly without someone knowing, a peak is the highest point of something while to pique is to arouse or provoke. 
  7. Peer, pier: To peer is to squint and gaze strongly at,  a peer is an equal and a pier is a walkway that juts into a body of water for docking. 
  8. Penultimate, ultimate: Penultimate means last but one while ultimate is the last or best. 
  9. Perspective, prospective: A perspective is a view from a certain place or position or a mental outlook while prospective is an adjective that means possible or likely to happen. 
  10. Plain, plane: Plain means simple, not showy or a large level region while a plane is a flat and level surface, a new level or an airplane. 
  11. Premise, premises: A premise usually means assumption while premises are a house, building and the grounds around it. 

Day 11

LOVE CHERISHES

THE DARE 
Choose a gesture that says "I cherish you" and do it with a smile. 

Friday, 11 December 2015

Day 10

Love is unconditional
THE DARE
Do something out of the ordinary today for your spouse. Something that proves (to you and them) that your love is based on your choice and nothing else. Demonstrate love to them for the sheer joy of being their partner in marriage.

When last did you help your wife wash her car?? When last did you help your husband take his car to the car wash?? When last did you fill your spouse's fuel tank with your own money?? When last did you give your wife or husband back rub?? How about your wife coming home to a candle lite dinner courtesy of you??
Remember the vows you took.. To hold and cherish, for better for worse.... Love is unconditional. 

How many Gods do we have??

Thank God it's Friday!! Today is my favourite day of the week.. I'm super, duper excited because I'll get to rest well.. Been under the weather but I decided not to bore the world with my sick tales but if you're reading this, kindly say a prayer for me.. I'm tired of falling ill every now and then, pray for me, 2016 must be different, no pills whatsoever for me (Amen).

So I'll be a little bit controversial today, I'll be talking religion, I'll be talking about God, now don't quote me wrong, I love God and my faith, neither am I doubting my faith, no.
I grew up in an extremely religious setting but I've always had questions on my mind and when I ask, mostly I'm told to shut up. I've accepted some mysteries but please, I need someone to answer this.

These days I hear different prayer patterns, OK, we pray to God yeah?? See, I love Tope Alabi so much, in fact my younger ones call me her church member. My yoruba isn't really strong but I hear "Olorun Ajanaku" a lot in her songs and in my naivety, I used to think it was one of God's praise name until I asked someone and he said it was her prophet's name. In that same vein, I hear "Olorun Anglican/ Oyedepo/ Adeboye" etc... And I wonder if there are different Gods for different churches abi don't we all worship the same God??

Please that's what is troubling my young mind.. I don't mean to insult and denomination or pastor, I just need answers.

Enjoy the rest of your week lovelies.

PS
Olorun means God in Yoruba
Prophet Ajanaku was Tope Alabi's spiritual father/ pastor
Tope Alabi is a Nigerian gospel artiste

Thursday, 10 December 2015

Day 9

Love makes a good impression

THE DARE

Think of a specific way you'd like to greet your spouse today. Do it with a smile and with enthusiasm. Then determine to change your greeting to reflect your love for them.

Ladies, how do you welcome your spouse from work not minding the fact that you are tired?? With a frown?? With wrapper tied around your waist while smelling all sweaty??
Husbands, how do you tell your wife thank you for taking her time to cook and tidy the house?? By telling her the food is tasteless or by yelling at her that she is slow??
How do you greet your spouse when you wake up?? Remember, love makes a good impression. 

Wednesday, 9 December 2015

One for the road


DAY 8

Love is not jealous

THE DARE
Determine to be your spouse's biggest fan and to reject any thoughts of jealousy. To help you set your heart on your spouse and focus on their achievements, take yesterday's list of negative attributes and discreetly burn it. Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he or she recently enjoyed.