Thursday, 17 March 2016

STAGE FIVE: LOOKING AT THE FUTURE TOGETHER



42. Both of you at some point will question your ability to be faithful forever. Keep it to yourself and don't take it personally if he's having the same doubts.
43. If you wonder whether you're settling, ask yourself, am I spending so much time saving this relationship that I've neglected the goals I had before we met? If I walked away right now, could I live with losing him? If you answer no, stick with it and re-value in six months.
44. Love doesn't conquer all. Some incompatibilities just won't go away, no matter how much you care.
45. Don't compare your relationship to other people's. Every couple - even the perfect looking ones has problems.
46. Innocent jealousy keeps things spicy.
47. Get real about sex.
48. If you do slip up and cheat, think very hard before you confess. Sometimes coming clean does more harm than good.
49. Life is long. If the timing just isn't right now, take a break. It doesn't mean you won't be together at some point.
50. Life is also short. Make a point to laugh your asses off regularly. The rest will take care of itself.
..... And that's it guys. Hope you enjoyed the relationship tips and hope they'll come handy ;-)

Tuesday, 15 March 2016

STAGE 4: CRUISING INTO THE COMFORT ZONE



29. One habit all happy couple share: doing fun things together. Competitive games have a  strong effect because they raise adrenaline, which helps you bond.
30. Don't let him see you peeing, plucking your eyebrow, or doing an at-home bikini wax. You can be "real" in ways that don't chip away at romance.
31. Keep some secrets to preserve mystery.
32. Jump on him instead of next to him on the couch. Being sexy and playful takes effort, but its the glue that keeps couples together.
33. Don't forget to kiss.
34. .............And hug too. Guys have less oxytocin, the brain's bonding chemical than women do, but it can be oosted with frequent touch.
35. If your body has changed since you met, good God, don't point it out! Men rarely notice details like cellulite and sag gage.
36. Balance out each negative interaction with five positive actions.
37. Don't succumb to pity sex when you're not feeling it.
38. Get past a sex slump by isolating yourselves with no distraction and one agenda : sex!
39. Space is healthy and no one person can be responsible for your happiness.
40. Be unpredictable. Guys want variety but they don't require it from other girls.
41. Always thank him for little stuff. Appreciation keeps the good deeds coming.

Saturday, 12 March 2016

STAGE THREE: HITTING THE FIRST ROUGH PATCH



20. Develop binocular vision: the ability to see his perspective plus your own. Try to appreciate his point of view and he'll be more likely to appreciate yours.
21. Couch on a complaint between compliments: "you're a great schmooser, but I'd like a call if you'll miss dinner because of client drinks. I love our evening time together, and I want to know when it will start."
22. Get him to act by using humour. Point out a pile of wet towels by joking "nothing like coming home to the sweet smell of mildew."
23. Know this: over time, a guy's attitudes, opinions, beliefs, politics and views towards money could be fluid. What probably won't change: his values, stance on onogamy and religious beliefs.
24. Speak about your specifics - birthday presents you'd like, a restaurant you want to go to. Men don't pick up on subtle clues.
25. If you find out something bad about his past, like he cheated on an ex, ask why he did it and what he learned. If he is contrite and has vowed to chhange, chances are, he won't do it again.
26. When he seems overwhelmed during an arguement, take a 20- minute breal. Mens bodies easily flood with stress hormones, triggering an instinct to fell.
27. Watch your mouth in moments of anger. Cruel or contemptuous comments are oftenforgiven but not forgotten.
28. Don't criticise his attempts to say sorry. Men apologise through activity, so although you may not hear the word, you'll see it when he takes you to dinner or gives you a massage after a fight.

Thursday, 10 March 2016

STAGE TWO: GOING ON TO THE NEXT LEVEL



10. He is not your boyfriend until he calls you his girlfriend or agrees to be exclusive. End of story.
11. When you have a problem with his lifestyle, speak up before you get really angry. If you don't tell him that his partying bugs you, you'll Eventually explode on him - not a smart communication technique.
12. Let him be the first to say the L Word. Men generally need more time to process emotions and voice them. Hearing it could make him feel cornered.
13. If you need a define this relationship talk, initiate it while walking with your guy. Low-key activity lowers his stress hormone levels, which rise when he's forced to chat about his emotions.
14. Hang out with happy couples he knows and thinks are cool. When he sees commitment as a fun thing, he'll become more comfortable with it.
15. If you think you want to marry a guy, wait to move in until you're engaged. Otherwise, he'll feel less incentive to take the next step.
16. Shacking up while you're engaged is a smart move. Cohabiting presents a host of challanged that are best handled prior to marriage. (I don't agree though).
17. Deliver an ultimatum to get a commitment only if you're prepared to walk away. Be firm about expectations and give him a deadline.
18. You cannot force a guy to cut ties with his past.....but explain why his hanging out with an ex or a cokehead friend hurts you. If he really cares, he'll respect your wishes or tell you why he needs continued contact.
19. Cut your guy some slack if he promises you'll be engaged once he reaches a goal, like finishing grad shool. But give him only nine months, after that to make good on his word.

Monday, 7 March 2016

Relationship tips

This post is so long am not sure I can post everything today.  I got the tips from Cosmopolitan and it's  worth your time *winks*

Falling in love? Easy. Staying in love? Not always so easy. Which is why you need this crash course in romance reality.
Now, cosmo outlined five major love stages, each with its share of speed bumps, and supplied keys to navigating them - 50 in all. Because, hey, even if you're not exactly sure where you're going together, shouldn't you at least enjoy the trip?

Stage one
Falling in lust
1. Don't sleep with a guy on the first date if you want the best shot at some kind of future with him. Yes, plenty of relationships do start that way, but you risk being put into the one time filing category.
2. Never pretend to be into a guy's hobbies. Your true colours will come out.
3. When a guy tells you he isn't looking for a commitment, repeat to to a friend or write it down. That forces you to accept that he means it........and he does.
4. Enjoy the moment when you're on dates. That means no discussing the future with him or worrying is he the one? By date four. For the first month or so, your only job is to have fun.
5. Focus on your own pleasure in bed. If you're too busy showing off your skills, you'll forget to enjoy yourself (and rob him of the pleasure of driving you wild).
6. Listen to what his friends and family say about him. Offhand comments ("he was never a one woman guy before meeting you") are some of the best tip-offs to the real him. So pay attention!
7. Sit or stand side by side with your man while doing things together whenever possible. Men typically feel moe relaxed and intimately connected in this position that when you're directly facing each other.
8. Spend equal - if not more - time with your friends in the first few months of dating. Guys often rush into a relationship, then suddenly cry, "this is moving too fast" you have to accept the brakes.
9. Keep your options open for at least three months before deciding to be exclusive. You need a minimum of 90 days to even begin to know what someone is really like.

Saturday, 5 March 2016

GRAMMAR 101

Hiya dovies.... Today we would consider "synonyms". What is a synonym? A synonym is a word that is nearest in meaning to another word ie it can replace a word in a sentence without changing the meaning of the statement. 











And that's it for today. Materials belong to American English at state. 

Thursday, 3 March 2016

Little eyes upon you

There are little eyes upon upon you
And they are watching night and day

There are little ears that quickly
Take in every word you say

There are little hands all eager
To do anything you do

And a little boy who is dreaming
Of the day he'll be like you
You're the wisest of the wise
In his little mind
About you, no suspision ever arises
He believes in you devoutly
Holds all that you say and do
He will say and do in your way
When he's grown up like you

There's a wide eyed little fellow
Who believes you're always right
And his eyes are always opened
And he watches night and day

You're setting an example
Everyday in all you do
For the little boy who's waiting
To grow up to be like you

Lovelies, believe me, you are someone's idol, someone's role model, there is someone in whose eyes you can never go wrong. One of the most frightening moment of my life was when some kids were like "aunty, we love you, when we grow up we want to be like you" tears welled up in my eyes immediately, I went weak in the knees, my palms started sweating, my heart was racing faster than Usain Bolt, conflicting thoughts started arising within me. I sat down slowly and started to xray my life, I asked myself if I was worthy of being a role model with my short fuse temper. That was a major turning point in my life. I just had to try to be the perfect girl because trust kids to take in everything we do quick!
The way it happened to me, am sure it is the same for everyone of us. Let's  try to be the best in everything we do, remember, a person of character meets the demands of duty, is accountable, pursues excellence and exercises self control.

Wednesday, 2 March 2016

Goodbye...

Mid 2014, series of events happened that altered the course of my life... It was the defining moment of my life and one of such was the final events in the course of my first degree that was going to be my launch pad into the real world.

I relocated to Sokoto, Northern Nigeria and I remember the thoughts that were clashing and colliding in my mind as I was boarding the plane. I got there, enjoyed my 21 days on camp and on the last day when we were to get posted, my heart was in my mouth, I was shaking like a tender leaf being pounded by the rains... I prayed not to be taken to some remote village where the only means of transportation will be camels and with no electricity and pipe borne water and yes, my Chi heard my prayers and I was posted to town.

I made enquiries and was told it was in the heart of the city centre and my joy knew mo bound... I didn't report to my duty post as I was holed up in a hotel where I got my first baptism of fire in my newly adopted state; I was robbed while I was fast asleep. Well, the next day, I proceeded to my new station and was well received.. I was assigned to the junior section even though I wanted to teach biology in the senior section. I wanted math in the junior and I was told they had enough math teachers so I gladly accepted my basic technology.


I met the principal in October 2014 after I resumed fully from my leave.. Very fine gentleman he was, so concerned about our welfare, he even took a special interest in me and called me 'baby' till I passed out.
In January 2015, I fell ill and went to UDUTH, I was given series of drugs which I took religiously, but I noticed each time I took a particular one, I'd start feeling faint but I dismissed it until in early February when I took it and was trying to stand up, the next thing I knew was I was seeing darkness; I blanked out. When I came to, I found myself in the waiting room of UDUTH again with Mr Usman Sokoto saying "baby, you're awake now". My roommate said I fainted and immediately they dialled his number, he came to pick me up. After waiting for a long time, the doctor ran the tests, placed me on drip etc and I didn't pay a dime courtesy of my principal.
With delayed allowances and all, I was never broke for once because if him.. I mean, it wasn't just me, he was nice to all of us serving in Sultan Abubakar college, Sokoto.
Yes, we had our rough times but I remember all the fatherly advise you always gave me and how you saw to it that we enjoyed our stay in SAC.
Yesterday, I got the rude shocker that you've passed on.. What?? I couldn't believe it but Alas, I called and my greatest fear was confirmed.. I'd never see you again.. All I'm left with is fragments of memories...
I really do not know what to type but I pray the Almighty gives us the fortitude to bear this great loss.
Goodbye Mr Usman Mohammed Sokoto. 

Tuesday, 1 March 2016

Lyrics of the day

ARTISTE: ELLIE GOULDING
TITLE: LOVE ME LIKE YOU DO

You're the light
You're the night
You're the colour of my blood
You're the cure, you're the pain
You're the only thing I wanna touch
Never knew that it could mean so much, so much

You're the fear, I don't care
Cause I've never been so high
Follow me to the dark
Let me take you past our satellites
You can see the world you brought to life, to life

So love me like you do, love me like you do
Love me like you do, and love me like you do
Touch me like you do, and touch me like you do
What are you waiting for

Fading in, Fading out
On the edge of paradise
Every inch of your skin is holy grail
I've got to find
Only you can set my heart on fire, on fire

Yeah, I'll let you set the pace
Cause I'm not thinking straight
My head spinning around I can't see clear no more
What are you waiting for

So love me like you do, love me like you do
Love me like you do, and love me like you do
Touch me like you do, and touch me like you do
What are you waiting for

Yeah, I'll let you set the pace
Cause I'm not thinking straight
My head spinning around I can't see clear no more
What are you waiting for

So love me like you do, love me like you do
Love me like you do, and love me like you do
Touch me like you do, and touch me like you do
What are you waiting for